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ORIGINAL: Arpig

~FR~
While I tend to agree with most of what has been said about cheaters, I thought I would point out something from my own life. My Ex and I have been apart for well roughly 5 years now. We live separately and live entirely separate lives. We are, to the best of my knowledge divorced, yet she insists we are only legally separated and are technically still married...if she's right then I would technically be cheating if I were to be with somebody else.
So, apparently, it possible to be both married and not married at the same time

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Arent there any papers giving the final divorce decree?

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it'll be important when it comes to retirement benefits and taxes and all that other fun stuff. settling an estate might be difficult for any heirs if she outlives you as well. better to get it settled now than leave all that bs up in the air.

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ORIGINAL: Rexeena

I was supposed to meet an alleged dom this week and just found out he's married. We'd been talking for three weeks and live in the same city, so we were going to do lunch.

He had said he is single, and in his profile (on fetlife, not here) he claims to be a "SWM". Even though it's not the best indicator, he was always with different girls, or male friends in pictures and even sent one with his mom...I guess to seem more legit? I realize some are into polyamory, and even though that's really not my thing, from what I understand, all parties have to agree.
I'm sure his wife has no idea.


Lesson: Check your county's public records before meeting someone, so you can stay away from cheating assholes. Whitepages helps, but it isn't enough because it doesn't always list the spouse, as in this case. The marriage started on 9/15 so that probably wouldn't be enough time to get the info updated.

EDIT: ...guess I should explain the title? a couple of friends had suggested that at his age it was not unlikely for him to be married and well, it's a nice little ironic 'duh!' moment for me