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Suleiman -> RE: can you train a submissive/slave to be a pain slut? (9/29/2004 1:21:22 AM)
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Hmmm... Didn't Pavlov teach his dog to cum at the sound of a bell?...
Some people are born with slightly out-of-whack chemistry that makes pain a more enjoyable experience for them, or simply gives them a higher tolerance for pain than others (thus requiring a greater degree of punishment to get the same effect). Others learn to associate pain with sexuality, and thus find it arousing/exciting. Because it is and can be learned, it is possible to follow a program of conditioning that builds a strong association between pain and sexual release, or emotional catharsis, or any number of other things that form the general condition of "pain slut".
I once spent a summer trying to build an associative reflex in my wife between green tea icecream and orgasm. It's not a strong enough conditioned response to make her orgasm at the taste of it, but at least when we go out for sushi and she orders the ice cream for dessert, I know what she has in mind for later.
If the sub wants to become a "pain slut", of course, the conditioning process is much easier. If the sub is resistant to the idea, no training regimen in the world will work (well, okay, without going into scary levels of brain washing, but that goes way outside the bounds of SSC in my book). For some folks, it will never click. My wife has been trying to work on her pain limits for ten years now, still can't do it. She'll cry safeword before her rear end is red. If thats the case, its best to move on to some other kind of fun and games.
Obviously from my stated lack of success, I can not really offer you a training regimen to work with, other than to suggest that, if this is a goal that sub and dom/me have agreed upon, then the occasional "edge play" scene where the top tries to build up the level of intensity in the scene until the sub does feel the need to cry safeword (with the sub understanding that they need to try with all their might to hold out for just a little bit longer), with some reward for the sub for successfully going past a certian number of clothespins or cane strokes (or whatever). Coaxing the sub into an orgasm during or immediately after a whipping or some other intense sensation play will also build up the right associations in the submissive's mind. Combined with a regimen of enforced chastity and teasing (bringing the submissive to the edge of orgasm but denying them full release) between training scenes will increase the intensity of the orgasm during the pain training, which will of course register as a stronger association between orgasm and pain. Obviously, much like any other form of pavlovian conditioning, this will require a great deal of patience on the dominant's part, a great deal of trust and willingness on the sub's part, and a long time. If pain is seriously a kink for the dom/me, and the sub is really wanting to fulfil their owner's every desire, then it is time and effort well spent, but this does represent a serious investment on the part of both parties.
Just my thoughts on the subject.
~S
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