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RE: Being collared - 11/16/2010 8:07:23 AM

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That was cute! After all the serious responses I needed a smile. Thanks.

You're welcome!

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RE: Being collared - 11/16/2010 10:59:23 AM

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Took us 18 months before we were both ready. He took it out i knelt said that i loved him and would obay him and he sais he loved me also and he would look after me and my well being. He placed it arounf my neck and took my hands helped me up gave me a hug and a kiss.

It looks like a necklace a gold circle encirled by diamonds. I just looks likr a pretty necklace to others but we know what it means and that is all that matters. We have been together close to 5 years. We took this step as a more serions commiment.

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RE: Being collared - 11/17/2010 7:03:17 AM

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I don't know if anyone is planning to colalr me, this was just an issue I wondered about. My husband definitely would not since he does not approve of anything outside of vanilla. I doubt my Dom will because he has already told me that sinc eI am married, I cannot be collared.

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RE: Being collared - 11/17/2010 10:33:04 AM

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I've had two collarings with my Master. The first was a simple, store-bought collar that was agreed beforehand didn't mean much more than the fact that we were together and enjoyed it, a way to identify me as his visually. It was a simple matter of kneeling before him and him putting it on me. Master and I both like ceremony and protocol with things, so it was a fun moment.

My second collar, Master had custom-made for me. We had a long talk before the ceremony about what it meant to us, and what I could expect to have happen when I was collared. With clear heads, we agreed to what the collaring meant, the commitment it symbolized. Then during our visit together (we are LDR right now), it was an intense, very serious and powerful experience. He took me deep into subspace with a good cropping and usage, then dragged me in front of a mirror by my hair and had me kneel. As he circled me repeatedly with intense stare, I had to remain in the same pose while he spoke to me of what it meant ot be his and how I was his in all ways. Shaking and in tears from emotion(the best kind!!!) I agreed to his demands. The collar was pulled securely about my neck and fastened, then Master proceeded to finish his claiming in every possible way. It was one of the most amazing experiences of my life.

The most important aspect about the whole thing was that expectations were clearly discussed, that there was good communication about it. I knew what was coming, we both knew what it meant, so there was no second-guessing or confusion. Just bliss.

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RE: Being collared - 11/21/2010 11:27:56 AM

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I am new to this lifestyle and with my first Dom. I am curious about the appropriate response if I am collared. i know if collared, it is a place of honor and i do not want to respond inappropriately if this happens. Would anyone be willing to share their experience with being collared?

A place of honor? Who's honor exactly? I don't think of my collaring Carol as doing her any particular "honor"... at least, no moreso than marrying her was. Were it me, I would want you to respond as YOU. Anything else would be inappropriate.... ESPECIALLY any response that was garnered from the internet as an appropriate way for some fictional label to behave.

Another point... the essence of dominance is telling those you are dominating crisply and clearly what you want so... you know... they can do it. I'd assume that your dom is telling you what he wants and how you ought to respond. If he's not telling you, then either he has no preference (at this time anyway) or he's failing in his role and needs to step it up a notch.

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RE: Being collared - 12/3/2010 11:57:09 PM

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Your concern of inappropriate response is a valid one. There is, however, one voice that is going to give the answer that you must heed, and that is Your the one of Your future Mistress/Master. If S/He is the One, S/He will be happy that you want to know and proud of you for trying. S/He will also be eager to help you and show you what S/He wants.
This is just my humble opinion and it is *smiling* only the biased result of a happy past.

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RE: Being collared - 12/4/2010 12:22:08 AM

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I see in your profile:

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I am a sub female with a long distance Male Master and he has requested i find a sub female to keep me company and for both of us to play with. I have never been with a female but have always wanted to but am married so discretion is a must. When my Master is away, I want some girl time.

So your collaring would have to be discreet as well? Woman, stop the lying and the cheating and straighten out your life! This thread has a lot of good options to helping a vanilla spouse to share your interests: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1990013/mpage_1/tm.htm

You have a husband to keep you company. Your long distance male is likely thinking of his own titillation, not your best interests.

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RE: Being collared - 12/4/2010 5:39:05 AM

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I am new to this lifestyle and with my first Dom. I am curious about the appropriate response if I am collared. i know if collared, it is a place of honor and i do not want to respond inappropriately if this happens. Would anyone be willing to share their experience with being collared?

IMO the appropriate response to you being collared (a sign of commitment) would be to tell your husband that you are now in a committed relationship with another man.

It blows my mind that you can view cheating as "a place of honor" - normally a person who feels honored by something doesn't need to be discreet about it.

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RE: Being collared - 12/4/2010 5:53:50 AM

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Beware of TOS and calling out individual users.

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