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ResidentSadist -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 10:56:16 PM)

"ONLY about SEX"

It isn't about "sex excluded" either. Perhaps you missed the point about the other side . . . you know, side with the profiles, porn movies and 2 types of video chat? My point is that we are a subset, a free service provided by an adult site and being a prude or complaining about sex is foolish. I bet you didn't find a gaggle of prudes at Leather Pride bashing sex, gender or newcomers with redundant questions which are also the points I make in the OP that many replies overlook.




Daddysredhead -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 10:57:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

Greeds!  Have you ever seen a "pretty penis?"  *giggles wildly*  I mean, I've seen a few that made me [8|]  or  [:(].  If I'm a lucky redhead, they make me  [:o], which makes me [8D]...  But that's just how I roll.  [;)]


actually, yes, I have *grins*  That was in person though.
some of the pics are less hideous than others..


OK, well I have, too... but I wasn't going to say so until you answered because I asked first.  [:D]

*nite y'all*




GreedyTop -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 10:59:46 PM)

love ya Redilicious!  Sweet, pretty penis dreams!




MrRodgers -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 11:00:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
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If the fact that I'm not interested in fucking everyone who happens to be involved in BDSM makes Me a prude, so be it.


Thank you, Lady Pact.

RS,
I've been around long enough to know that for egocentric, narcissistic men it is always about them.  I've nothing to prove to you.  I do my part in "the community."  Just because I don't shout "look at me, look at me" doesn't mean it isn't there.  You aren't the only one who's been around for decades.  The difference between me and thee is that I see no reason to expect others to live as I do. 

This one sentence that Lady Pact wrote is all I need to say about your rant.  More than that?  Meh.  It's just repeating the same message.  

The rest of what is here is flirtation - which you yourself have engaged in - and a lot of ego stroking.  Nothing wrong with that.   But let's be frank.  You are here only to request people fawn all over you.  Boo hoo.  Not everyone will. 

Good luck,
sunshine

I've been reading this blog-turned-chatroom and see it as an OP that sums up some of  the same discoveries I've made and may well have posted it myself in so many words...no, I can't type at all. But I had to respond to this.

To take issue with those complaining of being wet while rollicking in the rain is a matter of questioning a profilers' common sense. Profiles over the top with conditions and disrespect bespeak a whole elaborate set of presumptions...before one even hits the keyboard.

But I don't see it ladies as anything about...anything else, i.e., not about who would or wouldn't fuck whoever...not about RS being kinkier than thou and I just can't see it all as trying to gain anyone's favor in anyway.

I try like hell and it ain't hard cybersluts, take all of this for just what it is are worth...nothing more. Hell, they have to ask, in person, real time...to see my parts.

Here we do not read between the lines...there's nothing there kinkroids. I mean one could go to Match.com for crying out loud, tell them you are a pervert, had 'em 18-80, well ok, almost and they'll write back. "What are ya...some kinda pervert ?




SpiritedRadiance -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 11:04:43 PM)

Actually there were several people when I was serving the crowd who made comments that bashed others or didnt show up because there would be x y z of people there. there will always be people who cannot handle those who have a different point of view. Im not leather yet, I have not learned nor even attempted to truly learn. I hope one day I can be as passionate as Vi Johnson. I hope one day I can move someone like I my self was moved and inspired to this weekend. However Im not everyone. Not everyone will take my opinion that learning is the most important thing, not getting your dick hard.

I dont see any porn ads on the other side because I dont wish to see them, I blocked the ads and reported ones i found espically disconcerting to my personal tastes, same with profiles, same with photos, same with forum posts. I dont bitch but i think maybe a rant forum area would be best. People are going to complain, however complaining isnt going to fix it. Its not going to make it better, its not helping anything other then oh now i feel a little better.

My issue is only this your promoting something as something its not. Collarme is NOT a sex site, its not meant to be about getting your penis hard. Im sorry you do not believe that, but someone who comes to a bdsm site should be able to have the choice of wither or not they are sent photos of a sexual nature, or wither or not they have to see someones pussy spread open and being electrocuted.  Ive seen the site through the years It hasnt always had the sexually pornographic ads. However can you blame a site for money in this economy?

