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ORIGINAL: footsub90

Honestly, its either a woman taking advantage of an idiot. Or a man pretending to be a woman taking advantage of an idiot.

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ORIGINAL: footsub90

Honestly, its either a woman taking advantage of an idiot. Or a man pretending to be a woman taking advantage of an idiot.

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ORIGINAL: kidkaito

Cant really understand why slaves into this...

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ORIGINAL: footsub90

Honestly, I understand the whole power exchange when it comes to finances, but really the non-dominant doesn't care about the fetish, but simply seeks to reap free money. To me its ridiculous. Mind you its my opinion and your free to disagree.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: footsub90

Honestly, I understand the whole power exchange when it comes to finances, but really the non-dominant doesn't care about the fetish, but simply seeks to reap free money. To me its ridiculous. Mind you its my opinion and your free to disagree.

I don't necessarily disagree with you...it's not something I find a use for in my own life. I had a prospective Dom once tell me that he'd be taking over control of my bank account in due time. No way toots. But I know of someone else (in a vanilla relationship yet) who lives for having her man take charge of all monies coming into the household including her salary and doing whatever he wants with it. She is happy and wants it this way even when she has no money to buy herself lunch or they are having trouble paying their bills because her man wanted a new expensive lens for his camera. It's what works for them. Who am I to say that it's wrong?

The heart of this or anything else is a consensual exchange between two adults and that can be whatever those people want it to be. I just think its conceited of me to stick my nose in other people's business and push what I think is right onto them. Anyone who wants to be with me better keep their hands off my money and I will return the favor, but whatever someone else wants is their own choice even if it is to their detriment. Isn't that what personal freedom is all about? We're free to pursue whatever it is that we want to do and to define fetish however we want to define it. You may think that both people have to be invested in D/s to have a financial power exchange be more of an exchange instead of one person throwing money at another, but the people involved can define that however they want to and your definition means squat to them.

Sometimes the person throwing the money away loves to give it to someone who is blatantly taking advantage of them. There was a poster on here once whose thing was to have his girl live on the couch being lazy and having him shower her with money and treats while she smoked and ate candy bars. He thought that was the ultimate in sexiness and he was proud of his situation where he contributed to her decadence. Sounds awful to me but he was deeply satisfied. He should be able to do whatever the heck he wants without having someone else tell him that it's wrong - that's all I'm saying. He was a happy camper...I'm glad he found his bliss.

It's a controversial subject and many people take it personally to be asked for money. The simple solution is to walk away from what you dont want and leave it for the ones who do.