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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/9/2010 7:17:58 AM   
Kana


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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/9/2010 2:32:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I usually find that "I feel men should be true to themselves and be the dominators" is a good starting point.


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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/10/2010 10:25:43 AM   
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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/10/2010 11:24:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I make a comment like "Did you see ???? on TV last night? Geez, she was NAUGHTY, wasn't she? She needs to be SPANKED she deserves to be SPANKED HARD!"

I make the spanked comment playfully and then I carefully watch and feel her reaction. I'm looking for her to giggle and display a sense of relief and an attitude like "he understands my freak!".

Later I'll comment about something she just did with "Bad girl! You deserve to be spanked!". I'll say that in a low tone, just a bit below normal conversational volume and in a situation where only she can hear it. (this also lets her understand how these conversations, and later behavior, are deeply private and just between us). Depending on her reaction, I will either immediately follow up with, or say sometime later, "Have you ever been spanked? Would you like how it feels?" (notice how the first sentence asks about the past, and the next sentence is future pacing).

The rest is standard stuff.

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/10/2010 11:37:24 AM   
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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/11/2010 9:26:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		yes i think telling them gradually would work best, it's true everyone has dark fantasies and hopefully they'll eventually pour out. thanks everyone for your great answers!!

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/11/2010 9:34:03 AM   
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Leave the handcuffs dangling from the bedpost.
One way or another, you'll get a comment.
Works wonders the first time ya bring a 'nilla gal into the boudoir.

that's also a good idea lol

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/11/2010 11:18:16 AM   
FirmhandKY


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You're very cute.
Just open your mouth and TELL him.
What a lucky guy!

FYI, her profile says: "No men!"

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/12/2010 5:49:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I usually start with tiny insinuations... Like ."mmm .. you just went thru a red light, the police offoicer behind us is gonna pull you over , and bend you over the hood of his car and start spanking you" kinda thing. And I see what kind of reaction I get.

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/12/2010 2:19:10 PM   
subinlife


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Status: offline 		When I found my place in this life, I had to let my son know.
I did so openly and honestly, telling him that I wanted this in my life.
He asked questions and I answered them.
 
I did this so he wouldn't think mom had lost her mind. lol
He's 28 and still has questions from time to time.
We sit and talk.

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/13/2010 8:44:00 PM   
eleanorr


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Status: offline 		With nouns... And verbs... and possible an adjective.

There might be an adverb forthcoming if I'm feeling particularly wild.

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/14/2010 2:05:04 PM   
SAMHAIN09


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Status: offline 		Bring it up over a nice cup of tea and just casually introduce them to the lighter stuff.

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/14/2010 9:08:16 PM   
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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/15/2010 6:42:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jaybeee

I usually find that "I feel men should be true to themselves and be the dominators" is a good starting point.




Should we ever meet, please don't say that when I am just taking a gulp of coffee <LC who has to clean the screen now, bloody coffee stains>

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/15/2010 6:47:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Kana

Leave the handcuffs dangling from the bedpost.
One way or another, you'll get a comment.
Works wonders the first time ya bring a 'nilla gal into the boudoir.




Well, or just get a bit rougher, hold his hands down and see how he reacts, wear something a bit risky and slightly fetishy and keep it light and a bit as a game, most guys don't tend to complain when a woman wears stockings and boots but just go with the theme very eagerly, though I haven't been dating for years (other half would mind) so it could all have changed and the guys are now delicate flowers who are afraid of leather and all that...

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/17/2010 6:54:25 AM   
Aneirin


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ORIGINAL: behavingbadly

and try to get them to be into it if you saw they might be into some aspects of lifestyle. how would you tell them?


If someone is taking an interest in me, I just say something along the lines of, '' You had better keep clear of me, as I am seriously kinky'', that way it keeps away those who are not interested in my tastes and sometimes I get the delightful reply along the lines of, '' Oh yeah, interesting '' and there a conversation on a delightful subject ensues once we both know we are on the same wavelength. Honesty and up front honesty is always the best way, as one does not want to get into a relationship  with love and all that illogical stuff, if an important part of your personality has to be subdued. I did this, I thought love would conquer all, but in the sack, it was just plain boring, same 'ole same 'ole, a chore basically, ten years of education to understand never do that again, get involved with a person who thinks kinky stuff is sick, it does not work in a normal relationship.

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RE: how would you tell someone you're into serious bdsm - 12/17/2010 11:00:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		i told my now wife within a month of meeting her.We`re together 10 years now.She tys me wen i want but it does nothing for her.

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