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serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 12:03:50 AM

MistWalker

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Not realy sure were to post this but since its a question geared towards Mistress side of things yet from a sub point of view. so i suppose here was as good as any..
I'm looking for some ideas for a serve, its not generaly something asked of me, at least to do so formaly. though it is something Mistress tends to enjoy. and it has been to long since something like that was done, with her scedual being as busy as it has. There is some down time comeing up though and i want to do something special.. realy just looking for some opinions ideas on things that would be generaly pleaseing, none to be discounted. and as its to be a suprise of sorts i cant exactly ask her what she would like out of it. though i do have a good idea of what would be pleaseing by whats been done in the past. am just looking for some ideas others have used to incoperate, or consider atleast. She dose so much for me, and while i do all i am asked and more. i feel this is somethign i can give even extra in, as its enjoyed but seldom asked of me to serve formaly. i wish to do it for her without it beeing asked... i just seem to be going blank on ideas.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 12:22:13 AM

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That's lovely. What about you wearing some killer leather pants and just a bow tie and some white cuffs (think Chippendales dancers) draw her a bubble bath with some rose petals placed 'just so' on the bubbles along with a glass of her favorite champagne, candles instead of regular lighting and soft music in the background. Get one of those big soft sponges to wash her back, some nice expensive shampoo to wash her hair, and a new extra big fluffy towel to dry her off after her bath.. then fix her a fabulous dinner, rent one of her favorite movies to watch while you fix her favorite meal with all the trimmings, and while she's dining, you can sit at her feet giving her a foot massage until it's time to clear the dishes away. Don't forget a sinful dessert to go with that feast! Once the movie is done and everything is cleared away, a tantric massage to go with her relaxed feet, some nice aroma therapy misting the air.. (turn off the phone for the night!) .. and when it's all done, kneel down in front of her and ask her how you may be of further service.. I'd bet dollars to donuts she'll think of a few things. :)

sounds like heaven to me..

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 4:36:14 AM

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Hmm if it were me I would love to be taken to a top notch hotel, maybe have a limo pick her up and take her to the hotel. Meet her in the lobby and go upstairs to a beautiful room with candles, roses (or her flowers of choice if she likes them) her favorite music softly playing as you two enjoy a dinner for two in bed. Feed her with your fingers, be very attentive and give her everything you know she likes. Perhaps a room with a hottub where she could relax afterwards or a nice warm oil massage from you.
Its romantic and sweet, the hottub/massage may even make her very horny ( I know they do me

) If she likes something more energetic perhaps you could do a striptease performance for her, or hire a male stripper for her as she watches and you feed her. Lots of possiblities

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 5:07:18 AM

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Here are a few ideas that I have seen or done personally.

Prepare a meal if possible serve it nude. Kneel at her feet with the plate and ask to feed her. Make the food something that can be feed to her in an easy yet sensual manner. Take the napkin and dab her mouth from time to time. Thank her for allowing you to serve her. Only when she is done do you get up from her feet.
Prepare a fun meal and use your body as the plate.
Learn how to give a good body massage. Get some massage oil and a towl and ask if you can give her a massage. Perhaps spread petals of some kind on the bed or floor for her to lay on. Light some aroma candles and have some relaxing music in the back ground. Simply pamper her.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 6:52:04 AM

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Be mindful of your body and strive to do every action with grace and fluidity. The attitude and movement it will bring to your body are quite impressive.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 7:08:16 AM

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LA that reminds me a submissive friend, gawd knows I had every reason to loathe her (won't go into it, but its suffice to say that I did) at a private play party where we had games for the subs. They were to walk up stairs with an ankle bracelet and bells and to NOT make a noise. What made this girl different was her attitude... she wasn't looking to give him reason to punish her, which most of the other girls/subs were... her task was set and she did all she could to do it well... treading lightly and concious of not letting her master down... as dom, it was a pleasure to watch...even though I loathed her at the time lol, you couldn't knock her for trying and the effort put in. In that moment, to me, she embodied submission to a loved other. Walker I have nothing to add, but attitude does go a long way ...good luck with your endeavours.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 7:20:12 AM

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Much good advice here, LA's comment about moving with grace and fluidity is so very true. I once had a very glorious submissive who was a dancer and when she was really on, it was a sight to behold!

