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After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 11:08:58 AM   
cocksuckerorl


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Status: offline 		My Dom and I broke up for various reason, but I find our play much more intense now. The way he plays doesnt change, but I find myself aching to play, more than ever. We don't have loving conversations and hugs as much as b4, and he doesnt even text me or call me except booty call, but I find it so intense and exciting. Im suffering from that he doesnt care about me as much but equally excited about it. I still love him, thats the key.
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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 11:10:53 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		oh boy..breakup sex...unfortunately you still have feelings for him that he doesn't reciprocate. I only see much heartbreak ahead for you. Be careful.

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 4:10:45 PM   
CelticPrince


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My Dom and I broke up for various reason, but I find our play much more intense now. The way he plays doesnt change, but I find myself aching to play, more than ever. We don't have loving conversations and hugs as much as b4, and he doesnt even text me or call me except booty call, but I find it so intense and exciting. Im suffering from that he doesnt care about me as much but equally excited about it. I still love him, thats the key.


cs,

very often the dynamic of D/s increases in proportion to objectivity as opposed to subjectivity which works against the actions of the Dominant.

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 5:29:51 PM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		Here's the thing. If a Dom breaks up with a girl and it's his doing, yet, she still wants to play, they both realize she's helpless to his domination and has to have it. He may even tell her that as he turns up the "heat" and watches her struggle in ways that end up exciting both of them. Heck, maybe he'll be so turned-on that he'll want her back completely.

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 10:52:33 PM   
xssve


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Status: offline 		Be careful, women become more fertile after a breakup - Mother Nature is sneaky bitch - that's how I ended up with Two kids, lol.

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 11:09:40 PM   
SpiritedRadiance


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Status: offline 		Why are you still seeing someone who you are no longer in a relationship with?

Remember you broke up for a reason, dont let a man use you just because hes a Dom who says, Ya have to Im a dom... blah blah...


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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 11:09:40 PM   
myotherself


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ORIGINAL: cocksuckerorl

My Dom and I broke up for various reason, but I find our play much more intense now. The way he plays doesnt change, but I find myself aching to play, more than ever.

Aching to play, or aching to feel again those intense emotions that you used to have with him inside and outside of play?

We don't have loving conversations and hugs as much as b4, and he doesnt even text me or call me except booty call, but I find it so intense and exciting.
Im suffering from that he doesnt care about me as much but equally excited about it.

The brief moments of "togetherness" will be exciting, but the payback is that once the play/sex is over you get to be single again. Every time he leaves, you get to go through the emotional pain of the break-up. Again.

Is it really worth it? He's getting what he wants without having to even call you if he doesn't feel like it, and you're facilitating that. .

I still love him, thats the key.

Then you need to take responsibility for the situation and sort it. You don't have a relationship with him. He's a play/fuck-buddy.

You are not going to be able to grieve the end of the relationship and prepare yourself for something more healthy and long-term while you're clinging onto the rotten carcass of your previous relationship.

It's entirely up to you.




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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/14/2010 11:14:28 PM   
GreedyTop


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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/15/2010 3:06:23 AM   
AquaticSub


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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/15/2010 4:06:40 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Yep, break up sex is really amazing.  That's why we have a term for it.   One day it will hurt you more than it will give you yummies.  I hope you have some friends to help you through that... Good luck, and best wishes,
sunshine

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/15/2010 8:29:02 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/16/2010 5:03:39 PM   
clitwhipscream


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Status: offline 		I live with my 'ex', Shepard. We also run a home based buissness together and have been friends now for more than ten years several of them spent if full D/s with each other. Hy isnt really active due to health problems. Hy loves stalking me through the house and other non sex based games and loves to cuddle. I have other playmates A hard core dom I call the Dragon, and his assistant, Bliss. Shepard plays along with the Dragon too...will call Him while I am over there and ask for things, like having me spanked because of something I did to piss hymn off last week. Even when we played hard, Hy is a gentle mindfucker and I have always had a masochistic streak hy wasn't quite comfortable with. We have a partnership today that amazes me. Hys fantasy these days, is to use me as a cuckhold. Hy wants to play with other girls, pretending I dont know, and now and again, for me to catch Hymn at it. Hy calls it a "catch and release" program. Exes, can grow into some of the best friends you will ever have in your life. Just be willing to allow the relationship to change, sometimes drasticly.

Our relationship today is so different that it was back then, but Hy is as hot to me today as he was 10 years ago.



< Message edited by clitwhipscream -- 11/16/2010 5:27:03 PM >

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/16/2010 5:26:04 PM   
frazzle


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Status: offline 		I "play" with an ex. It works, he knows me, so knows the right buttons.

At the same time, we both know as a couple we dont work, but while single!!!

Better the devil you know.

Just see it for what it is and continue the search.

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/16/2010 5:36:50 PM   
BambiBoi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cocksuckerorl

My Dom and I broke up for various reason, but I find our play much more intense now. The way he plays doesnt change, but I find myself aching to play, more than ever. We don't have loving conversations and hugs as much as b4, and he doesnt even text me or call me except booty call, but I find it so intense and exciting. Im suffering from that he doesnt care about me as much but equally excited about it. I still love him, thats the key.



An alternative conclusion is that this blessing to men likes the humiliation. I quote the entirety of Cocksucker's profile: "I provide the ultimate cock sucking for guys who love hardcore face fucking. group face fucking welcome too. I will be on my knees, you can slap me around, fuck my mouth and throat until I cry. your satisfaction guaranteed." No mention of wanting respect, long term relationship, conversation, consideration, money, or even sexual return. This little Cocksucker likes to please.

Being nothing but a booty call is very humiliating, but can be very sexy and liberating as well. The scenario affords Cocksucker to truly feel objectified, in a way more real than being "His sex toy" in a relationship. In a relationship, after "using the whore" you both climb into bed, and cuddle until your bodies get too warm and sticky, then sleep away from each other. In Cocksucker's new life situation, she gets a text message, comes outside, blows him while he drives around, gets kicked out of the car while her face is still dripping. That's a very much more "real" objectification.

Yes, there is a risk that Cocksucker's behavior invites abuse, but that is an issue between consenting adults. What I urge in this situation is the following: (Talking directly to Cocksucker) If you feel like this arrangement is working out to your pleasure and enjoyment, then rock on. If you're desperately trying to win him back, you're running your heart through the meat grinder.


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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/17/2010 1:35:10 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		BambiBoi i think you are right on the mark
also: after breakup and if you can handle it it is actually quite ok to have occasional sparkling sex with the ex (of course use condoms!) to not get too desperate for cock while looking for a new lover.

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RE: After breakup our play is so much more intense now! - 11/17/2010 6:45:29 PM   
jujubeeMB


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I understand why that's enormously hot to you, OP, but it's also enormously masochistic, and not really in a way that can last a long time. Eventually it will do things to your self-esteem and heart and unless you want to only be a fucktoy (and not a girlfriend) for all time, you'll be better off if you can pull yourself away at some point in the near future. There's something so delicious about that level of objectification and humiliation, but trust me: you can find that within the safety of a relationship where your love is reciprocated. And frankly, you can go deeper into it because it's not so painful.

Best of luck, and don't add a layer of self-judgment to what you're already going through. Just accept that this was something you needed to do and move on as soon as you can.

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