Am i really Submissive? & what about my future

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subbiedude -> Am i really Submissive? & what about my future (11/8/2010 2:42:26 AM)
Hey hi everybody[:)], this is my first Post. I really wonder whether i can really call myself a Submissive, I am Submissive only when i am sexually excited (That too when i Fantasize or see a porn- coz i am not really into the real thing yet) during other times i am quite normal (i am quite short tempered [:@] that's my nature), so when i feel submissive & soon after i climax (masturbate), i regret my actions, & i really hate my thoughts, So i am wondering will this tendency of mine regretting what i am doing will hurt me in long run, that too when i am in a serious relationship in real such as a Marriage.

DarkSteven -> RE: Am i really Submissive? & what about my future (11/8/2010 2:53:42 AM)
Welcome to collarme. Your post makes you sound like you submit only in the bedroom. That's called being a bottom or a bedroom sub. But your profile indicates that you want to serve outside the bedroom as well. I'm not sure why you regret being turned on by submitting. Also, the idea that a "real" relationship shouldn't have those elements... not sure why you feel that. You simply must make it known to your woman that this is how you're wired. Maybe Indian society is different about that than the US.

subbiedude -> RE: Am i really Submissive? & what about my future (11/8/2010 3:02:40 AM)
Thanks for your Reply

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Am i really Submissive? & what about my future (11/8/2010 4:45:40 AM)
Welcome to the message boards, subbiedude. You sound like many guys I've talked with so...I'd say you were normal. You are only 22 and some people have a short temper when they are young and learn to be more patient over time...I hope you are one of these people because being around someone with a short temper can be a pain in the butt. [;)] As for the rest, you will have to find out for yourself over time who you are (sub, slave, or bottom) and if being kinky causes you problems. By the way, fantasies can be a lot more extreme than what you would ever do in real life, so...try not to judge yourself so harshly.

slavekal -> RE: Am i really Submissive? & what about my future (11/8/2010 9:12:22 AM)
I hope that with time, you will learn not to have post orgasm regret...unless you are doing things you really should not. Our submission is a sexual thing. Some people would have you feel guilty about that. Don't let them. A skilled Mistress will know how to channel your sexual submissiveness into non sexual areas and tasks. That is the best. When scrubbing the floors gets turned into a sexual activity, your whole life becomes erotically charged.

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