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Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 5:53:09 AM

CaringandReal

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The master body parts thread is steaming up my contact lenses. I think I want a little more. :) And I'd also like to know what other people like me fantasize about. Purely intellectual interest, of course! You don't need to write a novella, just an outline will do. Believe me, I can "fill in the cracks." I'd especially love to hear some of the fantasies of people who are currently unpartnered, or who, if they have a partner, fantasize things that they wouldn't do in reality (not becuase of fear necessarily but maybe because their master doesn't like it or because it's awfully hard to snag a gray ET--they tend to be in high demand--for a threesome).

My favorite fantasies change with the wind. I like to think of new ones. I am currently enjoying thinking about being tortured severely to nice soft fluffy happy (or sappy) tunes. I think the incongruity of the two experiences would be quite interesting! Why would I be tortured? Perhaps for liking this sort of music--I would think that in itself would be sufficient offence! ;)

Here's a sample playlist of the "scene music" I mean:

Jason Miraz - Life is Wonderful

Moody Blues - For My Lady

Ray Stevens - Everything is Beautiful

Getting to Know You - The King and I

Bread - Make it With You

Stylistics - Betcha By Golly Wow

Monkees - When Love Comes Knocking at Your Door

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 6:04:51 AM

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Oh no no no. Scene music needs to be something driven by a hard beat, with serious rhythm that you can use to provide the backdrop for the interaction.. Think KMFDM, TKK, Tool, AiC, Dropkicks, TPC, DPM.

Nothing better than just thrashing a gal while Fascination Street roars in the background...plus, it's really good at covering screams and moans

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 7:05:06 AM

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My fantasies usually involve locations such as the one in this photo,
where I am held captive, not just by rope, but by fear and my own desires.
The damsel in distress who really doesn't want to be saved.

This is the song I'd be hearing, over and over.
(And Kana...no one would be around to hear the screams and moans.
Location location location!

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 1:31:13 PM

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Sometimes, when I have down days, I tend to have softer, more cuddly fantasies with nothing in them that could be really seen as disturbing. But more often than not, my fantasy life is filled with things on the strange and dark end of the scale.

Though in real life I'm all about consent, I often have fantasies about abduction and captivity, often centered on confinement. I enjoy just about all of the alphabet I would do in real life, but my fantasies allow me to explore the stuff I won't or can't do in real life, for either reasons of danger, discomfort, or physical impossibility. I tend to vary mine constantly, giving them different settings, both real-life and fictional, and varying the characters involved. If there's a fantasy I particularly enjoy I'll flesh it out giving it a plot and more juicy details over a week or so, and when I get bored of it, move to something else. Sometimes I'll dredge out a favorite fantasy and add to it as time goes on, so some of them I can trace all the way back to my thirteenth year ( happy tenth anniversary, kinky fantasy ).

I'm rarely ever me in these scenes, using different made-up characters as best fits the fantasy.When it comes to sub personality types, I use all sorts of types from totally passive to actively defiant personalities, but as for dominants I don't tend to like the mysterious stranger or the cold-blooded psychopath types I read in a lot of D/s fiction. I tend to like fiery, passionate, possessive men, whether they openly express that side of themselves or not. Even if they're doing rather twisted things, it most definitely is personal.

The fact that I fantasize about some very violent and morally dubious things means "What's your darkest fantasy?" Is a question that is more than likely to unload buckets of TMI on a hapless stranger.

As an aside... While I've never had a fantasy about ET and don't plan to, thanks to the OP I now have several unfortunate visuals about where that glowing finger could go.

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 2:02:16 PM

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mmm....

*heaves the book of pyroaquatic's fantasies onto the table. ducks and covers as the table breaks*

Lately the fantasy of choice right before I go to bed is me being held as a prisoner and shared between a Domme and Dom couple. Oh yes, for some reason my arms are bound behind my back the entire time.

Yeah....

I'll fill in those cracks.

;)

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 4:01:41 PM

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My biggest fantasy right now is having Master take me sexually in public. Not just out in broad daylight anywhere, but on a stage at a fetish club. I'm all chained up and gagged, and Master works me over with a crop before finally taking me completely. I have this fantasy at LEAST three times a week. It's not something I'm sure will ever happen, because it's not something Master particularly wants to do. I, however, actually would love to have it happen in real life. I suppose it all depends on what the future brings for us, if Master will ever choose to indulge his slave's fantasy! :)

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 5:40:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Oh no no no. Scene music needs to be something driven by a hard beat, with serious rhythm that you can use to provide the backdrop for the interaction.. Think KMFDM, TKK, Tool, AiC, Dropkicks, TPC, DPM.

