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MasterKalif -> RE: A "hint" for Doms looking for subs... (6/7/2006 4:15:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: fun2getspanked
, I have written many a well thought out response to a sub (after carefully reading their profile) only to get nothing in response....it feels like such wasted time and opportunity...I at least have valorated in the past subs that say "no thank you".....so then, judging from this repeated experience, I have also fallen for the one liners, because to write anything else is a waste of time. By the way when I say one liners I dont refer to anything lewd or in bad taste, I usually refer to agreeing with something they
It is a bit of catch 22, isn't it? I don't think you need to write a "book" for your first email, but 2-3 sentences aren't that hard :) One liners will fail with many people, and of course, writing too much in the beginning just wastes your time too. The person you contacted is going to take many things into consideration besides your email as to whether they would find you a potential match. Photo, age, height, area you live in, etc.
I can understand why many women do not respond at all to an email if there is no interest. Saying "no" to someone is hard. I know when I do it, I almost always get a response back asking "why?". Plus, any response seems to jump some guys into the chase, and they keep emailing you, even after you have said no, trying to talk you into meeting them. I am sure other women here know exactly what I am saying :)
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fun2getspanked, thank you for the thoughtful response...I dont think I have written a book, rather a small paragraph...particularly when I have been interested in the past. In any case, I have seen many sub profiles that change when they say "no men" or "Im not looking" and then they are....so I think many subs are not even sure what they are seeking, and hence why men pursue them anyway....I have even asked subs with a very limited profile what they seek or are looking for and few ever answer, to me that indicates they dont know themselves. But you are right, it is a catch 22 as you say....but I tell submissives...just say "no thank you"...its short, polite, and to the point. I have never asked for details.
I need to add that some subs clearly "play" Doms in the sense that they act interested, they give you their msn messenger and yahoo messenger screen names, clearly as a way to sideline the Dom....that way they are never "online", and dont have to give any explanations...to me, that is much worse than saying "no thank you"...saves time for everyone. I say this because it has happened to me more than once...I almost have learned to expect it. Other Doms out there with this experience? or am I the only "lucky" one? lol
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