RE: Your introduction to this world?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Your introduction to this world?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Your introduction to this world?

Page: << < prev 1 [2]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 11/21/2010 6:24:12 PM

sweetsub1957

Posts: 2201
Joined: 4/28/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: AIH
I would like to know, how you found out you belong here; was it a process? If so, how did it begin? Have you always known? Did you just wake up one day and then you knew where you belonged?

I met two submissive men on a vanilla dating site and they explained it to me. I realized that I was submissive too. One of them sent me a link to a photo and, from there, I deleted the photo part of the link and ended up at Alt.com dating. Then i switched to Collarme cause it's free. I met my first kink experience through Alt.com. When I had my first experience, I realized I would never, could never, ever go back to vanilla. What a life!

~sweetsub~

_____________________________

Member: Lance's Fag Hags.

"That's not just a chip on her shoulder, that's the whole potato!" ~Lady Angelika~

In lowering yourself to talking behind my back, you're perfectly positioned to kiss my ass.

An it harm none, do what ye wilt.

(in reply to AIH)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 11/27/2010 10:20:33 AM

txurinal

Posts: 209
Joined: 9/26/2009
Status: offline

As a boy, I loved playing games such as Cowboys & Indians, Cops & robbers, etc. as these were games where i could be tied up and sometimes gagged. i found i loved being restrained and helpless. As I grew older and went through puberty i found myself masturbating to fantasies that always involved me being bound and gagged.

As a young man in my early 20's , i wanted to experience bondage and discipline but grew up in a relatively small town where one could not think how to meet someone into this or how to find them. My 1st experience with BDSM in a more sexual arena was with a professional MISTRESS. Although at the time i was realizing i was gay, this was the late 70's and finding male dominants was virtually impossible where i lived. Even today it is difficult finding professional male dominants that will take male clients.

This session took me to places i had only dreamed of before. i was tightly restrained, blindfolded and gagged, paddled and flogged, and at the end, allowed to masturbate at the MISTRESS' feet. There was no going back.

Later, with another MISTRESS, i had my 1st experience with a male dominant and my future as a gay slave was sealed.

(in reply to sweetsub1957)

Profile

Post #: 22

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 12/3/2010 5:41:47 AM

lp123

Posts: 4
Joined: 9/17/2010
Status: offline

I stumbled around the internet watching straight porn. I saw a video of Dom Karin and was amazed at how beautiful and sexy she was while peeing on a lucky guy. I found her site, linked to others and was thourghly intrigued by BDSM. A few years later I summoned the nerve and emailed that awesome woman and traveled west to see her. No regrets, it has been the time of my life. Les

(in reply to leadership527)

Profile

Post #: 23

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 12/4/2010 11:40:02 AM

CaringandReal

Posts: 1397
Joined: 2/15/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

quote:

ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf

Oops. Didn't notice the forum this was posted in. Damn that As the Collar Turns ;).

Me either, for exactly the same reason.

I was midway through dropping a clanger when I flicked back and noticed your post, so cheers

Well, I think it's quite nice to see the Dominants and Masters visiting in this section. Stick around! Clang away! :)

_____________________________

"A friend who bleeds is better" --placebo

"How seldom we recognize the sound when the bolt of our fate slides home." --thomas harris

(in reply to RapierFugue)

Profile

Post #: 24

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 12/4/2010 1:22:03 PM

lovingpet

Posts: 4270
Joined: 6/19/2005
Status: offline

Well, like others, the internet brought this to my doorstep. It isn't that I didn't have a definite proclivity before, but I didn't know that there were very specific and intensive ways of living that fit those needs. I started in a chatroom somewhere in cyberspace mostly seeking out some answers to a few questions I had recently started entertaining about my own sexuality. Somehow I found my way to a D/s room and it was comfortable. I seemed to push the bar all the time though. I remember wanting to have one person I waited for like others did, but it wasn't to be. My needs were, in another user's words, too big. I needed more than I was going to find there.

My husband and I experimented for awhile, during which time I had been directed here and placed a profile and meeting and greeting new people to see if anything would click. This was completely wrong for my husband though. He loves me to death, but there is a very definite line beyond which he is not able to go to meet my needs. He has no desire for control or anything resembling leadership. He also doesn't like hurting me. We gave it a very strong try, but it just was not to be.

The wait for my partner was not a particularly long one. I kind of have some insecurity over getting so lucky so fast, but I know we are an unmatched fit. Let me just say that this man was NOT what I wanted. I was just so sure that we had nothing in common. He wanted things that were not only hard limits of mine, but actually upset me. Still, there was his profile every now and then when I would log in. Why did I just have to read it...AGAIN??? What was the fascination? I wrote him and the rest is history. That was two and a half years ago. We are currently still going strong, getting ready to soon merge households, and I couldn't be happier.

Never has this been an easy path for me. It brings up questions about myself and the way I view the world that can get under my skin and make me uncomfortable. I have to accept hard things about who I am, what I need, and what it all means. It's definitely a journey and one not for the faint of heart, but it has been most rewarding and ultimately has lead to me understanding myself more deeply than ever and learning to love myself as is and not in the pretty packaging I'd wrapped myself in.

lovingpet

_____________________________

If you put your head into more, you'd have to put your back into less. ~Me

10 Fluffy pts.

(in reply to leadership527)

Profile

Post #: 25

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 12/4/2010 8:17:44 PM

petmonkey

Posts: 1053
Joined: 7/7/2009
Status: offline

~FR~

i was literally whacked over the head with a copy of "Screw the Roses" and i liked it, partially because i was told to.

That's the short answer.

For a long time, i kept following people around, tagging-along, showing deference and honoring them--for better or worse; sometimes like a damned fool and sometimes like a holy one. Eventually, i tagged-along with a couple of them to a dance club, then to the sexuality section in a bookstore and then to a private party . . . you get the idea.
It seemed like a better plan to purposely follow someone who purposely led, rather than muddle on through relationships with people who didn't acknowledge that they were the boss. And you know, there were fewer orgasms to be had if sex didn't at least occasionally also include red skin, a few welts, a bit of unusual bruising, maybe an abrasion or two, the sound of rope slithering across itself, the clicking of buckles and clasps, the screech of tape being pulled from its roll, etc. etc. and so forth.

_____________________________

Be excellent to each other.

(in reply to lovingpet)

Profile

Post #: 26

RE: Your introduction to this world? - 12/4/2010 10:04:12 PM

petmonkey

Posts: 1053
Joined: 7/7/2009
Status: offline

CaringandReal,

i, too, read the Story of O and 8 1/2 Weeks when younger, and while they jazzed me, they were actually a hindrance for me getting my feet wet---not so much because i found the acts the main characters endured shocking or horrific. Especially 8 1/2 weeks, it's the bit at the end, when she's considering the idea that she's ruined for other relationships, other men from then on--i had a great terror of potentially experiencing that moment, the weight of that knowledge sounded like too heavy a load to bear.

i feel for you, for your loss.

_____________________________

Be excellent to each other.

(in reply to petmonkey)

Profile

Post #: 27