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wuzamarine -> Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 4:20:41 AM)
I have been curious about this for a while and figure I would ask the pros. Am I a dom, or a sub or a switch if I am a cuck. but not a normal cuck. more like a 'pimp / hoe' type cuck. The humiliation side just does not apply with me at all. I am a Marine and you couldn't hurt my feelings on a good day but I am completely fascinated by a woman's sexuality to the point that the mere thought of having a girl friend who has regular sexual relations with other guys drives me wild to the point of making my knees buckle. I want her to show off to me how much fun she is having. I am confident that a huge portion of my attraction must be pheromone related because I dated a girl who squirted and I would go completely insane when it happened. I am equally as happy bring a couple of guys to her as I am with coming home to find her in bed with other (assuming she planned to be caught for our enjoyment). Am I dom, switch, sub?

BonesFromAsh -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:06:35 AM)
Why do you need a label?

SolangeRichards -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:09:06 AM)
I'm not trying to be a smart alec or sarcastic but isn't really up to you to define who you are? Keep in mind that you have asked a group of people who have never met you and know very little overall about you to put a name on you. Now, once getting that name, would/could your entire future play out in a certain direction based on their answer? What if the group wound up giving you a wrong answer? I know you are looking for some help. Read your own question. Think about what you want, what you need, how you want your life to be. Your answers are there, and they always were...

Kana -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:15:23 AM)
Labels limit by definition. Be yourself.

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:17:48 AM)
The question is actually pretty legit because I am missing a code word somewhere. 'Guy seeks slut' is just not working at all....

Tantriqu -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:20:37 AM)
Possibly bi-? Many would-be cuckolds are bisexual, closetted or not. If it were 'just' the female ejaculation that was arousing you, that's relatively simply done in the privacy of your own monogamous relationship with an agile tongue and a video cam. That you want to watch other guys having sex and 'catch' them at it raises other questions.

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:23:34 AM)
I can honestly say that is not the case. I did minor bi things like prep him for her. I was turned on by how much she was turned on. After and much later I tried it on my own. It did absolutely nothing for me. So, I am not bi. I can honestly say that my attraction and nirvana is her, not him. It's the way a woman moves and her ora when she is being highly provocative and down right slutty that makes me coco for coco puffs.

BonesFromAsh -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:26:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wuzamarine The question is actually pretty legit because I am missing a code word somewhere. 'Guy seeks slut' is just not working at all.... Kinky....but even that label will be limiting.

Kana -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:41:05 AM)
How bout something like, "Indescribably way out of the box guy seeks free-thinking woman."

BonesFromAsh -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:44:37 AM)
[sm=agree.gif] Works for me! Is there a box to check for that online, though?

Kana -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:47:24 AM)
We need a box that simply says "open-minded." Chortles

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 5:54:41 AM)
OMFG, that's excellent! Let's go for two for two here. Then when is the perspective for male vs female so completely different even though many or most of us are looking for the exact same thing. Common ground on a title is one thing. I seem to be having an issue communicating the rest of it as well. You did so well on the first one. :)

peppermint -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 6:42:24 AM)
Why do you feel that enjoying watching your girl friend with other guys has anything to do with being a dominant, submissive, or a switch? Is it so bad to be a plain vanilla guy who enjoys kink?

DarkSteven -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 6:44:44 AM)
Based on everything you've said, I can't tell. If you tell her that she's going to be screwing two guys you're bringing home tonight, you're a Dom. If she tells you that she wants you to bring home two guys for her, you're a sub. The question is, who's in control?

LadyPact -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 8:03:27 AM)
Just because you happen to like a particular kinky scenario, doesn't mean you are any of the above. So far, the only accurate description that I would have for you would be voyeur. There's nothing in your post about control, power, or authority so nothing else really applies. As to many of us looking for the same thing, the truth is, we're not. Matching kinks isn't as easy as you seem to be thinking. For example, a woman who might be interested in the sexual scenario that you describe above, might want more than just that in her life. For example, if these are the types of play that a cuckholdress would enjoy, she may also want the whole package of only doing it with a submissive who is the person in control of the whole relationship. It may be a submissive who is only willing to do this under the authority of a strong Dominant man. Many people want a whole dynamic, not just a relationship based on spicy sex.

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 10:37:27 AM)
Not sure exactly. You may be right. I may be 'unclassificationable'. A category ALL my own. The Brad category! :) Another party I will be the only member of......

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 10:40:35 AM)
I love both equally of what you list. I'm just mad whacked and confused I guess. I honestly though I was a dom for a while but when ever I started fantasizing about coming home to a woman in bed with a couple of guys, I figured a dom category kind of slipped through the cracks... and for that exact reason because everything else I enjoy is basically dom things.

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 12:31:53 PM)
I think you have provided the most valuable information yet. I think you may have a very valid point. If I have zeroed in then that becomes a closed door for other options (or the appearance of ) to other looking in. Grrrrrr.... The more I ponder it, the more I realize your correct. Basically, chill the fuck out. I see that 10 yr mark again..........

MzMinx -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 2:06:19 PM)
Try looking up terms like 'hot wife' ... if what you are seeking is a woman who is sexually arroused by multiple partners, rather than the act of controlling who and how she is sexually active ... or being motivated by her desires to lead

wuzamarine -> RE: Looking for classification.. (11/21/2010 2:26:04 PM)
Oh how I wish that were the case. That is basically what I seek and enjoy. My warm fuzzy. But those are taken by definition. Hot "wife". I am not looking to be a third wheel. It's not just the sex I am after. It's the environment. The goofy jokes that come about from doing crazy shit. It's the interaction that comes from sharing really interesting experiences. It's being in a relationship where you power down so many of the typically walls and curiosities because you are neck deep in the middle of it. Sex is a huge factor, but not for the expected reasons.

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