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Hi Lockit, I'm afraid I'm a bit biased in this area, because of my former marriage. He was unemployed for about half of the marriage (we were married 20 years), and I carried us, financially (barely). It was exhausting for me, and I lost a great deal of respect for him due to his lack of motivation and effort to help us out (I didn't make much, myself). It's baggage crap, I know, but as a result it became important to me that I'm with someone who is employed. It also depends on circumstances, too. If my master had been unemployed when we met, I'd be asking how long he's been unemployed, what he's doing to look for work, how long was he at his last couple jobs, etc. As it was, I asked him how long he's been at his job. When he told me, I was relieved. I didn't need him to be a white collar executive. I just needed to know I wouldn't have to carry him. Given his history, I think he felt the same, about me. Still, due to both our divorces financially ruining us, we are frugal about going out. I don't mind that part. I don't need the wining and dining. I just wanted to be with someone with a good heart, a character I could admire, and a good work ethic.
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