Nothing better than just thrashing a gal while Fascination Street roars in the background...plus, it's really good at covering screams and moans

I know. :( I suck at scene music. (lightbulb) That's why I need to be punished!

Seriously, wouldn't you find it funny to beat your slave to "Lalalalalalala, Life is Wonderful, lalalalalalalala, life goes on and on..." playing in the backgroud?

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 5:43:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: poise

My fantasies usually involve locations such as the one in this photo,
where I am held captive, not just by rope, but by fear and my own desires.
The damsel in distress who really doesn't want to be saved.
This is the song I'd be hearing, over and over.
(And Kana...no one would be around to hear the screams and moans.
Location location location! )

Oh, VERY nice house! Thanks for posting that. (steals it) Sometimes I'll see a house like that or even a dark landscape and it'll send me instantly spiraling into some extremely dark and delicious places in my head. :)

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 5:54:04 PM

CaringandReal

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ORIGINAL: WestBaySlave

Though in real life I'm all about consent, I often have fantasies about abduction and captivity, often centered on confinement...

Thanks for the lovely descriptions. :) I really love abduction and confinement fantasies as well. It's interesting that your dominant personality type doesn't vary much. Mine does a bit. I've had a number of psychopathic acquaintenaces in real life, they tend to be very intense people despite their outer calm, so sometimes I think about one of them. Sometimes I imagine someone cold, sometimes someone very humorous and witty (although also cruel). Sometimes I imagine a fiery passoinate type too, or someone who is very, very angry at me for something. Your musings made me remember a lot of this. :)

...and you're welcome for ET. :D

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 5:58:49 PM

CaringandReal

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

mmm....

*heaves the book of pyroaquatic's fantasies onto the table. ducks and covers as the table breaks*

Lately the fantasy of choice right before I go to bed is me being held as a prisoner and shared between a Domme and Dom couple. Oh yes, for some reason my arms are bound behind my back the entire time.

Yeah....

I'll fill in those cracks.

;)

Having an evil couple torture and share me would be an awesome experience. The hands behind one's back seems so simple and is such a standard bondage tie, but it feels incredible to not be able to cover or protect any part of your front or even force a hand away from you. It both exposes you and makes you extremely vulnerable. Mmmm...

I'm certainly going to be doing some crack-filling myself tonight thanks to these posts! :)

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 6:02:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: HisEvelyn

My biggest fantasy right now is having Master take me sexually in public. Not just out in broad daylight anywhere, but on a stage at a fetish club. I'm all chained up and gagged, and Master works me over with a crop before finally taking me completely. I have this fantasy at LEAST three times a week. It's not something I'm sure will ever happen, because it's not something Master particularly wants to do. I, however, actually would love to have it happen in real life. I suppose it all depends on what the future brings for us, if Master will ever choose to indulge his slave's fantasy! :)

Nice! Public display and use. A woman after my own heart. :) For me, the more erotic aspect of that fantasy would be the humiliation I would feel at being seen by others as just a sex toy, a body that can be exposed and casually used/fucked in front of others.

Do you imagine humiliation when you fantasize it, or are there other aspects that appeal more?

And I hope you do get to experience it someday.

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 6:18:28 PM

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If there's music, it can't have vocals. Otherwise I start paying attention to the words and snap out of my headspace.

But usually my fantasies are things that are a little harder than I can handle.

Right now they're focusing on maintenance spankings simply because until mid-January when college starts back up, there won't be any privacy in this house. Ropes don't make noise but spankings are distinctive.

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 7:12:08 PM

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Hi CaringandReal

oh heavens no! simply playing that music for me would constitute torture-- we used to jokingly have a "music safeword" at the primary dungeons where I used to play, such that if a totally horrendous musical selection came on, we could briefly pause the action while my top left to go request a new selection. NIN, Depeche Mode, Cure and general Industrial Music were all common mixed tapes, so I don't think I ever had to actually invoke the music safeword. [sidenote: we also had a "cake" safeword for birthday parties. the person being spanked merely had to say the word "cake" and everyone stopped and we had cake. we were hardcore pervert, but man, who doesn't like cake?]

