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RE: Laced up - 10/23/2010 9:58:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I personally don't see the harm in the piercings even if it's just with someone you haven't been long term with. They're bod mods and just piercings. If ya don't like them you just take them out. No big deal imo.

The problem I have is his reason....keeping her from fucking around and if his relationship has gotten to that point then he has waaaayyyy bigger problems than this.


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RE: Laced up - 10/23/2010 10:13:56 PM   
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Why can't he think about it before getting into it? Isn't it better for someone to realize how realistic their more out-there desires are before they start wanting to inflict them on another person?


Probably. I'm not into body mods, so it's not really fair of me to make a judgment call beyond what I've already done. It's just that if I were to post a thread about being kidnapped, chained to a bed in a basement, drugged continuously so I couldn't even think how to escape and used endlessly as a total sex object, I bet someone would tell me that my fantasy was perhaps something better kept a fantasy, due to the realities of life. I kind of feel the same about the OP's fantasy. There are a lot of life realities that seem like they would be in the way of this particular body mod, even if someone was really into the idea and wanted to do it with him.

But like I said, not my kink. So I apologize if I'm being close-minded. Can't really help it on this one

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RE: Laced up - 10/23/2010 10:14:33 PM   
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The problem I have is his reason....keeping her from fucking around and if his relationship has gotten to that point then he has waaaayyyy bigger problems than this.




My issue with this is that we don't know if it's kink or if he honestly concerned about it.

Any piercing gauge that a piercer will do can be snipped with bolt cutters or, maybe at the heavy duty gauges a hacksaw. Seriously, the idea of not being able to fuck anyone else is the same idea behind a chastity belt. Just adapted for body mods. Like I said, if the issue is trust, none of this is going to work. If it's kink - it can be done.


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RE: Laced up - 10/23/2010 10:17:51 PM   
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Why can't he think about it before getting into it? Isn't it better for someone to realize how realistic their more out-there desires are before they start wanting to inflict them on another person?


Probably. I'm not into body mods, so it's not really fair of me to make a judgment call beyond what I've already done. It's just that if I were to post a thread about being kidnapped, chained to a bed in a basement, drugged continuously so I couldn't even think how to escape and used endlessly as a total sex object, I bet someone would tell me that my fantasy was perhaps something better kept a fantasy, due to the realities of life. I kind of feel the same about the OP's fantasy. There are a lot of life realities that seem like they would be in the way of this particular body mod, even if someone was really into the idea and wanted to do it with him.

But like I said, not my kink. So I apologize if I'm being close-minded. Can't really help it on this one


I really don't see the comparison. The OP made a grand total of two posts. Neither said he was planning on doing the piercings himself and even mentioned materials (surgical steel and silver) that are commonly 'safe'. IMHO, he's looking for info. Might be a fantasy player. Might not be.

And honestly, I don't see how this is something best kept a fantasy. Like I said... labia piercings and lip piercings are common. So things might need to be changed. That doesn't mean it's best left to fantasy.


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RE: Laced up - 10/23/2010 11:41:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is also not my kink, but I've met women who'd get off on the idea of being body-modified by their man. Of having a man who can and would do something like that just to keep control of them. The idea of it at least, if not the reality. And I've met other women - and men - who have done much more extreme things to themselves. To each their own.


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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 2:11:24 AM   
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Not just fantasy at all. 3 piercings in the labia held together with a gold padlock in each. It has nothing to do with lack of trust and all to do with his control. Seriously if I wanted to they could be cut off at any time but that is not the point. It is more a symbol of his control.

I do agree with the "poop and pee" aspect though. Very silly idea to try and control that in the way the op has asked about. Nothing wrong with the asking permission to go and waiting until you are allowed route in my opinion.

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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 3:34:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		im finding it hard to visualise this.  how will she walk or even be able to move her legs at all if her bum is attached to her cunt lips - she'll be tugging on the attachments the whole time - one of them would tear surely (OUCH)! at the very least her movements will be heavily restricted.

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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 3:37:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I personally don't see the harm in the piercings even if it's just with someone you haven't been long term with. They're bod mods and just piercings. If ya don't like them you just take them out. No big deal imo.

The problem I have is his reason....keeping her from fucking around and if his relationship has gotten to that point then he has waaaayyyy bigger problems than this.




i dunno,   i think its a fetishy thing rather than a trust thing - he just likes the idea of it.

