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soul2share -> RE: Another new dom (12/8/2010 11:35:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: BurlyBill
Practice. A lot of what we do can be dangerous and it's quite possible to really hurt your sub. If you don't know exactly where the flogger is going to land, you probably shouldn't be using it until you do. I practiced on pillows.
When I started reading your post, this was the very FIRST thing that came to mind. I have certain toys and implements that I actually HIDE when playing, because I don't trust the user's knowledge on how to actually use it. Different implements have different sensations on the body. If you don't believe me, try whacking yourself with them. Or, let her do it.
Positions also have an effect on the feel of the implements, ie flat on a bed versus bent over a chair......looser muscles take a good swat easier than the tightened ones. Alot of it is experimentation, and learning what makes her feel good, too. She should be enjoying what it being done to her, not just simply enduring it.
It's great that you came here to ask for advice...there are alot of folks here who have it to offer. They have pretty much said anything else I'd have to say. There are lots of great books and other resources to be found.....and porn is NOT it!
Welcome to the insanity here that we call collarme......it's always a fun ride!
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