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bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 7:06:46 PM

mistressminxau

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How many of you slaves/subs would do bi activitys for you Mistress even though your straight or would normaly not do outside of a D/s setting.
When i say bi i mean anything that i desire that will please me.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 7:10:47 PM

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hmm well not that im qualified to respond since im bi anyway.. but as a personle thing, myself and Mistress both are agisnt makeing any pets we take be forced into bi acts. its just how we are, its not something i want forced. sexuality is what it is. now, if there curiouse, or specificly want to be "forced" meaning well there already there more or less, i may be a little less likely to say no. but haveing one simply do something like that just because i said so.. its a limit for me, will not force suxuality on another. . just my oppionon though..

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 7:51:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: mistressminxau
How many of you slaves/subs would do bi activitys for you Mistress even though your straight or would normaly not do outside of a D/s setting.
When i say bi i mean anything that i desire that will please me.

Ok, I know I'm a Domme, but I had to answer this question.
I know others opinions may vary, but here is where I personally stand on the issue.

This scenario to me, was just a flip-flop of the "old days" when society was trying to force homosexuals to be heterosexual. A lot of people were emotionally damaged in a lot of ways. I can't even imagine the implications if that had been taken to the next level of coercing homosexuals to engage in sexual activity with the opposite sex.

If I had such a desire to see bisexuality, I would find a bisexual submissive. If I have a straight or asexual submissive, I would find other ways of fulfilling my want for watching bisexuality. My subs/slaves are worth a lot to me. If I were to screw around with their sexual orientation, I'd feel like I was screwing around with their psyche as well.

I could not force one of my submissives into a sexual orientation that is not their own. To me that is verging on damaging. It would feel like I was sending them the message "there is something wrong with your sexual orientation". submissives will often do many things I tell them to, without question. It's my responsibility as their Dominant to not take advantage of their willingness to please by pressuring them into acts that could potentially be damaging.

For me personally, if I were forced, coerced, or pressured into any sexual encounter that I don't feel comfortable with, it would feel very close to some sort of rape. I couldn't put my submissive in a situation where they had to choose between obeying me, and doing something that is going to leave them feeling sexually violated by others.

Which role they are being forced into isn't even so much the issue as the act itself. Whether it's forcing a heterosexual into a homosexual role, or forcing a homosexual into heterosexual acts. I feel very strongly that my submissives should be proud of their sexual orientation and be able to embrace it, without judgment or criticism, especially from me, as their Domme.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 7:59:03 PM

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I agree 100% but could not have expressed it nearly as well.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:00:52 PM

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you can definately count me out on this.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:02:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
If I had such a desire to see bisexuality, I would find a bisexual submissive. If I have a straight or asexual submissive, I would find other ways of fulfilling my want for watching bisexuality. My subs/slaves are worth a lot to me. If I were to screw around with their sexual orientation, I'd feel like I was screwing around with their psyche as well.

I could not force one of my submissives into a sexual orientation that is not their own. To me that is verging on damaging. It would feel like I was sending them the message "there is something wrong with your sexual orientation". submissives will often do many things I tell them to, without question. It's my responsibility as their Dominant to not take advantage of their willingness to please by pressuring them into acts that could potentially be damaging.

For me personally, if I were forced, coerced, or pressured into any sexual encounter that I don't feel comfortable with, it would feel very close to some sort of rape. I couldn't put my submissive in a situation where they had to choose between obeying me, and doing something that is going to leave them feeling sexually violated by others.

Thank you for saying that. There is no doubt if I was in a strong D/s relationship that I could be brought around to doing this within a scene while in subspace. My problem is that once I return to noraml I think I'd have a hard time living with that decision. It is my trust in my Dom that would protect me.

It is a hard limit for me.

That's not to say I could not be around it. A good friend I hang around is a Dominant male bi-sexual and he would love it if I would go there. That in itself does not make me uncomfortable and he knows where I stand.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:03:45 PM

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i had really never thought about actually doing it until my last Dom "encouraged" it...turned out i enjoyed the experience a lot...as for "When i say bi i mean anything that i desire that will please me" i don't know about all that...esp. if they had never had that type experience....i think the comfort level of all involved should be important, and all limits and safe words should be respected at all times....

