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What do i do about a stalker... - 11/27/2010 10:49:31 PM   
misssidney


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a guy of cm...tracked my email and found my cell,and home num..called my children and i dont know what to do..i fear for other women on here
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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/27/2010 11:02:33 PM   
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contact CM support, contact your local police.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/27/2010 11:05:03 PM   
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It's not the most immediate action you should take (see Greedy's post), but read the book "The Gift of Fear" - Gavin Debecker (De Becker?)

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/27/2010 11:17:36 PM   
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you may want to remove your yahoo messenger details from your profile 

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 12:27:41 AM   
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a guy of cm...tracked my email and found my cell,and home num..called my children and i dont know what to do..i fear for other women on here

I have read your profile. I hope no-one else does. I recommend that you throw your shoes away. (It is easier to buy new ones than to try to remove the dog shit from your old ones.)

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 6:13:39 AM   
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Offer the stalker a free session, lure them round to your apartment, once there, have some paid heavies give them a going over, simple but affective!

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 6:49:31 AM   
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Call the cops, and change your numbers as well.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 12:30:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: misssidney

a guy of cm...tracked my email and found my cell,and home num..called my children and i dont know what to do..i fear for other women on here


Yeah, call the cops first.
Then when they find out who he is take a restraining order out on him.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 12:33:46 PM   
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Cut down the Beanstalk?

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 12:42:47 PM   
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There's still a cached copy of the profile, and the info there can be linked to the external website and cell phone number.

Time to change all your info.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 1:34:52 PM   
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Cut down the Beanstalk?

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 2:01:57 PM   
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Offer the stalker a free session, lure them round to your apartment, once there, have some paid heavies give them a going over, simple but affective!

I'm always available...

..........and I'm cheap

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 4:58:18 PM   
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How can you pick up a stalker in only 11 days on CM? Must be a record.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 5:39:27 PM   
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Well, it looks like you've blanked out your profile, however, the damage is done.  Contact the police, as everyone else has been suggesting...sometimes just having them show up on his doorstep is enough to drive him off.  Then again, it may just set him off....go for the restraining order and get your numbers changed.

Next time, don't be so dumb to put outside contact info in your profile.  You can find anyone online as it is, don't make it any easier!

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 7:13:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: thornhappy

There's still a cached copy of the profile, and the info there can be linked to the external website and cell phone number.

Time to change all your info.



This

By putting your profile name on google and clicking on cached it does show anyone your old profile.
So delete that yahoo and YIM account and change your number after you file for a restraining order.
The police may need you phone to trace it back.

Next time do not be so open with your info.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/28/2010 7:22:41 PM   
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1)  To prevent others from doing this, remove personal info.  When I first made my Yahoo IM account, I aswered all the questions thinking that I had to, and that only Yahoo or the police would know.  It took months before someone quoted something I said to show me that my full name was being sent every time I hit the enter key; I almost had a freaking heart attack and carefully went back into Yahoo to get rid of that..  (There are only two people with my name in this entire country.  Yes, I checked.)
 
2)  Contact your phone company.  I had to do this once.  My local company had me pay something like $4 or $7 per month to have something called a phone trap put on my line, and I was to hit star and two or so digits after the offending phone call.  They will  let you know when three calls from the same person or location have been caught, and papers will come in the mail so you can go to the police and they can prosecute.  I wanted it to look a lot worse than the required three, so I logged in dozens of calls for a couple of months, and timed prosecution right before Christmas.  That paper and trap were the only things needed, I didn*t have to go into court at all and there were some bad repercussions for the guilty party...who lived in our town.
 
3)  If you talk with people from here, use a Trak phone.  I use one of these for meetups so that they won*t have my home phone until I really trust them with it. 
 
Sorry this has happened to you.  Go to the police, talk with your kids, deal with this asshat together.  Have your kids put a phone trap on the line.
 
Btw, my family knows I am into BDSM.  I downplay the kink and explain that through D/s, I get to wear the pants in the family as far as boyfriends go and I enjoy that.  I told them that anything else is like...Halloween costumes for adults, and playing I Dream of Jeannie.  Things they can understand without scaring them to death.  I explained to mom that even when I was in fifth grade, when us kids played cowgirls and indians, we used jump ropes as our ropes, tying each other up.  Nobody got hurt and we all had a lot of fun.  If a seventy year old woman and a teenager could feel they understood without freaking out... 
 
My family would help me with phone traps if I got into trouble like what you're going through.
 
Can your cell phone company change your number?
 
The man went way too far.  I don't even phone men who give me their phone number unless I have just been in chat with them and let them know I would be calling shortly, or have given them permission to make a call to my Trak phone. 
 
I have been here off and on for 6-7 years nobody has done to me what this guy is doing to you.  Have a friend check your yahoo, because what you see is not what other people see.  I saw cynthiamarie when others saw my full name, first and last.
 
Best of luck to you.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/29/2010 7:17:30 PM   
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Whenever I'm asked for personal info, be it Yahoo or any other service I never type in my last name. If it requires something in that field, an initial is enough to make it through. My phone # or address is never given, none of my personal info except for my first name. I don't list the town I live in as it's small. Rather, I list the closest large city and the direction. Could it be found? Yes, if someone was determined enough. I never give out my personal info to anyone unless I've been chatting for awhile, and trust them within an inch of my life.

I only have a cell phone, the only people who have that number are immediate family and close friends. I've had to change it twice now due to harrassing phone calls and texts but both time the company I deal with changed it without charge when I explained the situation to them.

I've also had to contact the police on a few occasions and the people involved stopped since they were threatened with charges. That was enough to stop them, but then we're talking about people who were angry with me. They had jobs and kids and didn't need the complications. Doesn't mean that'll work with your stalker, but it's worth a try. Be prepared to lay charges if you have to, don't hesitate.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/29/2010 7:54:24 PM   
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Sorry to hear this is happening. People can be absolutely absurd sometimes... not to mention mental.

It's my opinion that people who act like this do so because it's worked somewhere else before... or there haven't been adequate repercussions... or concussions...



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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/30/2010 4:23:33 AM   
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Start stalking him........I am sure his wife will love it.

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RE: What do i do about a stalker... - 11/30/2010 4:32:50 AM   
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okay so has he called your children or has he called the telephone number he got from your email and your children answered?  BIG difference.   Based on the initial information given, the cops probably will not do anything as he hasn't broken any law.  Its not against the law to get contact information off the net, which is why you don't make it easy for strangers to get your contact information.  Stalking laws are pretty specific and its not that easy to charge people with stalking.   Harrassment, yes but that is usually a civil matter.  And i doubt you have based on the OP enough to get a restraining order as most restraining orders (i believe) are still domestic ones and you would have to show you have or had a relationship.

The best bet, change your contact information and don't be stupid when it comes to applying it to the internet.  Yes, its scary when a stranger does that, but you have a responsibility also to yourself and your children to not be stupid and put your contact information where strangers can find it or give strangers enough information about you to be able to find you.   Perhaps it would be beneficial for you to take yourself and your children to the cops and ask them if they have a class or someone who can explain to you how many clues people give out about themselves to strangers on the internet.  I believe they do have classes like this. 

Because if YOU are doing it where strangers are accessing your contact info, what are your children seeing as okay to do on the internet and what information are they giving out directly or indirectly?

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