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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 7:02:06 AM   
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I was thinking. How would it be to put rings in a slaves labia. After she was healed up, she would only wear them at night (put in by the master) to keep the holes open. Surgical steel.

Similar rings near where her butt cheeks touch. Similar rings near where her lips touch.

Then, after everythings healed and healthy, she can be laced up whenever the master doesn't want her to fuck or suck anyone. Or eat, pee or poop!

One needs to think about a light, slim locking mechanism. Silver solder? With really good heat sinks?

Has anyone tried this, or thought about it?


Regards,

Abraham



Just as a point of information, labial piercings can take up to a YEAR to fully heal -- that has to be taken into consideration as they'll need to be kept properly cleaned and have jewelry in through the entirety of the healing process. Labial piercings are not unusual, though, and I've done several myself, including some locked with "jewelry locks" (I have a particular fetish for this kind of body modification, and have been fortunate to have some servants and play partners who shared the fetish).

Piercings along the cheeks of the ass are unwise for multiple reasons. The constant strain from sitting will make these piercings heal badly, and the irritation will likely cause substantial scarring, so piercings done over tissue that is constantly stressed (as the ass cheeks are) are unwise. In addition, the issues of cleanliness are HUGE. A simple bowel movement can introduce large quantities of e coli and other very unpleasant bacteria to the exposed tissues, which can result in a healing -nightmare-.

Calla

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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 9:22:45 AM   
Nslavu


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Why can't he think about it before getting into it? Isn't it better for someone to realize how realistic their more out-there desires are before they start wanting to inflict them on another person? I can remember being younger than I'd care to admit, wishing someone would come in and do... all sorts of interesting things to me.

I, personally, even as a person who loves body mods, would rather do something like this with someone who has been thinking about this for longer rather than shorter. Even if it means they were thinking about it and puzzling out how to achieve their goal before I appeared.



Good posts Aqua. I too assumed the OP would, with some wisdom gained from posts in this thread only do this with one who was into mods and into the objectives. I love metal, love making genital and body jewelry and am acquainted with custom removable jewelry. It is indeed a personal preference and even more so when piercings are concerned.

I disagree with much of the OP's intentions regarding such a device and noted that. I think this is quite possibly where some are a little offended. The poo thing kind of throws most folks. A chastity device isn't something I would require in a girl, but as removable jewelry I can very much see this as a great idea. It can be done as removable using chainmaille for instance. There's also the use of gold and or silver (with consideration for allergies) that can be formed to custom fit. I also like the lacing idea though I would likely do it without locks.

As well there a number of sites that sell jewelry, all removable, (not to mention mods)... tons actually so the overall idea isn't uncommon. Some of it very expensive, some very inexpensive but they tend to be one size fits all so they require straps in order to remain in position. I personally like the idea of custom fit with, for lack of a better word, grappling points that keep the jewelry in place without the need for straps.

Chastity is also very much a function of some people's kink for various reasons. As you're implying, thinking isn't the bad part. Thinking and asking questions leads, hopefully to wiser choices. Businesses call it brain storming, where all kinds of wild ideas are allowed to be presented and then honed to suit the application. The OP needs to come down to earth and I think some people are helping him do that. :-)

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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 9:35:41 AM   
Nslavu


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I personally don't see the harm in the piercings even if it's just with someone you haven't been long term with. They're bod mods and just piercings. If ya don't like them you just take them out. No big deal imo.

The problem I have is his reason....keeping her from fucking around and if his relationship has gotten to that point then he has waaaayyyy bigger problems than this.




I agree IF this is the reason. Not knowing the individuals in question, much less the reasons, means there are a number of other possibilities for doing this. I think it a bit presumptuous at this point to assume there is a problem at all, though the poo thing might lead one conclude there's some careful thoughts lacking.

Frankly I think the OP was just thinking out loud and that very often produces some off the wall proposals. However some of the smartest people in the world, inventors and scientists and others came by their wisdom by doing exactly that, throwing all manner of shit at the wall and seeing what sticks.


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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 10:58:21 AM   
AbeLincoln


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the information, Calla. I didn't know that a labial piercing can take a year to heal. And the e coli are an excellent point.

Regarding some other concerns that were raised, it's not so much that she wants to fuck somebody else, but she enjoys feeling that she can't. (I suspect if someone wants to, they'll find a way.)


Regards,

Abraham

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RE: Laced up - 10/24/2010 2:11:35 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: AbeLincoln

Regarding some other concerns that were raised, it's not so much that she wants to fuck somebody else, but she enjoys feeling that she can't.


