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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 2:43:02 AM

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you ask about how to handle it? I was just reading some of these posts... and what came to mind is that if my Master was "heartbroken" or I'd intentionally hurt him in some extreme way.... my biggest night mare would be to have no punishment at all... if he doesn't care enough to punish me for screwing up, especially on a monumental level... then our relationship is over. So, just...decide how much time and effort she's worth. If it's not worth the time it would take to punish her.... then don't. For a real sub, this is a terrible punishment.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 6:00:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: nightfury

Thank you for all the comments so far I really appreciate it. OsideGirl..I have not accepted it and right now we are not together because of it. There is no behavior modification if the behavior is not modified.

Red..that is precisely what has happened...but I like giving an ass beating to make it glowing red and hot...lol

Angel. Thank you for your words and you are exactly right.

angelikaJ thank you for that insight very true as to what you have said. I can say that I don't think I have reinforced bad behavior...quite honestly just the opposite..I have let it know when I was disappointed but tried to be nurturing of her to do better and reinforce the times I have been pleased and thankfu

so youre in a punishment dynamic.

she feels vindicated by what she said and did because all lg's break theyre daddies hearts apparently, i wouldnt know i dont do daddy/lg, and she gets a beating too. win win for her.

you enjoyed punishing her.

time will tell of course, but i rather suspect youll be revisiting this situation before too long or one similar

if thats what youre into then go for it. if it isnt dont reward her with the exact response she's after. decide what it is you want and run with it.

just think on this for a mo tho....., if each time she prats about with youre feelings and emotions and gets rewarded with a beating youre setting youreself up for an emotional mine field - so who's in control of that, really? and how much self respect and self esteem do you have going on there.

and by the way....., there is no hard and fast rules on how people respond to people, not all lg's behave in this way, this is youre dynamic, there is no formula, its up to you to create the formula. so that comment of hers was bollox.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 6:13:47 AM

lally2

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nikkino

you ask about how to handle it? I was just reading some of these posts... and what came to mind is that if my Master was "heartbroken" or I'd intentionally hurt him in some extreme way.... my biggest night mare would be to have no punishment at all... if he doesn't care enough to punish me for screwing up, especially on a monumental level... then our relationship is over. So, just...decide how much time and effort she's worth. If it's not worth the time it would take to punish her.... then don't. For a real sub, this is a terrible punishment.

i think the point has been missed that to hurt youre Master intentionally to such a degree should infact impinge on the 'real' sub far more than any punishment or at least, in my book, it should. the punishment ought to be moot, the sub in question ought to feel shitty, instead she was let off the hook with a beating she probably was manipulating for in any case.

for heavens sake anyway - what sort of person intentionally hurts a person who is trying to give them a stable loving relationship. just wreaks of mean games for self gratification purposes.

but its theyre relationship, theyre welcome to it, sounds horrible to me.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 6:45:23 PM

WolfyMontgomery

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Sounds like she was more thinking of real fathers and daughters - since that's where that phrase comes from in my experience. Girls always break their Daddy's hearts. Because the girl will grow up, leave home, run away with some young man and get married, which breaks any father's heart.

But in a Daddy/little relationship (while I'm not 100% sure, but I do indeed have friends who are littles) the little girl never grows up to run away with some other guy. Nope. Not from what I've seen anyway. The little girl is technically already grown up, and her Daddy is the guy she's in love with, so there should be no reason for her to go run away with some other guy.

But it is VERY true that the one you love most you'll probably end up hurting the most - by sheer accident - simply because we have so much devoted and entrusted in our partners (and this counts for almost anyone who are in love, not just kink or Daddies/littles), that simple mistakes could very easily make a heart break. But if either party is worth it, they'll be able to get past their little - or large - mishaps.

And if they aren't? Why are you with them anyway?

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 6:58:37 PM

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It sounds really dumb. Daddy dom got his heart broken. lol.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 7:10:39 PM

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domi it is a big bad world out there, lil girls break daddy's hearts and what's a daddy to do? Crying on a message board can sometimes be helpful.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/27/2010 9:08:04 PM

CaringandReal

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ORIGINAL: lally2

...to hurt youre Master intentionally to such a degree should infact impinge on the 'real' sub far more than any punishment or at least, in my book, it should.

You go, Lally. That's what's written in my book, too.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/28/2010 10:57:46 PM

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This is an odd place to ask such a question.

Short answer - she's a waste of time and emotional energy. Launch her. Otherwise, she's dominating you and she'll be calling you 'bitch' before the month is out. To accept bad behaviour is to reward it.

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RE: breaking Daddy's heart - 11/29/2010 8:26:26 PM

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I have a Daddy, and I don't buy the idea that Daddies are supposed to get their hearts broken. That's really F'ed up. I always thought little girls were supposed to love and adore their Daddies, and want to do everything in their power to please Them and be obedient. If a Daddy is forever getting His heart broken by His little girl, I would wonder just how much she loves her Daddy....OR NOT....and if she is really just a selfish, unruly brat. After all, DD/lg is chosen, it's not just a random crap shoot like genetic father & daughter. But....that's just my opinion.

I agree, unless she's just playing around trying to get a spanking :). Seriously I would never disrespect my DD in any way shape or form. Especially being verbally abusive, that would be out of the question. If I disagree I would still do it respectfully. I love him too much to be adding to his stress, my job is to be his good girl!

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