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queenmay -> real slavery (11/26/2010 3:40:44 AM)

i want my slave into real slavery, how it can go on,
who can give me suggestion,
and if you have a real live-in slave, you should talk about he should behave before?
like if he need alway kneel?
if he eat on the floor?



GreedyTop -> RE: real slavery (11/26/2010 3:43:44 AM)

step AWAY from the fetish porn....



YoungBlondeSlave -> RE: real slavery (11/26/2010 3:52:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: queenmay

i want my slave into real slavery, how it can go on,
who can give me suggestion,
and if you have a real live-in slave, you should talk about he should behave before?
like if he need alway kneel?
if he eat on the floor?


i think you both need to discuss what will work for both of you. There is the fantasy which is always nice and can be done in small doses, and then there is reality which sadly has a pesky habit of getting in the way and demanding to be dealt with.

ALWAYS DISCUSS THINGS BEFOREHAND!!

Surprises are not always fun and you would do well to try to avoid them if possible.

(Trying really hard to understand what you're saying, language barrier is pretty big...i hope i'm on point about what you're asking. Otherwise, i haven't helped much.)



DarkSteven -> RE: real slavery (11/26/2010 5:52:17 AM)

Try a submissive.  You're not ready for a slave.



MidnightKat5000 -> RE: real slavery (11/26/2010 1:00:53 PM)

I agree with Steven, start out small.  You're not ready for an actual slave.



Steponme73 -> RE: real slavery (11/26/2010 3:31:39 PM)

No profile...no real information...no real answers.



FriendlyMuppet -> RE: real slavery (11/26/2010 9:41:24 PM)

Having a "real" slave is one of those things that has been discussed quite often even before the Internet became a popular place for discussion. What it is going to come down to is first finding someone who is quite capable of being that type of slave you want him/her to be, and once that happens, you have to ask yourself if you're quite capable of being someone who can maintain that type of lifestyle as well.

Over the years, I came across a lot of people who talked about wanting to experience a deep bdsm relationship, but when it came down to it, they weren't really as into it as they were into having people think they were into it, or at least feeling that they were experiencing it, but then after a certain amount of time just not able to continue it. Quite often, people mistake pushing limits with a "real slavery" relationship, when in fact what they're really interested in is exploring more than they are use to exploring, and experiencing the thrill of doing just that.

More often than not, you might end up with two people who tell each other they are interested in exploring just that, and neither one of them has had the "talk" where they really mesh out exactly what it is they want. So the relationshp starts, and both are convinced the other is on the same page, and then things start to not be what either one of them was expecting. Then, because neither wants to ruin what they fantasized about as an intense relationship, neither risks discussing what is going wrong, and you end up with two very unhappy people.

In essence, what it comes down to is communication is key. As long as both of you walk into it knowing what you're expecting, and the other has agreed to it, it just might work.

But one of the first steps you need to take is to stop using the "real" words, because "real" to one person is not "real" to someone else. I think what most people mean when they say this is they're looking for someone who is "sincere" and "serious" about it. Once you have that, "real" kind of falls into place.



slavem70 -> RE: real slavery (11/27/2010 6:01:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: queenmay

i want my slave into real slavery, how it can go on,
who can give me suggestion,
and if you have a real live-in slave, you should talk about he should behave before?
like if he need alway kneel?
if he eat on the floor?


i can only discuss this from a slave's point of view. Training a slave is a huge undertaking and rules much be made that covers every part of his existence and service. Most feel and i strongly agree that a slave should be kept naked and should not be allowed on the furniture. This enforces his role, but if he asked his owner may allow him to wear clothing inside and sit on the furniture but important thing is that his owner is in control of these things.



SpaceSpank -> RE: real slavery (11/27/2010 7:29:18 AM)

From both the Master/Mistress and slave standpoint you need to ask yourself what level of commitment are you prepared to give the other. Not all M/s relationships are walking around 24/7 365 days a year like you are in the middle of an extreme bondage scene. It's a lifestyle choice for both of you, and takes a huge amount of work and effort from all involved. It is also a very deep commitment, and you need to both figure out what will be your everyday norms. Does you slave walk around naked by default, do they eat and sleep off the floor? Will your slave work? Live with you all the time? How do you handle guests, what will they do outside the home, etc?
Who knows, that's for you two to work out. And quite likely if you're both new to this there will be some trial and error involved.





DesFIP -> RE: real slavery (11/27/2010 1:59:20 PM)

Try it all for yourself. Spend an entire day kneeling and see how it feels, if you can stand up and walk after. Try eating on the floor and see if you can do so neatly. And what about Thanksgiving dinner, would you have made him eat on the floor in front of your mother?

And stop watching porn. You want a relationship with someone who wants to do things for you just because he loves you. Because you inspire him to follow your lead because of your competence and great decision making that makes you worth following.



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