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MHOO314 -> The Braid and the Knots (4/28/2006 2:26:27 PM)
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I wanted to share this analogy for thought and input, it is one I used with one of My students today and it seemed to appropriate to a BDSM relationship, it also is the result of some recent turbulent times--
I see the R/relationship like a macrame project--it starts with the ring, the agreement that there is a "circle" a yin and a yang, it moves, spins, but always supports. The T/two (add your number here) are the colored strands individual, from separate skeins of yarn---the initial knots are tied, separate and distinct. Then the weaving begins--if you think every strand, every knot is composed of mixed colors, I'd say you were wrong, for you have an identity that cannot and should not be lost completely in a relationship--as you each identify the things that are you, the knot should be your color alone---things like---elder care, child raising ( if pre-existing)--work decisions ( if pre-existing)--things that start out belonging to and are an agreement that they are you ( you here used to mean one or the other)---things that you agree on as a "team, family" should be mixed colors--as you make the knots, there should be an equal balance--IMHO--what I have found is when the knots are too much all one color, too much the other color, or two much a mix--its out of balance--if it becomes, this MUST be M/my knot and not yours---is it then that O/one begins to compromise themselves too much?
Thoughts?
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