I think you'll probably be able to make that happen with a few labia piercings and locking them together. Build it up as you lock them into place, talking about it's yours, now nobody else can get at it, etc. Make it fun.

I dunno how to accomplish the other two though. E. Coli are no fun and, from a safety standpoint, if there was an emergancy when she was alone or if you were somewhat incapicated, the ability to speak clearly could be crucial. So I would suggest just lip rings that are loosely tied or arranged in some way that can be easily, and quickly, removed.

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RE: Laced up - 10/26/2010 10:13:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		This thread is just right...for HALLOWEEN. Did the Frankenstein Monster, start our like this?

Like the other said, if you don't trust her, why be with her at all, or are you thinking of getting revenge?

Kringing all the way, sub BalletBob

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RE: Laced up - 10/27/2010 7:43:17 AM   
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This thread is just right...for HALLOWEEN. Did the Frankenstein Monster, start our like this?

Like the other said, if you don't trust her, why be with her at all, or are you thinking of getting revenge?

Kringing all the way, sub BalletBob


Bob,

Clearly you didn't read the rest of the thread -- this isn't about 'trust' -- it is about a chastity fetish. Sheesh.

Calla


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RE: Laced up - 10/27/2010 10:07:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I had labial piercings - one on either side as a sign of my first Sirs' ownership. They took about a month to heal well, and were no problem past the first week

He put the smallest size padlock on them that he could find - and we found out - 1. all commercial padlocks have sharp edges
                                                                                                                        2. unless the sub has bow legs, the padlock will hang low enough to rub, dig and generally interfere with walking
                                                                                                                and  3. if the sub needs to pee, the padlock needs to be removed -
so for us, it was a. impractical
                       b. uncomfortable
           and       c. a great visual image, but not worth the trouble for real time wearing.


and OP - the padlock wouldn't have stopped me from peeing - it just made it a bit messier.


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RE: Laced up - 10/27/2010 12:03:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		As so many others have mentioned, it's not just fantasy material. Lots of folks into body mods have tried it and I've seen some beautiful examples of labia piercings. Master and I have seriously considered it for awhile. It has less than nothing to do with trust and everything to do with His control of my body and doing to it what He will. We think such piercings are beautiful and the idea of Him lacing the piercings up when He desires to is something that is very appealing to both of us. It's just common sense that the same care must be taken with labia piercings as are taken with any others. Yet another example of something that makes some cry, cringe, run and look down their nose but that is very attractive to others with different desires. That's the way the ball bounces...............luci

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RE: Laced up - 10/27/2010 6:18:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's wild that this popped up now, when we are supposed to have our first play date with a young friend who has these. She had them done within the last month or so, and says they have healed quite nicely. She has captive bead rings in them, in several pretty colors, and calls the whole thing her "bowl of Skittles." I had seen a couple pics on Fetlife that showed something similar with pretty red ribbon lacing it up like a corset, and while the thought boggled my brain a bit, I had to admit that it was visually attractive.
I'm sure I'd have more body mods if I wasn't such a wussy. I am so not a pain slut... if they could knock me out and do it and I just woke up healed, I'd be very happy.

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RE: Laced up - 10/27/2010 8:01:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ar you talking about the labia majora or labia minora? The labia majora might make for some health concerns but rings and lacings on the labia minora are fairly common.

I've seen rings in the labia minora with a padlock on them many times. That reminds me, I need to find a good engraver for the metal "property of" tag my girl is going to get.

Stefan


quote:

ORIGINAL: AbeLincoln

I was thinking. How would it be to put rings in a slaves labia. After she was healed up, she would only wear them at night (put in by the master) to keep the holes open. Surgical steel.

Similar rings near where her butt cheeks touch. Similar rings near where her lips touch.

Then, after everythings healed and healthy, she can be laced up whenever the master doesn't want her to fuck or suck anyone. Or eat, pee or poop!

One needs to think about a light, slim locking mechanism. Silver solder? With really good heat sinks?

Has anyone tried this, or thought about it?


Regards,

Abraham



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RE: Laced up - 11/7/2010 7:46:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: angeldmort

She has captive bead rings in them, in several pretty colors, and calls the whole thing her "bowl of Skittles."


Just saw this and had to say... love it. I used to have a bunch in one ear. I liked each one to be a different color with a different color bead. Sadly, I had to take them all out. A combination of interests that didn't allow for them and Valyraen never liked them anyway. 

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