Here's my fantasy:
(a bit garden variety)

A big formal dinner party where myself and other footman wait on about 20 guests, serving a long, multi-course dinner. Guests are dressed to the nines--boys are in starched white shirts, black bow ties--we observe all the formalities that one should do when performing formal table service. The conversation is engaging and entertaining--the footmen (boys) attentive and proper. Dinner winds down--most of the guests leave--about six remain, and relax in the parlor for casual conversation. I change back into my lederhosen, retreat to the kitchen to do my work. The Head of the Household dismisses the other servants, and I'm called back into the parlor--she orders me over an ottoman where I am unceremoniously held down and paddled in front of the guests, and the guests then each take their turn, concluding wth a caning of "six of the best".

[hope that doesn't bore folks too much! I love working dinner parties....it's the large group paddling that I've never done completely]

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 7:16:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
The master body parts thread is steaming up my contact lenses. I think I want a little more. :) And I'd also like to know what other people like me fantasize about. Purely intellectual interest, of course!

Blatant wanker thread...

However, there is a need on these forums to balance out the repetitive "knees, suck; knees, suck; knees, suck"—how dreadfully boring!

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I am currently enjoying thinking about being tortured severely to nice soft fluffy happy (or sappy) tunes. I think the incongruity of the two experiences would be quite interesting! Why would I be tortured? Perhaps for liking this sort of music--I would think that in itself would be sufficient offense! ;)

You're describing a cognitive dissonance (incongruity between experiences/expectations/ideas). In this case, the actual experience of "being tortured" conflicts with the expectation of "fluffy, happy times" inferred from the experienced "tunes".

You can also appear: kind, while being sadistic; sweet, while being controlling. There are many ways to use contrasts, especially if you enjoy causing confusion.

The anterior cingulate cortex is thought to monitor such conflicts and when the selected option doesn't make sense ("this is going to just be fluffy and happy"), it'll try the other option ("not fluffy and happy") and when both don't make sense ("the music is making me feel fluffy and happy, yet this experience isn't") the brain will force you to adapt, resulting in a new perspective ("fluffy and happy music can go along with this experience to make it more interesting"). Contrasts are interesting, because they result in brief confusion and then the brain is forced to find a solution. Repeated failures by this area of the brain to find an option with no dissonance, causes frustration.

Riddles such as "Are you going to beg me to stop hurting you, because you know I enjoy hearing that or are you going to beg me to hurt you more, because you know it pleases me to do so?" can be entertaining for a short while.

I also found one submissive's fantasy interesting to analyze. She wanted to have someone ruin her makeup, only to say something degrading and tell her to go fix it immediately. In this case, the point is to add to the cognitive dissonance she experiences when told to do whatever messes up her makeup, knowing perfectly well that option will probably result in future negative comments and having to correct it, so that it feels like she's sacrificing even more for her partner at the moment of choosing to please him. (Obviously, this only works for her and her particular interests.)

Actually, submissives come up with ideas I couldn't have possibly dreamt up (even if I'm imaginative, I'm simply not a woman and the converse is probably true for male submissives as well). So, I actually enjoy learning about someone else's/a partner's fantasies. And I like making whoever I care about happy. I wouldn't be with someone that I didn't feel deserved an effort on my part to ensure their fulfillment.

Anyway, I'm not interested in D/s enough to write about it. But I always care that my characters are coherent, so I build up from the most basic concepts.

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This is the song I'd be hearing, over and over.

I immediately thought of a lot of good options for softer music. But the first thing that came to mind is Nirvana's School. Not that good of a song, but it hammers in the point: "No recess!".

P.S. CaringandReal, you might want to trim your quotes and reply to more than a person at once.

poise, kana <3 your songs, btw.

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/16/2010 9:51:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
Nice! Public display and use. A woman after my own heart. :) For me, the more erotic aspect of that fantasy would be the humiliation I would feel at being seen by others as just a sex toy, a body that can be exposed and casually used/fucked in front of others.

Do you imagine humiliation when you fantasize it, or are there other aspects that appeal more?

And I hope you do get to experience it someday.

