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RE: love? - 11/3/2010 3:25:53 PM

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I heard there were oranges in The Godfather - I love oranges.

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RE: love? - 11/3/2010 3:26:07 PM

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Whoa, I'd hope so...!

Despite the impression the strutting hardcore can give, not all of us in the lifestyle are looking for "meat" to fuck, flog and discard at our abusive, irresponsible whim.

I do it "backwards".... I initially seek out "submissive" but if the one I find isn't someone I can like as a person and form emotional connection with, the rules, ropes and floggers etc are irrelevant until I find someone I can form attachment to.

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RE: love? - 11/3/2010 3:26:30 PM

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"Mikey, why don't you tell that nice girl you love her? I love you with all-a my heart, if I don't see-a you again soon, I'm-a gonna die."

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RE: love? - 11/3/2010 3:27:40 PM

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I'm loving how this thread shaping up! Have a canolli.

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RE: love? - 11/4/2010 12:37:21 PM

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As a master, can you be in love with your slave/sub? To me this doesn't seem weak its about being happy but i was curious.Thanks!

Can't imagine having her and not being in love with her..

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RE: love? - 11/5/2010 7:12:03 AM

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Loving my kids didn't stop me being firm with them.
Loving my family didn't stop my personality showing.
Loving my husband doesn't hinder this side of things. Being in love with one another allows our personalities to show through to their full extent.

I'm really not getting why some people believe the D/s dynamic changes if love comes into it. Is it because they believe that love makes people mushy? If it makes you mushy and unable to dominate or submit, then your dominance/subission is limited to toy boxes and play room scenarios.

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RE: love? - 11/5/2010 12:30:01 PM

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You know, Focus... You are many a submissive's dream-come-true.

Only "many"? Then my work isn't done, dammit...!

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RE: love? - 11/5/2010 3:13:30 PM

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I think this is quite an interesting topic, and I don't think you can clearly say it has one answer. As was said, not every Master is a sadistic bastard looking for a series of acquiescent holes to plow... but even in that specific type of relationship... who is to say love can't be involved?

So long as the Master and slave are both doing what they love, why should love be impossible? They just express it differently. Caressing the cheek of your significant other may be how one couple shows affection, while for a hardcore M/s couple it might be caning the slaves ass until it bleeds.

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RE: love? - 11/5/2010 3:57:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: SpaceSpank

I think this is quite an interesting topic, and I don't think you can clearly say it has one answer. As was said, not every Master is a sadistic bastard looking for a series of acquiescent holes to plow... but even in that specific type of relationship... who is to say love can't be involved?

So long as the Master and slave are both doing what they love, why should love be impossible? They just express it differently. Caressing the cheek of your significant other may be how one couple shows affection, while for a hardcore M/s couple it might be caning the slaves ass until it bleeds.

Even hardcore M/s, D/s & S/m couples cuddle and have loving moments!
Our relationship is a loving one but make no mistake, it can be brutal and bloody.
I don't think we should give the impression that love makes this lifestyle more tame. I was talking about this with Steve during the other thread on this and he admitted that when our relationship was at its fledgling stage, he was much more cautious because he feared losing me if he pushed me too hard. As our love grew for one another, so did our confidence and this led to the exact opposite. He started pushing me much harder because he no longer feared losing me.
I imagine if love was one sided or the dominant was unsure of how she felt about him, he would be afraid of scaring her off by pushing too hard but when they clearly love each other then the party can begin

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RE: love? - 11/6/2010 11:38:43 PM

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As a master, can you be in love with your slave/sub?

Yes. Last I checked, "love" was a part of the normal human condition.

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