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Valyraen -> Soul Mates (12/14/2010 9:55:03 AM)

Maybe I've been listening to too much Enigma yesterday, or the long nights with nothing to do have made my brain a little loopy (loopier?), but this question popped into my head today while cleaning the guest room sink (cleaner fumes might also have something to do with it...):

Soulmates. What are your thoughts on them? Do you believe in them?

For myself... I'm not sure if I believe in them or not, but I'm balls-to-bones certain that Kitten is my soul mate. I've never met anyone who just... gets me the way she does. She got in past the emotional safeguards before I even realized she was nearing them, and despite making a point of not needing or relying on anyone else, I've come to find that I need her every bit as much as she needs me. As cheesy as it sounds, she completes me.

*sniff* Yeah, definitely the cleaner fumes. Back to grappling with the sink I go!



pahunkboy -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:00:17 AM)

I think there is a such a thing- but still things can stand in the way.

Distance,  jobs, other things like already committed.



AquaticSub -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:02:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Valyraen

*sniff* Yeah, definitely the cleaner fumes. Back to grappling with the sink I go!



I love you Master. [:)]

*yawns sleepily, curls up in his lap in cyber-space while waiting to be picked up in the real world*



Musicmystery -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:03:09 AM)

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Soulmates. What are your thoughts on them? Do you believe in them?


I hope not. What a cruel joke that would be, to have only one person with whom you can connect so meaningfully among billions.



windchymes -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:05:19 AM)

I don't believe in the idea of two souls or spirits who traveled through the great cosmos together, separated for awhile and then managed to "find" one another again on Earth.

But when you do meet someone who you "click" with, and you feel as though they're that "one", then I think it's a wonderful thing. [:)] I don't, however, think there's only one person on the face of the Earth that you can have that with.



AquaticSub -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:05:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

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Soulmates. What are your thoughts on them? Do you believe in them?


I hope not. What a cruel joke that would be, to have only one person with whom you can connect so meaningfully among billions.


To be fair, he never said just one, just that I am his. We are poly. [:)]

Personally, I am inclined towards a system of multiple mates. But, alas, I'm probably too sleep deprived to explain my philosophy on it properly and it's quite nontraditional - or at least seems that way based on responses I've gotten.



Musicmystery -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:08:20 AM)

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But when you do meet someone who you "click" with, and you feel as though they're that "one", then I think it's a wonderful thing.


Agreed.



pahunkboy -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:16:56 AM)

Yeah-  I did not think of it as just one.   Tho not a large number either. 



Missokyst -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 10:36:00 AM)

Who says there is just one? I believe there are soulmates. When I met my first love it was like welcoming someone home after not seeing him for years, then we exchanged names. I have met at least 2 other people that had that same vibe of familiarity and affection.

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

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Soulmates. What are your thoughts on them? Do you believe in them?


I hope not. What a cruel joke that would be, to have only one person with whom you can connect so meaningfully among billions.




LaTigresse -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 11:07:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Who says there is just one? I believe there are soulmates. When I met my first love it was like welcoming someone home after not seeing him for years, then we exchanged names. I have met at least 2 other people that had that same vibe of familiarity and affection.



This. It can be friends, even family. Does not have to be a romantic partner.



Valyraen -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 11:17:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

To be fair, he never said just one, just that I am his. We are poly. [:)]

Personally, I am inclined towards a system of multiple mates. But, alas, I'm probably too sleep deprived to explain my philosophy on it properly and it's quite nontraditional - or at least seems that way based on responses I've gotten.



Damnit, woman! Get out of my head when I'm thinking things! I don't care if you did just put up new drapes!

...and thank you for proving my point. She's in my head perhaps even a little more than I'm necessarily comfortable with.



AquaticSub -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 11:19:45 AM)

Nu! They're fancy drapes and I just started on the hardwood flooring! (BTW, this is why you are having a lot of headaches - sorry Master)

It's gonna be so cozy in there when I'm done! [:D][:D][:D]



windchymes -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 11:23:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Who says there is just one? I believe there are soulmates. When I met my first love it was like welcoming someone home after not seeing him for years, then we exchanged names. I have met at least 2 other people that had that same vibe of familiarity and affection.



