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ScorpioMaster -> If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 1:20:08 PM)

I have notice allot have kept their profiles active after they got luck and found the Dominate of their dreams. Should the profiles be deactivated once you are finish with them? I have read some who tire are getting people still responding to it after post they found their Dream dominate of just got tire of the BS caused by jerks. When I thought I found the slave of my dreams I deactivated my profile to see were things will go. Should the standard be deactivating profile to stop unwanted responses? I also have notice profiles with no activity for about a month. It seems the profiles are cluttering up the search. If this topic has come up before please forgive me rehashing. Good luck guys with your desires and dreams.



proudsub -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 1:26:25 PM)

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Should the profiles be deactivated


I think they should at least update them to reflect their new situation. They may want to keep a profile in order to make friends. Even though i am not searching i keep a profile and have a lot of very good conversations with others on Collarme.



Mercnbeth -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 2:07:47 PM)

Scorpio,
Many people here are here to socialize as much as searching for someone. We like to see a picture or in lieu of that, to know where people are from when we are chatting with them. So, I'd hate to see them deactivated. Most people after finding their special someone, like to announce it in their profile. I think that's great.

But it's a good idea for CollarMe to suspend or deactivate anyone's profile who has not logged on for a given period of time - say 90 or 120 days? That may solve some of the search clutter.

Merc & beth



gitta -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 3:05:18 PM)

Hello,

When i came to collarme i was not looking and will not, but i did post a profile (scant as it is) just so friends can leave me email messages. It is clear that i seek no one and i believe that most understand that. Mine is for mail only, and i rarely even log in on that side, except when i do get mail. My intent is not to clutter things up, rather be available to friends here.



newflowers -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 3:13:56 PM)

Perhaps it is possible for the site administrators to deactivate accounts that have not logged on for 90 or 120 days. It does, however, seem like an awful lot of work for someone.

There was a period of time when I was seeing someone and my account I kept open because I like to participate in the fora. While I sent an email saying thanks, but I'm seeing someone right now, I did not activate my account.

When I reach the point where I am seriously involved and committed to someone and he to me, I will say so on my profile, but still it will be open so that I can meet and talk to others as well as participate in the discussions here.

I think it is not so hard to accept that someone may be unavailable or no longer active on the site. It is possible that the accounts that are inactive have become so because the person was not finding what they wanted and may have moved on or given up - perhaps a note anyway would tell if the profile is that compelling. If the time since last log on is a parameter for searching, it is possible to just not look at or read the profiles of those who have not logged on for a certain period of time.

newflowers



randsboy -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 4:39:13 PM)

i have kept my profile up dated and all my info included. Yes i am owned these past 6 years but have kept this here in hopes of finding local playmates who are also subs. Master and i have ben looking for some time for a third boy to add to our family. To date none have answered and none have made a first contact.



Estring -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 5:42:38 PM)

I sometimes like to check the profiles of people who post on the boards. Just because they may not be looking anymore doesn't mean they need to disappear. And as for cluttering any searches, is it really that big of a problem?



cranialcarnage -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 6:39:00 PM)

I believe it is a huge problem, but that is just because I hate having my time wasted. When I have something in particular that I am looking for, the last thing I need or want is to have a bunch of unnecessary clutter in my way.

Then again, when I am simply bored and just running around in random directions on this site, some of the profiles I come across can be very entertaining. Damned if I do, damned if I don't, I suppose.



Estring -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 6:42:55 PM)

What the hell? After reading your profile cranial, aren't you part of the problem then?



LadyBeckett -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 7:20:55 PM)

As if our poor Mods don't have enough to do already. [;)]



subbiejenn -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 10:09:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Estring

What the hell? After reading your profile cranial, aren't you part of the problem then?



*giggles* You always make me laugh....

i haven't deactivated my profile, i am not looking for a Dom at this time but i do love to boards, learning and making friends. I love e-mail, well e-mail to chat or learn not e-mail just wanting in my pants or wanting to keep me in a cage. *grins* i am honest in my profile so that i don't waste anyone’s time. (Even so i still get e-mail from Doms who don't READ my profile but thats another thread)

i don't think anyone should deactivate there profile just because they are not looking. W/we are all looking for something different, rather it be a different kink or different type of person. Some are looking for a Master/slave, some Dom/subs and some just for friends.

~jenn~



subbiejenn -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 10:13:33 PM)

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But it's a good idea for CollarMe to suspend or deactivate anyone's profile who has not logged on for a given period of time - say 90 or 120 days? That may solve some of the search clutter.


i don't think there is enough Mods or reviewers to do this but maybe a good project for the web designers to add in that automatically deletes profiles not logged into for so long. i think people who don't come here in 90 days are the ones who should deactivate there own profiles *smiles* but i am sure that is asking a lot!



magiqual -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/1/2004 10:31:50 PM)

Is the only purpose of Collarme to find a partner now? If that's the only purpose, then deactivating profiles for people who are "unavailable" would make sense.

