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sthrncmfrt -> needing some assistance (12/12/2010 8:32:27 PM)
My latest assignment from my potential Master is to speak with - as He referred - a gangbang sub. He wishes for me to chat with her and see how she feels about the whole experience. Would anyone with such experience be willing to help me or at least point me in the right direction?

Aylee -> RE: needing some assistance (12/12/2010 8:37:59 PM)
Not much of a D-type in my opinion. If there is someone he wishes you to speak to than he should find the person himself. This sounds more like he is a psychological vampire or voyeur. Feeding off of other people's experiences. That is icky to me.

wandersalone -> RE: needing some assistance (12/12/2010 8:48:16 PM)
I am guessing that you and he are thinking of adding gangbangs to your activities some time in the future if he becomes more than a potential master and this is why he has asked you to speak to others. I am not sure what you would actually get from this though as I am sure that each person has different feelings to any activity and they process it differently and what they tell you about their experience may in fact be totally different to your own. I imagine that in fact it would be much more important to discuss this in great depth with your potential master as how he sets it up, the precautions he takes, how he chooses participants etc would be much more enlightening. I know that if this was ever something I was considering my fears would be allayed not by what strangers told me of their experiences but rather by what my dominant told me he had planned to do in this experience of ours. If you do a search for gangbangs I am sure you will find some threads about it Hope you find the information you seek but a lot of it may require looking inside yourself more and in your relationship rather than externally

YoungBlondeSlave -> RE: needing some assistance (12/12/2010 8:50:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aylee Not much of a D-type in my opinion. If there is someone he wishes you to speak to than he should find the person himself. This. Also, how do you feel about it? i would assume that if my prospective dom wanted me to talk to a gangbang girl it would be to see about having me do it for him. Would you do it for him? When speaking with a prospective dom I've found myself thinking about doing things I wouldn't ordinarily want to, and then being faced with it, realized I couldn't do it. Could you? Would you? Stay true to yourself, your wants and needs. Don't try to change them to fit what any Dom wants, you'll end up regretting it later most likely.

DarkSteven -> RE: needing some assistance (12/12/2010 9:36:10 PM)
sthrncmfrt, please forgive this input from a White Dom, who you of course consider beneath contempt per your journal entry, but I have a really bad feeling about this. I wouldn't be surprised if your prospective "Master" were planning to see how you'd taken to being whored out. Just because he's the Master doesn't mean you can't ask questions and see why he's doing what he's doing.

Zevar -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 12:08:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sthrncmfrt My latest assignment from my potential Master is to speak with - as He referred - a gangbang sub. He wishes for me to chat with her and see how she feels about the whole experience. Would anyone with such experience be willing to help me or at least point me in the right direction? Gangbang sub? Well, if this is your Kink then so be it. However, the underlying reason as to why this potential Master has ordered you to pursue his fantasy brings about more red flags than I care to expound on. What I can say is: Never forget your humanity in the process of relating with whomever you CHOOSE to relate with and how YOU choose to relate. Never short change yourself. You will never make level ground if you allow yourself to begin a relationship where you are not allowed to make informed decisions by way of inquiring into what it is that you are expected to perform, no less for a man that claims to be a Master. Take good care of you!

DesFIP -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 6:29:02 AM)
It doesn't matter if a dozen subs tell you how wonderful it was for them and why. Unless you yourself have a great desire to experience such a scene, it will be a bad one for you. Is he prepared for you to find sex with him unpleasant for months? For you to cry hysterically for months every time you think about this? To pay for your medical treatment for the diseases you will catch? Because condoms only protect against some things. Is he prepared to physically force the other men out of the room, ten against one, when you break down and can't cope? Which is not an unusual response to such a scene by someone who doesn't want it. To pay for therapy and medication for the rest of your life from the resulting PTSD?

