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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/27/2006 3:37:27 PM

DigitBox

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRadiance

I have a question. How did you become a Domme and get involved in the lifestyle?

In particular I am curious to know whether you were led there by your own desires and curiosities or whether a submissive male helped you discover your true calling.

A guy who is sub asked me if I would want to play, and since I had some experience as sub and zero experience as Domme but kind of new I had it in me to switch, we played. But he did a lot to teach me.

So right now my domminant side is strongest and my submisive side is less experienced.

It's weird being switch in some ways because I feel compelled to be learning and experiencing more on both sides of the power dynamic.

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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/27/2006 4:05:44 PM

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Thanks for all the great answers! I love to hear about girls abusing the boys, I did that as well! I was always beating up the boys in grade school. However, I suppose I was not specific enough with the question, but what interests me is NOT simply being dominant, but what led you into the lifestyle?
One is not born with a whip in her hand. She does not think, at age 10 (generally speaking, of course), "gee, I think I will get me a fake penis and screw his ass"... My specific querry is in regard to the moment of enlightenment into the netherworld of being a "Domme", Mistress, Dominatrice... not merely having a dominant personality.

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What led me to the lifestyle was the fact that my fantasies were of such scenarios where I would be in charge of a situation, or sometimes I would be the one to follow.

Sometimes sex was part of it, often power relationships were part of it. Some of it was played out when I was younger, some of it became more prevelant after puberty, but it was in my late twenties when I finally was able to connect with someone who had shared interests.

Before that I just went without any kind of relationship since I knew that there would likely be a level of intolerance to anything so unusual as me.

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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/27/2006 6:02:32 PM

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After my divorce 14 years ago I was introduced to the lifestyle by a submissive male that loved my dominant personality and freaky nature. He greatly encouraged me to do all the things I ever wanted to do. I was like finding the pair of perfectly fitting boots. I was like Oh now this is the way things are supposed to be.

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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/27/2006 6:12:14 PM

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I was always a demanding child (according to my parents), and I too used to chase the boys and kick them in their balls...ironically its still a fave...I used to stomp on their feet and hurt them any way I could.
I sort of came to the realisation of what I was after watching the television series "kink", which put into words a lot of the things I felt from a young age.
Later on I began with phone and web domination, and then worked in a dungeon for some months before going indy and lifestyle...and here I am!

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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/28/2006 3:55:32 AM

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greetings

I came into this by way of my own desires to dominant
a males as far back as i can remember i had the feelings
of wanting something. It start for me as a child! I saw a moive
and in this moive there was a male who was sick. He was
feveish and this woman had to climb into the bed with him to
save his life. He was shivering and whimpering. When she climb into
the bed with him he became well, I was a child i did not know what it
meant but that stood with me for many years.
As i grow I would tell men i wanted to beat them, this was out of the blue
i would say this, i scare many men i was hoping to find the right man who would
say yes. I went out with a younger man he told me to spank he. He said " i do not
like oral sex but he was very good. i think that started me on my way, it is strange
how things turn out. Yes it is something i try to fight for years relgion play some part
in my fighting with my desire to be a dommes but i found i could and do keep both.

great question

best wishes
mons/jane

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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/28/2006 4:30:12 AM

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I always knew I had desires that were fringe but judeochristian upbringing taught me to keep them pretty well hid. Then my daughters father said lets look at some porn and then I realised there was a whole culture out there with what I was in it. I decided to find me a dominant man, because there was so much I didn't know and coming out Domme was too scary even though the first thing I did was Domme (I tied up my daughters father etc) then I met up with a male Dom who turned out to be a switch and when I didnt get horny to his dominance he showed me his strait jacket, lol, I bound him up in that and a hood and I went to the kitchen and found a raspberry iceblock and stuck it up his ass! I enjoyed it but felt out of my depth so I found this other male Dom who only wanted submission in the bedroom. This sort of worked for eight months but I must say we clashed mightily on a few issues and I would not back down, my choice was agree to disagree poor man he was lovely really and it was quite devastating in a way he could not support me even in a switch role with him he had to undermine. In the end we had to acknowledge lack of common ground in our sexuality as I decided to come out as Domme, he could not cope with me enacting that on him as switch. That was in October last year. And yes there is much to learn about myself and the role but I am happy with it now, and I have no desire to switch. My initial concerns about being Domme was that I have a quite gentle, caring and compassionate personality. I didn't consider that I fit some of the stereotypes. I have decided since that that is my personal style and I am Dominant and can enforce my role quite satisfactorily over both my slaves, my permanent and my part time. I start gentle and work up tough. My latest efforts were forced femme, my to be trans slave girl is petrified of public exposure after a bashing years ago that put him/her in hospital for 3 weeks. She cannot go on hormones untilshe has been dressed as a woman for at least a year in New Zealand. I decided enough was enough she had to get rid of all male underwear, and at my place she had to dress female and I went and advised the neighbours that this was a requirement medically. I then told her that the best place for her to go out in public was the supermarket as no one would dare bash her there and I am quite assertive and would field any comments. Then she needed filters for her smokes LOL so I said you want them lets dress you in my pants and jumper and we go get em. There was tanties and tears I told her she was a silly bitch and cuddled her and then off we went myself, my trans girl and my 10 year old daughter! Repeated the experience a week later without the godawful tantrums and she went in a dress good on her ...

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RE: How did you become a Domme? - 4/28/2006 4:35:14 AM

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PS she is 6 foot one in flats and I am 5 foot 2 LOL and she wore 4 inch heels ...

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