But it seems that Collarme is far more than that -- it's an active social community for people in the scene. If the key problem is that some want an easier "shopping" experience, perhaps there could be an "available" checkbox in profiles that's also searchable.

re: requiring people to log in every 90 (or 120) days, I've seen systems that imposed that requirement and they died. It doesn't encourage people to log in more, it just causes them to leave if they miss the deadline as most won't feel like going through the whole re-listing process.



EStrict -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/2/2004 1:45:28 PM)

I am not here looking, but I have noticed it TELLS you on your home page the last time someone signed in. If you really are worried about it being a waste of your time writing someone who never comes on, then don't write anyone who hasn't signed on in the last week.



LadyBeckett -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/2/2004 2:02:43 PM)

I may be a bit dark, but I thought it was incredibly funny that this would be an issue to anyone, especially with the consideration that so many of us are actually active here on the boards off and on. What the casual observer doesn't see on any given profile is what is going on behind the scenes. lol Online alone I spend a great deal of time on the boards, in yahoo, and on livejournal with collarme folks. Offline, I log a lot of phone hours in and r/t. The profile may not show activity, but there is a lot of it going on. [;)]



midnightprince -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/2/2004 2:48:59 PM)

I think just like with any other profile on any other site, the purpose of having a mail box is to get and send mail. I think part of the problem is people not udating or being honest with what's on there profile. If i see a profile of a sub/slave, that says I have a master/dom and I am not looking, unless I have a question for the sub/slave unrelated to trying to hook-up with her, I will not send her a message. One its disrespectful to her and to her master. Two it would be a wait of my time.

Also, I think a lot of the nasty rude emails, are from people that have no clue what this lifestyle is really about and just trying to find some kinky sex.

Theses are just my thoughts and the way I see it.

M[:)]



darkpetal -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/2/2004 6:11:17 PM)

hey there jenn....

i just wanted to respond and say... my profile is activiated again but i found out i could still send and receive mail.

i just needed some time...for many reasons.
i didn't want to wade through so many emals aftr a break up.... i am an aching soul.

the one i was with never updates his profiles and they all say the same thing ...
i wonder if ownership to him means for life even though he ceases communication and doesn't release ...i guess another thread.

but i find it so heart wrenching to see someone announce in their journals or profiles they found the one that completed then ~~almost never doms but mostly subbies ~~ and within weeks they are crying about liars and wannabes.

just MHO
peta



GentleMistress -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/2/2004 6:12:56 PM)

Well i for one found a boytoy, put my profile that i found someone but they could still contact me if they wanted to, to talk or ask questions ...whatever. Then things were not working so now i have my profile updated again. While i was "using" my boytoy, i didnt get any mail which is fine, it kept me focus on him . Of course unlike most on here i dont have a lot of friends yet LOL so didn't expect any mail from anyone [;)]



subbiejenn -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/3/2004 12:45:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: darkpetal

hey there jenn....

i just wanted to respond and say... my profile is activiated again but i found out i could still send and receive mail.

i just needed some time...for many reasons.
i didn't want to wade through so many emals aftr a break up.... i am an aching soul.

the one i was with never updates his profiles and they all say the same thing ...
i wonder if ownership to him means for life even though he ceases communication and doesn't release ...i guess another thread.

but i find it so heart wrenching to see someone announce in their journals or profiles they found the one that completed then ~~almost never doms but mostly subbies ~~ and within weeks they are crying about liars and wannabes.

just MHO
peta


Hey Sweetie! Sorry you are aching dear, life is hard at times and W/we all have to take some bad to get to the GOOD!

i hate wanna be Doms who really don't understand the lifestyle and what is truly means to be a Dom.

The Dom i am seeing and absolutely adore likes for me to chat with others, learn and grow in the lifestyle. i don't think any of U/us should deactivate O/our profile just because W/we are not actively searching.

Great to see you peta!

~jenn~



Synocense -> RE: If you are done with your profile should you deactivate it? (10/3/2004 5:52:56 AM)

Gah. Have we truly become so lazy? Remember a time when we had to get all dolled up, get into the car and drive alllllllllllllllll the way to our local hangout with the hope of meeting someone? Seems to me a few extra clicks of a mouse button is nothing in comparison.
I change my profile regularly, to the dismay of the overworked Mods, I am sure. It might just reflect a mood I am in at the time or it might be "food for thought" - I certainly don't feel I am not entitled to it just because I am not looking for a partner or because it "clutters" up someone elses search who is seeking. What about those who do a search just looking for people in their area of like mind?

Syn



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