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leadership527 -> RE: Safe House? (11/21/2010 9:34:21 AM)
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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
WOW... there is a lot of negativity and hostility to this idea, and I'm not sure where that is coming from. Are we -really- so cynical that we would have to assume that anyone offering to provide this kind of assistance to the community MUST be a predator? Really?.
For me... kind of. It's not so much that I assume the OP is a predator. It's that I assume there's enough of a chance of that, especially given the way it was all setup, to make me have an awful lot of concerns. I mean, let's face it. Despite the great big kum-bay-ah "community" I hear about, what I also hear about is a community which preys on it's own members and usually feels pretty OK about that. What I also hear about is that the most common method for doing so is with training and "safe houses". Why else would such a totally innocuous and vanilla word have such a bad reputation int he BDSM "community"? More to the point, in a totally different context, would I recommend the vanilla equivalent of this to Carol... hell no! I'd suggest she at least find some place where there are real professionals and some sort of actual oversight. I'd also suggest she find someplace that didn't include a sexual tone.
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As some of you know, and as I've mentioned in other posts, I essentially do this, and have done it for a number of years, in a MUCH less formal way Doing so in your community and with people who know you is hardly the same thing as presenting some generic plan to the internet at large. I help people also... not just "lost subs", but pretty much anyone who needs help that I think I can help. But these people happen organically. There are no "trust issues" because of the way it all happened to start with. There are no expectations on my part of either obedience or any kind of payback... sexual or otherwise. It's an entirely different setup to what's been presented here.
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