If you want sex, there are plenty of porn sites that can accommodate you. If you dont want to hear the rants, you can choose to hide them from view or ignore their existence. Its what I do and what many have learned to do.

That beautiful girl of yours needs to keep you busy more so you dont notice the threads.




MrRodgers -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 11:15:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

"ONLY about SEX"

It isn't about "sex excluded" either. Perhaps you missed the point about the other side . . . you know, side with the profiles, porn movies and 2 types of video chat? My point is that we are a subset, a free service provided by an adult site and being a prude or complaining about sex is foolish. I bet you didn't find a gaggle of prudes at Leather Pride bashing sex, gender or newcomers with redundant questions which are also the points I make in the OP that many replies overlook.

What is often forgotten or misunderstood is that the S in BDSM stood every bit as much for sex while practicing my 'Sadism.' The sexual in pain and soon including retraint are components that have been written about and enjoyed for centuries going back to Rome in fact long before the 'S.' They are all fetishes kinkroids...sexual, sexually arousing fetishes.






ResidentSadist -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 11:36:41 PM)

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To take issue with those complaining of being wet while rollicking in the rain is a matter of questioning a profilers' common sense. Profiles over the top with conditions and disrespect bespeak a whole elaborate set of presumptions...before one even hits the keyboard.


Well put.


I don’t know how familiar you guys are with the workings here at CM. They used to get about 80k new members a month. I think we are safe in presuming only a small portion of them make to these forums. It is likely that the “cunt-hungry”, “cock-crazed” “whores” on the other side are the majority here at CM. We are all probably text addicted prudes in their eyes.

I can’t speak for the owners of this site but I do know a bit about the spirit in which it is run. Their ads or sales support the many free services here and it is the only the means to keep this place running. I believe the founder’s intent and the volunteer staff are sincerely interested in providing a quality free online BDSM community for us, not a commercial porn venture or leatherized AFF clone. This place has something for everyone and I value what the owner, VAA and the all the mods do for us. I respect the integrity they maintain with the tools they provide like the reporting system . . . all the while maintaining video, chat rooms, profiles and etc.

With that said, I hope you all enjoy everything about this place and stop complaining so much about the aspects of it that pay the bills. Those same people that mail all those nude pics, write stupid letters or ask rendundant noob questions probably rent movies, buy gear and support the sponsors that pay for our free forums. Maybe we should give them (and us) a break.

Thank you all for joining me in my thread and freely speaking your minds. It has been interesting to complain about the complainers… even if that complainer was me. Hope you enjoyed yourself and the irony. I’m off to bed, so have at it!




ResidentSadist -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/8/2010 11:55:45 PM)



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ORIGINAL: MrRodgers
What is often forgotten or misunderstood is that the S in BDSM stood every bit as much for sex while practicing my 'Sadism.' The sexual in pain and soon including retraint are components that have been written about and enjoyed for centuries going back to Rome in fact long before the 'S.' They are all fetishes kinkroids...sexual, sexually arousing fetishes.

I had to stay and reply because you mentioned the "S" in BDSM.

Others have incorrectly said that the S does not stand for sex. Well, both the "S" and the "M" stand for sex as the very definition of sadomasochism is “sexual sadism” and “sexual masochism” to define it from the other forms of sadism that have nothing to do with paraphilias, kink or the leather lifestyle.

Sexual Sadism: the recurrent urge or behavior involving acts in which the pain or humiliation of the victim is sexually exciting.

Sexual Masochism: the counterpart of sadism, is the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self, often consisting of sexual fantasies or urges for being beaten, humiliated, bound, tortured, or otherwise made to suffer, either as an enhancement to or a substitute for sexual pleasure.

So, BDSM does stand for sex ya’ fucking prudes!




BonesFromAsh -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 2:02:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

So what is the big difference between getting a random cock shot and hanging out at a party with gentiles flying everywhere?



Does this have anything to do with gefilte fish? [8|]

I wonder what Freud would say about that typing slip up?