Along those lines it isn't the big things that make the difference, it is doing all the little things with the tiny extra steps that take things from ordinary to sublime.

Everyone gives foot massages but almost all do so in a very clunky manner. Make sure both feet are comfortable when you begin, then when you are finished with one foot, thoughtfully bend the leg and return it to its resting place so that she has to make no effort. Small thing but one I almost always have to teach.
When you prepare a meal, take the time to make the table look perfect as well as the food on the plate.
The Body Shop and others sells those wonderful shower gloves that feel wonderful and I don't think there is anyone who doesn't enjoy having their back scrubbed.
See what you can do about freeing up her schedule. When appropriate, I have called my partner's bosses and arranged for a surprise day off. Arrange one of the many outings described here by others or a special one of your own choosing.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 9:57:06 AM

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*smiles* many thanks to all who have responded, there are some excelent ideas within them. and excelent comments additions to the ideas as well. though some can not be used at the moment, for variouse reasons they will defently be filed away..

i think my biggest comment is to LA, that is excedingly true, and something i do understand.the fluid motions, and grace of each are important, and not something im all that good at, but i find that being confident in it helps as well. its a matter of beliveing in ones self that it can be acomplished corectly... and practice laughs..

how i do wish i could use some of these ideas though, the settings and thoughts are beautifule.. but i do belive i can work up a good setting out of a combination.. its a great shame though i can t make use of the aromatic ideas, i do thing they would work wonders for relaxing, and i personaly love beautiful scents for mood. but Mistress is in most cases alergic to fragrences, and overly strong scents such as those .. well would decidely ruin things and put me in deep shit since i know better...

as to freeing up sceduals, thats takeing care of its self, She was finishing up college corses to get her degree, and its finaly over save one test..

any way, my thanks to all that have responded thus far.. its great to see the ideas others have, and how they differ/match your own.. given me some good new thoughts as well..

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 10:23:27 AM

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Dear MistWalker; Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can empathize with your Mistress’s sensitivities to scents. So perhaps, instead of real roses, find a craft store that have “silk” flowers, which look extremely real. They have no scents at all. If you are around a store named AC Moore, which is a craft store, they often have people who make floral arraignments for you and some are already pre made.

Unscented candles would work as well.

A small formal dinner is always my favorite thank you from my slave. Table for one, with candles, linen, silverware, table set formal, to include a centerpiece, with my slave in service, I enjoyed a fine meal indeed.

There are nail technicians that do house calls, as well as masseuses. She can have her nails manicured and feet pedicure in house. Massage in house.

Milk baths are very rare but, the most natural of skin exfoliate methods, even used by the Egyptians thousands of years ago. Rinse with water and pat dry and then use body massage oils and then powder.

Perhaps in your conversations with your Mistress, you can get her idea on what would be the best way to spoil her, as Queen for the day.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/28/2006 10:19:55 PM

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Another idea for people who are sensitive or simply don't like strong over powering scents is to stash lavener. It's rather subtle and you can easily tuck it inside a nite stand drawer or even as a decoration on the back of a toilet. I have also seen small pockets sewn onto couch throw pillows for lavendar.

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RE: serve ideas.. - 4/29/2006 7:55:05 AM

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MistWalker,

The possibilities are endless here. The goal is to make your Dominant feel like he/she is the most important thing to you. Focus all of your attention on making him/her feel amazing and be sure you have plenty of time set aside. You have some great advice in the above posts. Find a kink friendly Massage Therapist (i happen to be one.. they are out there) and watch him/her be pampered from head to toe. During this time you can also watch carefully so that you can do it yourself next time. Your Dom/Domme will surely be impressed with your efforts to learn to worship better. After trying some of the things mentioned.. i agree.. just simply ask your Dom/Domme what you can do to serve further.

Most of all enjoy being submissive and pleasing him/her.

Good luck.

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