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KsCpl -> Assignments (11/5/2010 12:39:22 AM)

I would love to know what sort of assignments you have your submissives do for you? Any and all responses eagerly welcomed.




AquaticSub -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 12:59:08 AM)

I'm not allowed to die.

It's a tough assignment.



Ok - more seriously, we don't have formal assignments. He just tells me to do something and I try to do it. Be it picking up food at the store, making his doctor's appointments, etc. I know that others have more formal situations where essays are written, journals, etc.




Focus50 -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 1:14:20 AM)

Assignments per se' are like "busy-work" to me, and I don't indulge.... Kinda like captaining a cricket team - some captains seem to move the fielders because they can....

However, if there's a practical purpose such as the need for her to research something (lifestyle/home/work etc), then yeah, I s'pose that's setting an assignment. But then this topic would really be about reason and purpose rather than the resulting action....

Focus.




DesFIP -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 5:14:58 AM)

I get to do most net research for him because he doesn't have the patience to keep trying out keywords, following links to find the right keyword and so on. Latest one was searching the local craigslist for a desk. Weirdest one was to find instructions to make a shower with concrete walls that did not require forms and pouring it.




SpaceSpank -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 12:16:24 PM)

That depends entirely on the nature of the specific M/s relationship. Some are very strict and regimented. I would have their day planned out from morning to night. Tasks in that case would be mundane things in addition to special situations. IE: Shower, brush teeth, bathroom, make food/eat, laundry, etc.
I agree with focus that it is busy work in a sense, but some slaves love or even require this level of control in their lives (either forever or only for awhile). It's up to the Master to find a good mix between consistent and exciting for your slave. You want it to be a familiar and comfortable routine, but not get boring. It's different for everyone.

Other dynamics (either from the start or after years of being together) are more relaxed. Telling my slave to wake up at 7am, shower and 7:15, and make food at 7:30 is not something I would do in that case. Either she knows already or the relationship isn't that kind of relationship.
Cases like that my "assignments" if you call them that, would be for something special. Things like researching new toys, places to visit (vacation or otherwise), or new things to try both in and out of play.

It's a difficult question to answer in a general sense because it is so intimately involved with the particular M/s you are talking about.




pwnerandpwned -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 5:26:01 PM)

My tasks for her can include pretty much anything, really. Usually it's an informal "Before you go shower, do ____" or something of the sort. Sometimes I pick her daily exercise, but sometimes it'll just be anything she feels like doing as long as it takes up X amount of time. Sure sometimes they're sexual too...because...that's fun. :) Some recent "assignments" I can remember: Surprise me with a sexy costume Halloween weekend, Do 15 minutes of Yoga, Make sure to charge your phone before you take a shower, Let your parents know we set a wedding date, Ask me before purchasing anything over $10 this month...

Once she moves in, I'm planning on having a board (dry erase or other) where I can write up To-Do lists for her daily/weekly. I'm not sure how D/s specific that is really, though, since my non-bdsmy friends have a very similar list in their house (even with a color coded system where they can write their own to-dos in their row, or their spouse's to-dos in another row and their own color).




StrongSpirit -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 6:32:45 PM)

1. write a cheer (as in something a cheerleader might say)

2. Research sex toy prices

3. stir fry my dinner, topless. (Ouch!)

4. Research which pose is sexiest for pictures.






littlewonder -> RE: Assignments (11/5/2010 10:21:35 PM)

I don't have assignments.

When he needs something done; ie research, help with a computer program, cleaning up, making phone calls, typing letters, etc....then they get done. I do whatever he needs done that will make his life easier.






Kaliko -> RE: Assignments (11/6/2010 12:48:27 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: KsCpl

I would love to know what sort of assignments you have your submissives do for you? Any and all responses eagerly welcomed.



I'm currently making him curtains. A few weeks ago I researched a sexual...implement?....he wanted. It's whatever he needs.

I do have one standing assignment - no matter how busy we get, at least once every week I will dig down deep and pour my heart out to him about something...any topic I choose. He, though, does the same thing...so not sure if that's an assignment or more of an agreement. Although he's the one that assigned us the agreement, so....consider me assigned, I guess.




Zevar -> RE: Assignments (11/6/2010 1:52:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KsCpl

I would love to know what sort of assignments you have your submissives do for you? Any and all responses eagerly welcomed.