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:17:47 PM

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Thats fine Proprietrix i shoud have had Mistress in there also and im always intrested to hear from all.
Thanks for your input!

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:18:32 PM

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It would have to depend on the scene, and whom Iam doing it for...

I would consider it

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:34:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistressminxau

How many of you slaves/subs would do bi activitys for you Mistress even though your straight or would normaly not do outside of a D/s setting.
When i say bi i mean anything that i desire that will please me.

Most submissive boys I have known or been involved with have volunteered to be "forced" into contact with another male. Have other dominant women experienced this, or does it say more about the boys I particularly like?

The funny part is, everyone wants to be the catcher, no one wants to pitch.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 8:47:07 PM

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Just My 2 cents here but,,,

I always tell My potential subs/slaves/cucks...it has little to nothing to do with their sexuality and everything to do with submitting. That they would submit to something they may in fact find distasteful, or normally wouldn't seek out on their own volition, but would do so completely for My pleasure is the ultimate in submission to Me. Of course I list bi preferred within My profile because I feel its essential to have one know what possible situations they are expected to be involved in. One would assume the active search for a cuckold would automatically imply bisexual acts will occur but I'm always suprised when they're clueless to what being a cuckold involves.

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/28/2006 9:16:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Smythe

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ORIGINAL: mistressminxau

How many of you slaves/subs would do bi activitys for you Mistress even though your straight or would normaly not do outside of a D/s setting.
When i say bi i mean anything that i desire that will please me.

Most submissive boys I have known or been involved with have volunteered to be "forced" into contact with another male. Have other dominant women experienced this, or does it say more about the boys I particularly like?

The funny part is, everyone wants to be the catcher, no one wants to pitch.

Smythe

If they're being "forced" into this action wouldnt they have to be the catcher? After all, if a man doesnt wanna pitch, pointing a gun to his head wont help his errr "pitching arm"...

What about strap-on play? its very popular.. (Ive never done it, mostly because Ive never had a partner who was interested) But wouldnt feel almost the same as a man (wearing a rubber)?

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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/29/2006 6:31:02 AM

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I consider myself a man….I open doors for women and am very polite to others….I work as a man..I am a maintains director of an apartment complex…I like to go fishing…I like to lead when I dance…..I like to look at ladies figures…I like to flirt with ladies…I like it when a lady checks my body out…..I get turned on by ladies…..so you can imagine the humiliation that I feel when my Lady cuckolds me…you can imagine the humiliation that I feel when she wants me to fluff her stud….you can imagine how I feel when I see a nice big c#ck sink into my Lady and I am in a CB….you can also imagine the pride my Lady feels when I submit to her wishes…you see when you submit you do it with your whole being (btw being very oral doesn’t limit me to just a lady, since my c#ck doesn’t need to be hard to perform)
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RE: bi for Mistress - 4/29/2006 1:19:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WeeIttyBitty

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ORIGINAL: Smythe

Most submissive boys I have known or been involved with have volunteered to be "forced" into contact with another male. Have other dominant women experienced this, or does it say more about the boys I particularly like?

The funny part is, everyone wants to be the catcher, no one wants to pitch.

Smythe

If they're being "forced" into this action wouldnt they have to be the catcher? After all, if a man doesnt wanna pitch, pointing a gun to his head wont help his errr "pitching arm"...

What about strap-on play? its very popular.. (Ive never done it, mostly because Ive never had a partner who was interested) But wouldnt feel almost the same as a man (wearing a rubber)?

Putting "forced" in quotes was meant to indicate that forcing wasn't really the issue. It was that old complicated thing that goes like this: "I want to do something but I don't want to know or act like I want to do it, so please force me, so that I can feel like I didn't do it on my own and it's not my fault." Most often applied to same sex male intimate contact.

Smythe

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