Well, back in ancient times, 20 or 30 years ago, the idea of "soul mates" meant one-and-only, at least in my circle. Another place where there's a broad definition of what the term actually means, and to whom, the decade we live in, and nothing actually etched in stone, lol.



MaxsGirl -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 11:42:03 AM)

I believe it now, because I've found mine.  I never used to believe, though I sometimes leaned towards the multiple connections theory as a possibility (if not likely).  But the way everything came together for me to meet Alpha, the perfect alignment of our personalities and preferences, the few shared dreams we've had - sometimes our life plays out like it's from a fantasy novel, and I have begun to let go of my skepticism and believe.



abrattyprincess -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 11:47:18 AM)

I believe that no matter where your life takes you, and where you end up... there is always someone there you will connect with. I don't believe there is only ONE person on this entire planet that is for me. That's ridiculous, imo.

But on the other hand I loveeeeeeeeee this scene. And I think it can fit with anyone who you consider your "soulmate" at the time.

Westley: I told you I would always come for you. Why didn't you wait for me?
Buttercup: Well... you were dead.
Westley: Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while.
Buttercup: I will never doubt again.
Westley: There will never be a need.

*sighs* Gotta love Princess Bride... ;)



Musicmystery -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 12:19:54 PM)

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Who says there is just one? I believe there are soulmates.


I don't think there's a definitive Big Book of Soulmates to consult to resolve this point. In common usage, the connotation at least, if not the technically see-it-says-so-right-here denotation, is one. Not that it matters; the general point is the same.

Once you're talking about multiples, the way people are using the term, kindred spirits might be a more common term.

But I'll pass on the semantic dismantling of a romantic ideal.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 12:43:34 PM)

~FR~
 
I'm not sure I believe in soulmates as Plato described them.  If there are such things, I believe the two people would be too much alike to make good lovers.  It would be like having sex with your identical twin. 
 
However, I do believe in the concept of soulbonds and those to whom I am soulbonded.  These are the people who, upon finding them, one proclaims "I have found my soulmate!"  At least until the relationship ends, at which point the person making the proclamation is left wondering how xie could be so mistaken. 
 
Of course, xie wasn't mistaken - the bond was real and the lessons learned were necessary to xir spiritual growth.  If two (or more) people are soulbonded, they will reconnect in multiple lifetimes because each has things to teach the other(s) and things they need to learn from the other(s).  Sometimes the lessons are pleasant; sometimes they aren't.  The mistake was in thinking the other person was the Platonic version of a soulmate instead of recognizing that there may be many people with whom we have a soulbond and those people are not necessarily destined to be the great loves of our lives.  Instead, they may be a best friend, a relative, or a mentor.  The trick is recognizing when the relationship is meant to be romantic and when it isn't. 



DarkSteven -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 2:13:11 PM)

I don't believe it is people that make for the perfect relationship as much as the attitudes of being willing to put up with all the bad stuff for the sake of the good stuff. So it's not as much that she would be the perfect person as much as she wanted the relationship to work, and she made me want the relationship to work.

IOW, it's not a static person who is a soulmate as much as mutual desire.



littlewonder -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 5:24:55 PM)

I don't believe in soulmates

I do however believe in kindred spirits....those people we have strong connections and ties to during a certain time in our lives.








sunshinemiss -> RE: Soul Mates (12/14/2010 6:50:17 PM)

So many things flying through my head while reading this...

Have fun storming the castle!

There can be only one!

He worked really hard cleaning up the place, but his bosses didn't like him so they shot him into space!

Checking the Book of Soulmates... It's up here somewhere... The Christian Roll Call... Santa's Naughty and Nice List... Ahhh yes, here it is The Book of Soulmates.  [sm=iamqueen.gif]


I believe in reincarnation.  I have no doubt about it.  I think that "soul mates" are often (for me) those people we recognize from previous lives that resonate for us one way or another.  I think we can have love in all its glorious forms and one of the True Joys is to realize that we are all part of the Great Oneness.  Being open to love in all its manifestations is being open to those who have been with us before to join with us again and to connect.  It is also being open to new people who are ready to bring us and themselves to the next level - whatever that means.

Terribly esoteric, I know.  I'm not sure it even makes sense except in the rat maze of my own mind.

best,
sunshine



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