anniezz338 -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 7:26:00 AM)
For me, finding a gangbang sub for a "potential" Master would be too fast. But it smells like something familiar I have walked in before. Is this an online thing? But, the way your post sounds to me, is he wants you to talk to a gangbang sub about their experiences because that's where he is steering you. I could be off base but I do not feel by far. For me, he would have to be far past the "potential" Master stage for me to even consider starting this kind of search. Other than that, there are the usual resources, such as online ads at various sites, local BDSM community folks and here, of course. Good luck to you.

kalikshama -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 8:11:16 AM)
I've done this. Feel free to message me privately. HOWEVER, if a potential Dom was sending me gangbang related tasks, I would assume my value to him was my mouth, pussy, and ass, rather than my heart and soul, and drop him like a hot potato. KK

sunshinemiss -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 8:59:35 AM)
You've been here for 3 years, and this is your first post? Wow. What have you been doing for 3 years? good luck, sunshine

NuevaVida -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 1:05:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sthrncmfrt My latest assignment from my potential Master is to speak with - as He referred - a gangbang sub. He wishes for me to chat with her and see how she feels about the whole experience. Would anyone with such experience be willing to help me or at least point me in the right direction? There is a group on FetLife specifically on gang bangs. Might want to check that out and see what people have to say. Perhaps hearing the good and bad from objective strangers will help formulate your own thoughts on it (not that you said you need help formulating them).

jujubeeMB -> RE: needing some assistance (12/13/2010 3:04:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP It doesn't matter if a dozen subs tell you how wonderful it was for them and why. Unless you yourself have a great desire to experience such a scene, it will be a bad one for you. Yeah, I agree with this. Also, what is up with asking another sub how she feels about something that she apparently is way into? It sounds like rather than finding out whether or not you have a genuine interest in a gang bang, he's trying to be like "see?! That girl loves it. So should you." All that makes you out to be some sort of interchangeable sub with no needs/wants/desires/fears of your own - just those that he wants you to have. Is that really who you want to be? That said, if you yourself are into gang bangs and are pretending that a potential Dom is making you do it because that makes it less embarrassing, say that instead and you'll undoubtedly find people here who have done it and could talk to you about the pros and cons of their experience.

LadyConstanze -> RE: needing some assistance (12/14/2010 8:08:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sthrncmfrt My latest assignment from my potential Master is to speak with - as He referred - a gangbang sub. He wishes for me to chat with her and see how she feels about the whole experience. Would anyone with such experience be willing to help me or at least point me in the right direction? RED FLAGS all over the place... Potential Master - it indicates you don't know each other really well - he sends you talk to a gangbang sub so you can tell him how she feels about it... Don't you wonder why? Is he a voyeur or what is he planning to do with you? Maybe I am overly suspicious but I am leery that he'd plan parties for a fee and is preparing you to be the entertainment. If you are up for it including all the health risks (leaving aside the emotional ones), go ahead, otherwise I would ask him some rather pointed questions, he's not your Master yet and you have him as much under consideration as he does you...

OsideGirl -> RE: needing some assistance (12/15/2010 7:23:44 AM)
I don't understand why you'd be taking assignments from a "potential Master". I'm guessing he told you that you need to prove you're submissive. So, what is he doing to prove that he's really a dominant?

sunshinemiss -> RE: needing some assistance (12/15/2010 7:35:27 AM)
Well, southern comfort - May I make a suggestion? With that journal entry of yours, I'd suggest you NOT go over to the thread that's about dating someone racist. You'd find it a boring thread and no one would agree with you. Just fricking wow.

DesFIP -> RE: needing some assistance (12/15/2010 6:04:55 PM)
Wow indeed. Nasty enough that I'm tempted to suggest she ignores all our excellent advice and signs on for a bad experience with a dom she doesn't know and who isn't committed to her at all past getting his fantasy fulfilled. Sounds like sufficiently bad payback for the venom she spouts.

daintydimples -> RE: needing some assistance (12/15/2010 7:03:37 PM)
Can you spell: T R O L L ????

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