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RE: Chivalry and Masters/Doms - 11/27/2010 6:29:14 PM

StrongSpirit

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In general, my experience has been that most people retain quite a few cultural expectations, both male and female.

Men that are dominant often insist on paying to show they are dominant. Women that are dominant often insist that the man pay as part of his service.

Similarly dominant men often act chivalrous as part of being in control, while dominant women insist men serve them by acting chivalrous.

The truth is that all involved learned their culture very well and it has become a stronger part of their personality than their BDSM.

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RE: Chivalry and Masters/Doms - 11/29/2010 11:58:00 AM

yellowroses

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Chivalry doesn't lessen the dynamic at least for U/us. After almost 10 years he is still very much the gentleman. And after almost 10 years we have pretty much carved out what each of us does around the house.

He handles all things garage related and the kitchen is my domain. The other day I was rehanging a picture and he immediately came in when he heard me hammering. He said "let me do that, that's my job. You don't want me in the kitchen washing dishes doing your job do you?". The same thing happens in reverse when I hear him in the kitchen trying to do something domestic.

I have learned to take out the garbage though. Not one of my favorite things because I seem to run into a spider web everytime I take it out. But I now consider taking out the garbage as part of cleaning up so that is my job.

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RE: Chivalry and Masters/Doms - 12/2/2010 6:20:18 PM

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I try to be chivalrious as possible (in the classic sense of chivalry even, including learning stuff like dancing, martial arts, music, literature... huh... read the book of Baldassare to know what I am talking about), but now I wonder how much women like a chilvarious Dom.

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RE: Chivalry and Masters/Doms - 12/2/2010 10:14:55 PM

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We're not exactly typical, but for us it definitely hasn't lessened. Max is my guardian as well as my owner. Part of that is that we're both canines, and he is my collared guard dog (yes, collared to me, but in charge) so that creates a much different dynamic than the usual D/s or M/s relationship. But regardless of that, he sees it as his place as my owner to protect me and care for me in those situations where I need that kind of care. So as the slave I do the laundry, but he carries the basket up the steps.

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RE: Chivalry and Masters/Doms - 12/2/2010 10:18:19 PM

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In my experience, the more a woman feels secure, beloved, protected, cherished, listened to, respected, the more deeply she will love and be submissive to her man.

Well said.

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RE: Chivalry and Masters/Doms - 12/3/2010 10:07:46 AM

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Master opens doors for me yes even the car door. Wehn we are walking he will hold my hand ti portect me ans just because he likes holding my hand.. When we go out he insiste on ppaying for everything and when i try to pay he back he does not allow it. Does this make him less of a Dom? of course not. The other day i was sturggling to get the cap off my Ice tea he reached over without a word took it from me opened it and gave it back. I was in the kitchen last week he was in the office i said Master i need you. He said i know that ( he thinks he is funy). I said can you get that for me please? it was on the top kitchen shelf. I m 5' he is 6' so it make sense to ask him. We always know who is in charge though HIM.

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