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Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 4:50:01 PM

BimboBoy4Leash

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I am new to this....are there weddings where the woman gets ownership of the man....are there clergy which perform these ceremonies? women in tuxedos men in gowns?

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RE: Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 4:53:30 PM

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I'd suggest getting in touch with Unitarian Universalists. Their pastors are usually willing to perform christian, pagan, gay, and D/s marriages....

It's all about explaining and negotiating what you are comfortable with....

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RE: Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 6:54:01 PM

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Yes I have been to a power exchange wedding.. she was the dominant/Mistress and he was her slave. She still wore an evening gown and he in a tux.. but there were a lot of subtle differences in where they interjected BDSM. The clergy was aware that it was a D/s wedding and she herself (to my understanding) was in the Lifestyle. Are you considering this for yourself?

By the way, OT but -- does anyone know what 'piquerism' is?

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RE: Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 6:55:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: BimboBoy4Leash

I am new to this....are there weddings where the woman gets ownership of the man....are there clergy which perform these ceremonies? women in tuxedos men in gowns?

I was at one in 2004. It covered most of the (unconventional) bases:

same sex (F/f)
no rings...collar instead
one or two women in "male" dress clothes
two or three TVs (myself included, in leather...think there's a pic on my profile)
loads of vanilla family on both sides, mixed with a large number of kinky folk

It was a great time!

There are no rules for a ceremony, really...other than those the happy couple (or the top half anyway) chooses to set.

The suggestion of a Unitarian to solemnize the union is a good one. In most major centres there are usually non-"mainstream" clergy who would be happy to preside.

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RE: Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 7:04:00 PM

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I posted this on the Ask a Mistress forum recently

" I envision two separate wedding ceremonies.. a vanilla one with family and friends, and a smaller one with a handful of those in the lifestyle.... him on his knees getting collared as we exchange Bdsm style vows on the wedding day... and Me making it clear that he is owned for the rest of his life."

I have never been to a D/s ceremony, but if the guests are aware of of the couple's lifestyle choices, even a notary (in most states) can marry a couple legally, and as long as the legal technicalities are noted, the vows, clothing, etc are all up to the couple.

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RE: Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 7:36:23 PM

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RE: Have any of you been to a power exchange wedding? - 4/29/2006 11:00:56 PM

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I've been in such a wedding....granted, it was a marriage of convenience, purely about money (and they made no bones about it). I gave the groom (mike) away...he and I have a friendship and I was his Dominant. mike and the bride (Leanne) had a friendship and had had a sexual Ds relationship where the mike was Dominant. Leanne found that she was interested in building her dominant side after that, so I was/am also the bride's mentor. Anyone confused yet? LOL To make things more fun, most of the girls that mike had dated over the last few years were there; he had maintained friendships with most of them. Also, Leanne's boyfriend and girlfriend were there, too. Did I mention that the wedding was held in the bar where they met? Appetizers were served off a mostly nekid, REALLY cute Army girl, who was a friend of mike’s. *chuckle*

The wedding was lifestyle based. Everyone in the wedding party, including the minister, was kinky. The groom wore black Kevlar and a Mohawk, the bride, white tulle with a huge red "A" (yes, scarlet letter) on her chest. I wore leather. The bridesmaid wore renaissance and the minister was in his robes. The minister was mike's roommate, who was ordained specifically for the wedding. I'm not sure what church he received this from...obviously from something rather easy and quick to get....and something that he could agree with (he's pagan…I’m not sure if the robes were Wiccan or Druid or just costume).

It was the best damned wedding, EVER.

So, the point of all this is, you can have a wedding in any way you want, where you want and wearing what you want. The only thing that is required to make it legal is for the minister to be ordained and recognized to conduct marriages in the county/state you are in. S/He fills out the paperwork for the license. Other than that, you’re good to go for anything. mike is in the Army…he left for his second tour of Afghanistan about a month ago. Since I have 15 years on him, I call him my “Army kid”. I grin as I admit he was 19 when we met. I miss the bugger. he was highly entertaining, could make me laugh and could have a really decent, intelligent conversation about a great many topics. I look forward to having him as a friend for a long time, Ds or not. I’ll forever be grateful to him for introducing me to my slave jason. Fire

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