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punkjames -> where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:05:26 PM)
why is it so hard to find other guys needing their asses whipped? I can never find anyone that is into the same kinds of things.

DarkSteven -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:07:32 PM)
How about you begin by telling us where you have been searching?

punkjames -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:14:52 PM)
been looking all over western washington. have posted ads on fetlife, here , craigslist and every kinky board i can find.

RedMagic1 -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:18:48 PM)
You can't get kink action in the Seattle area??????? Seriously??????? Are you giving off some kind of Charles Manson vibe? (This was not meant as a joke.) How about heading down to the Wet Spot and asking people in person for suggestions?

punkjames -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:41:15 PM)
I live in lakewood, wet spot is a long and rather annoying drive to get to. i have had some replies before but most of them have been outside of what i am looking for. I prefer around my age or younger. usually I get guys twice my age which is something I have tried but i am not talented enough to get into a master head space with someone that much older.

petmonkey -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:41:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 the Wet Spot RedMagic has a point there, seriously-- http://www.sexpositiveculture.org/

petmonkey -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 8:47:46 PM)
Lakewood is too far?! Those proffered buns aren't just gonna' fall across your lap. You gotta' go where the buns are. As a bonus, many of those Wet Spot events can cure you of any Manson-y vibes you may have, if you do have them. . .

LadyPact -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 9:02:23 PM)
People actually have trouble finding somebody to beat in major cities? It's a joke, right? (The day I create a post that I can't find people to bottom to Me, I'm hanging it up.)

punkjames -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 9:17:19 PM)
barring the events i am not too young for or the events that I already know people attending who I dont want to run into. any other ideas outside of the cspc?

AquaticSub -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 9:44:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: punkjames usually I get guys twice my age which is something I have tried but i am not talented enough to get into a master head space with someone that much older. Practice? Ok, more seriously... Respecting that you may not want to play within certain age groups, look at this realistically. Every filter narrows your pool of willing asses. You only play with certain ages - that narrows the pool. That you won't travel narrows it further. I don't know the distances in question but I know an excellent top who travels two hours to get to where the bottoms are. And they are rewarded for doing so. As for your age, your profile says you are 28. I don't know of any group that is 30+ only. This is a shot in the dark but I'm guessing your problem is more that you've already alienated members of your community from the comment about wanting to avoid people.

petmonkey -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 9:45:54 PM)
There's a Tacoma munch, although i've never been. One of the Tacoma people on this site runs it. i honestly don't know what the age range there is, i think it varies. There are Next Gen. people at CSPC, i've met some of them, they're an alright bunch. And they have buns. i bet some of the people down at the Airport Tavern might know. Go and see. The description of the clientele is slightly inaccurate, just posted it for address and that nifty box on the upper right hand side that shows other bars in the area. Tuesday is probably the wrong day though. Go on the weekend. http://clubfly.com/venue/1695/the_airport_tavern_tacoma.html It's a total dive but it's a friendly total dive. I don't know specifics about Lakewood, except i lived in possibly the worst apartment there in my salad days, and there's a really good comic book store, right next to a multiplex movie theater! Must go nerd-out now, i've got copies of the Unwritten burning a hole through my long box. Good hunting, Punkjames.

punkjames -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 10:13:56 PM)
believe it or not my parents were founding members of the spot and know quite a few people there so trying to avoid seeing anyone that they may know, also the impact play groups say they are 33+ . love my family but would be awkward to show up at the same party as your father if you know what i mean. had a great sub going for a while but he kept flaking and having things happen to where it fell apart.

GreedyTop -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 10:25:47 PM)
33+? seems a rather arbitrary age limit...

punkjames -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 10:33:00 PM)
http://www.sexpositiveculture.org/events/zevent.2007-01-31.3141255221

GreedyTop -> RE: where are all the guys at. (11/30/2010 10:38:03 PM)
WOW!! I wish I could go to that, if only for the music..LOL It does say 18+..but I get not wanting to run into your family at an event

petmonkey -> RE: where are all the guys at. (12/1/2010 8:21:43 AM)
Perhaps he could brave the 50 minute or so drive to The Spot if he worked out a schedule to not run into family and family friends? If they're founding members and open about it with him, i would hope there's room to bring up uncomfortable topics such as this. Which is more annoying, not having a sub or the pain in the neck of working out keeping his family life separate from his dating life? i wouldn't want to attend with the 'rents or the 'rents friends, either. Just . . .ew, frankly. Maybe public play is out for him, but initially meeting people might still be done. In some ways, this is interesting territory that i don't see covered on these boards very often. What to do when BDSM is a generational practice within a family? As BDSM becomes more mainstream (like it has been--The Wet Spot exists and has a website, for example), this sort of dilemma will come up more and more often. There's a lot of avenues for etiquette and boundary discussions. Maybe i'd write to Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse for advice. Do they still have columns in The Stranger?

AquaticSub -> RE: where are all the guys at. (12/1/2010 8:25:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: punkjames believe it or not my parents were founding members of the spot and know quite a few people there so trying to avoid seeing anyone that they may know, also the impact play groups say they are 33+ . love my family but would be awkward to show up at the same party as your father if you know what i mean. had a great sub going for a while but he kept flaking and having things happen to where it fell apart. In that case why not ask your parents about groups - evidently ya'll are out to one another enough to talk about it - and plan things so that you aren't at the same events at the same time? I'm sure they'll understand where you coming from and your desire to scene. Also, since you have a great resource at your fingertips for group-founding... why not start your own?

LaTigresse -> RE: where are all the guys at. (12/1/2010 9:45:00 AM)
Using fast reply..... Dear OP, I am just going to go out on a limb and call, whiner with a big fat excuse book.

Buzzzz -> RE: where are all the guys at. (12/5/2010 7:08:11 PM)
Gotta go get them... If you stay where you are , nothing is gonna come to you.. Gotta go out there, and get them!!

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