I think it might go something like..."Sometimes a rant is just a rant."




LadyPact -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 5:27:40 AM)

First, I'm going to wave to Lance.  Sorry, Hon.  Dang time change always messes with My sleep patterns and I fell asleep early.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
Like you said, “sex positive”. I did include mono partners and even those who were here just to be among our friends and peers. The point I am driving at is that this is a dating, porn, video, chat, adult retail site with a free forum. Like DRH said, it seems odd to complain about something here that happens on the other side. And as I extrapolated, just like in real life, if you don’t like those things, why did you come to the party? You don’t have to be a hedonistic swinger or want to fuck strangers but you prolly’ shouldn’t complain about seeing or talking about sex on an alt sex site. No matter how you think of these forums, this is part of a an adult sex site. No matter what your kink, BDSM is a subset of the alt sex community.

Picking the fruit of the tree and complaining about the roots seems silly. Like using these free forums and complaining about pics at its adult sex dating host. Or partaking in a BDSM community and ignoring its parent alt sex community roots is just cutting off your nose to spite your face.

The thing is, it's not all the same tree.  It really is more like a buffet and you get to choose the dishes that you do and don't want to partake.

It may be a little odd to come to the forums to complain about things that happen on the other side.  No, the folks that inspire such rants probably won't see the comments, but I do happen to think that some of the discussions have led to certain improvements.  Personally, I love the hell out of the spam filter.  What do you think inspired that thing?  Do you think it was the folks who were sending out tons of crap mail, who probably are the ones buying the porn and such that keeps the site running?    I'm pretty sure it came from the folks who were tired of receiving the crap and I can't be the only one who's happy about that.

The rant that inspired this rant?  Well, a little closer look at that.  When you have somebody who is in the sex industry complaining about that she's receiving emails about sex, I get the point.  A number of women who aren't in the sex industry get the same emails.  Seriously, I don't have to enjoy them.  I'm supposed to be free to take the parts of the buffet that I want and skip the dishes that I don't agree with My pallet.  It doesn't bother Me that those dishes that I won't swallow are available for anybody else, but I'm not putting them on My plate. 






everhope -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 5:49:21 AM)

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That beautiful girl of yours needs to keep you busy more so you dont notice the threads.


in Master's household, it is he that keeps me busy not the other way around.




allthatjaz -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 7:03:11 AM)

I have to admit, I don't know what all the fuss is about cock shots and I don't understand submissive profiles that whine or state all their demands. If I found such a small menu in a restaurant then I would be leaving before ordering.
My BDSM world is very sexual. If you took away my sexual lust tomorrow, then I wouldn't be doing any of this anymore. I do this because I'm sexually adventurous and a bit of a filthy bitch and not because I long to serve.
I personally love going to gay BDSM clubs which are mainly full of men being absolutely filthy. I find a lot of main stream BDSM clubs too tame.
I enjoy some of this site and certain people on it but on the whole I find it incredibly tame and shockable.
As a dominant woman I need to get turned on through controlling. As a woman who enjoys being taken down hard and put in my place, it has to be foreplay. its a huge sexual build up.
I also respect those women who are not sexually adventurous. Some women just need servitude because it makes them feel safe or child like. Sex doesn't even have to come into the equation.
On that note I will leave you with this

I love all my pictures of cocks
I must have a thousand odd shots
Some I have named and professionally framed
I’m not sure how many but lots

I’ve one on my living room wall
That measures at 10 inches tall
For such a big cock, he must make the girls rock
And he makes all the others look small

My favorite does take pride and place,
And is downed in red ribbon and lace
He’s angled just right, with his balls to the right
And a smacking great smile on his face.

[;)]




Daddysredhead -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 7:23:55 AM)

Allthatjazz, I think I adore you!!! [:D] I love your poetry and your admission of who you are and why you do what you do. I'm cut from the same cloth. A bit filthy bitch, a bit whore, and a bit daredevil. *yummy*

~ Red [;)]




LadyHibiscus -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 12:30:14 PM)

I am all for a peen thread!! I do appreciate a nice peen, esp one decorated with glitter and feathers! I can see those on the other site, and woohoo!

