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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I was just writing a post on this subject (somewhat) on the poly board.

The deal about the separation of church and state doesn't really apply here, in My opinion.  The fact of the matter is, we invited the state to get involved in the marriage biz in the first place.  We not only ask the state to recognize the unions, we ask the state to be the authority when we can't figure out how to amicably dissolve those unions.  I have to admit that I don't think polyamorous people are going to be any better or worse than our monogamous counterparts have done when it comes to things like divorce court.  We will, however, automatically be more complicated just because of the fact that there will be more parties involved.

If people who are poly really do want the privilege of marriage or civil unions, we have to look at not only how we're going to handle the situation when we succeed, but also what's going to happen when we fail.  Some of us will be sitting in those same government buildings, in front of the same judges, asking the state to come up with how property gets divided, custody and visitation are handled, and every darn thing that monogamous couples have to get resolved for them.  It's not just a question of let multiple partners be legal.  It's everything that goes with it. 

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ORIGINAL: Brain

If church and state are separate in fact, the state has no right to determine the number of spouses in this or any other religion. It is that religions decision. I prefer the government stay out of the bedrooms of the nation.

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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

I personally think it should because how can we have a government system that is separate from church and state if we allow religion to affect our laws?

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ORIGINAL: Brain

If church and state are separate in fact, the state has no right to determine the number of spouses in this or any other religion. It is that religions decision. I prefer the government stay out of the bedrooms of the nation.