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looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/18/2010 10:28:47 AM

timdelbat

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Hello,

This may be an odd request, but i thought id see where it goes.

Im interested in talking a domme preferably, but would also consider a dom about controlling how i interact with my girlfriend.

Telling me when im allowed to fuck her possibly.

Possibly what I should do when sleeping with her.

Maybe making me do tasks to earn the ability to fuck her.

Maybe ruining me so I am not able to sleep with her, even when she wants to.

This will be more about you getting to control me rather than about her. I will show you one picture of her so you have an idea, but i will not be sharing photos of her afterwards.

If you are interested you can message em on collar me, or on [email address].

I am a 30yr white male in nyc.

Thanks for your time!

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/18/2010 1:34:07 PM

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You know, most of us would be interested in how your girlfriend feels about it, it's that pesky little thing called consent, and since she'd be involved, she would have to consent...

Apart from that, welcome.

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/18/2010 3:58:51 PM

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Welcome to the boards. And what LadyC said goes ditto for me. Does she know about it? Going behind her back may not be the best of ideas, just a gentle suggestion.

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/18/2010 5:13:17 PM

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Your profile says that it's you that'll be serving her, and makes no mention of your gf. What's the story?

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/18/2010 5:26:57 PM

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You need to be honest with her and explain what you are interested in. Don't talk about you getting all your kinks met but instead about her taking control to improve the relationship and her happiness.

But I can assure you that if you get someone else to prevent you making love with your girlfriend, making her self conscious and miserable as a result, you won't have her for long.

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/19/2010 12:44:46 PM

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Alright.....

Well, thanks for the warm welcomes.....

My girlfriend is very aware of my interest in being submissive. I have talked honestly about it with her (not always easy to do), shown her websites (not porn websites, but sites where people actually talk about it), bought her books to read, and asked her to talk to others online with me....

She is not into it. She is not comfortable doing it. At times I have felt like I pushed it to much and it upsets her.

I know, you are going to say I should find someone else....but i don't want to find someone else. Every other aspect of our relationship is wonderful, and I care about her and love her dearly.

So, I come on here to talk with other like minded people and keep it all on the internet rather than pursuing it in rel life with someone else. I understand some of you may not approve, and that is fine. For me, this is an outlet where i can talk about and explore without bringing someone directly into my life and not forcing her to be in an uncomfortable situation that she does not want to be in.

i will continue to talk to her about fantasies and hopefully at some point in our lives we will make progress on that.

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/19/2010 12:47:42 PM

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Nobody is saying you need or should break up with her, but if you want somebody to control your sex life and how you are having sex with her, this is involving her and could potentially be disastrous for your relationship. What if there is a domme who says you can't have sex with your gf for 2 weeks? What are you going to do? What if she tells you to do something and your gf doesn't like it...

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/19/2010 12:54:56 PM

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quote:

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For me, this is an outlet where i can talk about and explore without bringing someone directly into my life and not forcing her to be in an uncomfortable situation that she does not want to be in.

So she wants sex, and you keep refusing her. She feels unattractive, that maybe you've gone off her, maybe you've found another woman.

I'm not sure that won't be an "uncomfortable situation" for the poor woman...

When you have someone who controls your masturbation, that affects only you.

When you have someone who controls your sex life with your gf, then that affects her too. It's unfair and, as previous posters have so patiently pointed out, likely to make your gf feel so bad about herself and your relationship that she'll dump you and find someone who truly desires her.

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RE: looking to talk to domme or dom about my gf - 11/20/2010 4:46:30 AM

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Welcome to CM

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