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TexasMaam -> RE: HOW TO: Requesting sub to do things without using plse (11/21/2010 3:05:51 PM)
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This topic could have been posted by My beloved cadillacsub.
He has recently been sacrificing almost ALL of his non working hours here at My home building, repairing, fixing, creating, organizing and in general busting his balls for Me.
I am not in the habit of asking any man to 'please do this' or 'please do that'. I will use the word please when it is something of vital, interpersonal importance to Me.
If it is something as simple as hauling a load of something here or unloading it there, I might ask 'what would you think about doing 'thus and such', but I will rarely, if ever, ask 'please'.
If I DO use the word please, I expect the party listening to hear Me and take it to heart. As in 'please do not back over the ceramic pot at the edge of the driveway, I just planted it with pansies for winter.'
It's not that I'm ungrateful for the hours, expense or effort involved in his generous help and assistance rendered, quite the opposite. Taking the initiative to do something for Me fills My heart with sincere gratitude and it bonds Me ever more closely to the man who does so on My behalf.
When I suggest or prioritize a list of chores or mention something that I think would be a good idea, more often than not My beloved cadillacsub jumps at the opportunity and presents me with the 'fait accompli' in much better fashion that if I were to have done the task myself. Its kind of like saying 'Me hungry' and cave man jumps up, runs off, and in short order drags a deer carcass into the cave! I never ask him to 'please go kill us something for the spit, honey???'
All of that said, it came as a total surprise to Me when recently My beloved cadillacsub was a mite out of sorts. We were outside completing some chore when he quipped ".....PUHLEEEZE?????" after I had given some curt directive about something (I have actually forgotten now what it was that set him off).
I fumed in silence for awhile then forced a very gutteral "Puhleeeeeeeeeeze" out of my throat every single time we worked together on something.... as in 'set the hammer down on the tailgate of the truck "Puhleeeeeeeeeeze"!'
I was highly irritated at having been dictated to, in a very submissive way, that I really should be asking 'please' much more often than I do.
I have not yet modified my behavior, and it's highly unlikely that I will ask 'please' at every turn. But I will say this much for My cadillacsub: He got me thinking about the word 'please' much more often than I used to!
>> exits, laughing......
Texas Maam
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