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LanceHughes -> RE: Santa - Dom / sub or switch ? (12/16/2010 7:53:10 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
I didn't want to give my opinion until I heard some of yours.... No one has picked "switch" - but that's MY choice. If you're naughty, he goes into Dom mode to punish you. If you're nice, he goes into sub mode to please you and satisfy your every wish.
Interesting. Does being Dom mean that you hand out punishments ONLY - no rewards? That's confusing to me. I think of the Dom as doing both. And deciding which is appropriate.
Hey! The guy has only ONE chance to do each person. That's why I vote switch. For each person on his list, checking it twice, gonna find out who's naughty or nice, Santa Claus is...... er..... SC must make a decision as to rewrd or punish said person's entire behavior for the year WITHOUT knowing orientation of said person.
So, SD, let's assume you are picking something to give me as a Yuletide gift. You know that I've been naughty, so I get a lump of coal, right? Now, does that make you a Dom? Sure you decided for me and decided that I should get coal.
If you know I've been nice, you want to give me positive reinforcement, a little more difficult, so you have to turn to my letter to Santa. Wehter I'm D or s-type is NOT revealed in said letter. It contains only what I want to get as a present. You read "our" contract to see your instructions. You follow my instructions to you, delivering teddy bear, dolls, blocks, balls, or whatever I told you to deliver. Sounds kinda subbie to me.
Back to your confusion..... of course, D-types use positive AND negative rewards. Positive ones to encourage continued desired behavior; negative rewards to dampen un-desired behavior.
Can a sub reward or punish the Dom's behavior? Well, of course. LOL!
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