Is the oral sex thread really worth perusing? I kind of ditched it, after making my point about the douchecanoes that want to do it for HOURS are just DOING IT WRONG!!




LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 2:10:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: Hotch

Speaking of leathermen... Why does it seem to me that the rise of the hetro bdsm scene kinda mirrors the yuppies jumping on Harleys and calling themselves "bikers". Yeah, some are true to the lifestyle, but generally speaking it watered down an interesting counter culture and made it more mainstream.

And yes, I'm hetro, have a decent job and ride a Harley, so I'm pointing the finger right back at me.

I guess whenever anything gets closer to the mainstream, it gets watered down to meet the broader appeal of its new membership. BDSM had grown in leaps and bounds over the past 20 years and at the fast rate of social changes we experience, the "good old days" for some of us can be as little as 5 or 10 years ago.



This is as far as I have gotten into this thread, but I'm old & forgetful, so I have to respond to this before I forget what I wanted to say. Then I will go on to read the rest.

When I started out in BDSM, it was in the Lesbian community. We called ourselves Tops & Bottoms back then. This was over 25 years ago now. For me, it was ok to submit to a woman, but to submit to a man seemed too much like an abusive relationship that I had had in the past. But Lynn could do whatever she wanted with/to me & I loved it! It wasn't until 2000 that I got involved in a het BDSM relationship. I agree that it has been watered down. It seems that there are a whole lot of people who think it's just about kinky sex. For me, it's about the kinky sex, but also about so much more than that.

I love submitting on many levels, emotional, mental, & physical. Back to my reading.

There ya go, Lance. I posted!!! This one's for you. [8D]




LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/9/2010 8:45:36 PM)

I am so proud of myself. *sniff* I killed this thread! *takes a bow*




allthatjaz -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/10/2010 4:15:01 AM)

You thread killer [;)]




LaTigresse -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/10/2010 7:52:17 AM)

I think the topic itself, died a natural death.

An old whiner whining about whining.




breatheasone -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/10/2010 8:09:18 AM)

Anyone feel like some cheese, with all this "wine" around? [;)]




MistressLavinia -> RE: -=Fucking anti sex prudes=- (11/10/2010 8:34:04 AM)

How do I go from the "I admit", professing love to being here, no clue but here I am and here’s my pov like it or not. I don't care who's doing who or doing what, but as LP stated, my pallet may not like it, I have that right. I am so far removed from being a prude it's glorious, however, If I'm eating my bowl of morning flakes, and login to CM to say hello to my friends, I don't wanna see bimbos filthy asshole spread open. I have that right, and yes bimbo has the right to post the picture, but there are rules here, and it shouldn't be the first picture anyone has to view. As an adult, on an adult site, you would think better judgement might be used. Does it make me a prude, NO Effin Way. It makes me have value, morals, and the need to be interested in more then an anal cavity.

I find most genitalia a beautiful thing, when it’s groomed, and clean. I don't however want to have it flashed it my face, especially when I don't command it to be. Call me a prude for that, its bullshit. I can whine about what my eyes have to focus on when the site has rules. I have a picture that's not so very prudish; it's not the primary picture. I don't force my sexuality activity down anyone’s throat. If someone’s looking for a counterpart, and thinks the cock/ass/pussy shots going to be the deal breaker, it's not for me. It might be for some, and if so then that’s good for them. I don't think it has anything to do with being a prude, I've probably done more shit with a lover, then I would ever mention, and that’s my issue, my private life, and my sub is my private life - owned - by me. I wouldn't expect him to come on here and give details to total strangers about my relationship, there's no purpose in that for me. Again, that's my prerogative.

I don't recall me ever whining about anyone’s cock shot, or pussy shot, but since it's here now, I'll say it, CM asks not to use that discretion is used, so why can't rules be followed by adults, and why must I view a dirty ass while I'm eating my corn flakes!!!! blaaaaaaaaaah

Am I a prude for whining now, - some may think so - I know I'm not - but I wanted to clear the air on the cock shot whiners who do have right to whine if they see something that’s grotesque.




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