Personally I do not assign anything for a submissive lady to accomplish. I make my needs known to her and it is her obligation to serve from her heart. Her submission cannot be forced. What is offered from her heart is my only preference. I am always most pleased in her doing what she knows would serve me in a manner that is genuinely offered and authentically experienced from and within her submissive heart, of her own free will and choice.

A slave is different from my perspective. I do indeed assign duties and other accomplishments for her service to myself and my Household. With a submissive lady the dynamic is totally different in relation to my ruling her. I rule a slave through my ownership, whereas I relate with a submissive lady as a companion and expect her to conduct herself as a lady and my companion at all times, assuredly knowing her position with myself and within my Household.

If I were to assign duties to a submissive lady then I would perceive the relating to be associated with a regime that I might assign a slave in service to myself and my Household, which I have no desire to engage in such a regime with a submissive lady whatsoever. Heart to Heart [sm=hearts.gif] or nothing at all. The best of luck to you. To each their own, aye!

Take care!




DarklySubtle -> RE: Assignments (11/7/2010 8:57:12 PM)

I don't give assignments to all of my subs: Every relationship is different.

When I do give assignments, they're meant to do one or more of the following: give pleasure (to one or both of us), strengthen the bond between us, or help with something that that particular sub is working on.

For example, when I play with a submissive at night, I often forbid her clothing to her until the morning, meaning that she has to sleep naked. This gives her an experience that is both sensual and submissive, and it also reminds her, when she wakes up the next day, of just what she's been doing, and for whom.




Tantriqu -> RE: Assignments (11/7/2010 9:03:05 PM)

early assignments are written: quickly separates the real subbie men from the chaffy do-me bottoms.





NuevaVida -> RE: Assignments (11/8/2010 9:11:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KsCpl

I would love to know what sort of assignments you have your submissives do for you? Any and all responses eagerly welcomed.


I don't have a set of ongoing assignments.  Life is so busy as-is.  We interact daily and through those interactions, he might require a chore or task of me, but not as an ongoing regimen.  I have ongoing duties, like cooking and cleaning, but not anything that would be construed as an ongoing assignment.

I am relieved. My ex had me writing ALL. THE. TIME. which subsequently exhausted me and killed my joy of writing for a long time.




crazyml -> RE: Assignments (11/8/2010 9:21:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kaliko


I do have one standing assignment - no matter how busy we get, at least once every week I will dig down deep and pour my heart out to him about something...any topic I choose. He, though, does the same thing...so not sure if that's an assignment or more of an agreement.


Doesn't matter whether it's an "assignment" in the strict sense or not - this is a cracking good thing to do!




crazyml -> RE: Assignments (11/8/2010 9:25:21 AM)

I've given assignments and instructions to playmates many times in the past... "Buy these items of clothing" "Wear this under your dress", I had a roleplay based relationship with a partner in the past in which the assignments related to my teaching her french - so they were proper academic assignments.






BabieGothika -> RE: Assignments (11/20/2010 6:30:51 PM)

He gives me assigments everyday, like go to "Walgreens" with a dildo inside your pussy, taped and tell me how ashamed u feel thinkin then  people can find out what u r doing.
  Or go and pee on the park close to your house, or go and pee in a parking lot, hehehe,things llike that[;)][;)][;)][;)][8|][8|][8|][8|][X(][X(][8|][8|][:)][:)][:)][:)][:)][:)][:)][:)]




BambiBoi -> RE: Assignments (11/20/2010 8:11:34 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
3. stir fry my dinner, topless. (Ouch!)


...Red.

By assignments, are we talking about...
being tasked with playful acts;
doing work that benefits the relationship;
or outstanding disciplines, restrictions, and orders to follow?





DesFIP -> RE: Assignments (11/21/2010 8:48:09 AM)

All of the above plus anything else. When he asks me to research stuff on the web it isn't playful, it doesn't benefit the relationship directly and it isn't punishment. It's something that takes me less time to do than it does him and he doesn't get aggravated chasing down links that aren't what he's looking for. It's doing a task for him equal to running out and picking up a part he ordered when he's working on the car and doesn't want to have to waste time going into town to get it. 




leadership527 -> RE: Assignments (11/21/2010 10:25:28 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KsCpl
I would love to know what sort of assignments you have your submissives do for you? Any and all responses eagerly welcomed.
Assignments? I don't give Carol "assignments". We go through life and I give some tasks to her to handle... for instance... cooking breakfast right now.




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