Honestly, I wouldn't really be humiliated by such a scene. Embarrassed, yes, but not humiliated. I've always loved being on stage, so it's an erotic extension of that. I really like the idea of being used by Master in front of everybody, a very public display of being used by HIM. Of showing everybody that he can do anything he wants to me, that I hide nothing of my devotion to him. In some ways, to my mind it seems almost like an incredible intimacy, to share something publically that no one else can have, because we will only do it with one another.

In my fantasy, it's always a willing crowd. They WANT to see displays like this, and they want to see US. I'm a bit self-conscious about my body sometimes, so to be on display for Master to use in front of everybody is a huge expression of my desire to please him, even if I would actually enjoy being on display. It's almost contradictory, but it still gets me very very hot. :)

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/18/2010 9:46:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

If there's music, it can't have vocals. Otherwise I start paying attention to the words and snap out of my headspace.

But usually my fantasies are things that are a little harder than I can handle.

Right now they're focusing on maintenance spankings simply because until mid-January when college starts back up, there won't be any privacy in this house. Ropes don't make noise but spankings are distinctive.

Sigh, mid-January. That's almost a month away. Still, children bring their own rewards, I suspect. :)

Somebody needs to invent a silent spanking. Hmm.. there are lots of ways to do bruise-proof spankings, and one of them (thee old wet towel trick) is also semi-silent. Still, it probably sounds a little like fapping, something you may also want to avoid around college students. :D

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/18/2010 10:01:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes
Blatant wanker thread...

Blinks. Your point?

(I figure I've paid my dues with serious posts, therefore I am owned at least one wanker post every year... er, make that every six months.)

quote:

You're describing a cognitive dissonance

YES! That is the word! I seek those out, in my own mind and in outside circumstances. I find them hilarious, and the rocking back and forth between the two perspectives kind of like certain amusement park rides. :)

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Riddles such as "Are you going to beg me to stop hurting you, because you know I enjoy hearing that or are you going to beg me to hurt you more, because you know it pleases me to do so?"

Oh, fuck. That one definitely locks me in a logic loop. Thanks a bunch for that example. Which one to choose? This kind of thing can really mess with the mind of a person who finds it hard to make decisions to begin with. The only way to escape this mess is to toss a coin... and how do you toss a coin if your arms are tied behind your back? :/

I liked the makeup fantasy example. That sounds cute and fun. :)

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P.S. CaringandReal, you might want to trim your quotes and reply to more than a person at once.

You've got to be kidding. That would take... work.
Seriouly, I'll consider it. It never occured to me.

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/18/2010 10:25:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: hausboy

[... I love working dinner parties....it's the large group paddling that I've never done completely]

Hi back. :) I LOVE the idea of a music safeword. What a good idea for when "Turn Around, Bright Eyes" comes up in the playlist. :D

Hmm... "Turn Around Bright Eyes..." I should probably add that one to my cognitive dissonance set.

I have never served at a formal dinner, but it sounds like great fun, particularly if some of the guests know what you really are. You still have to be perfectly quiet and discrete or whatever it is butlers do.
The public spanking doesn't bore me. It's very hard to submit that way, particular if the people sitting around are those whom you've been on an "equals" footing up until that point. I would relish the *shame* of such a moment. Thanks for sharing that one. :)

I'm actually mixed about scene music. It can certainly enhance, it creates emotional intensity in you that you otherwise might not have felt, but at the same time, it's something outside your master or mistress which is influencing your emotions, not them, and I don't like that part.

My former owner was a musician (among other things) but he preferred silence during play. We only did "scene music" once: He'd chained me in heels to the wide entryway between the living room and dining room, sat in a comfy chair directly behind me with a few choice implements and put on Oscar Levant's interpretation of Rhapsody in Blue. Nice (and long, groan) moment, that. I was bleeding long before it was done and most grateful for those o-rings and the support they provided. :)

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/18/2010 11:17:14 AM

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Wow, music safe words would would think.
As to my own fantasy's, well I do have more then a few and I do not want to give it all away to all those Dommes out there But this one, I am tied very well to a post and there are many subs with their Doms taking their turns on me one after an other giving me head.And I cannot do a thing about it and I am being used. So I guess the whole thing of me being used is one of my fantasy

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RE: Submissive Types: What is your favorite fantasy? - 12/18/2010 11:18:17 AM

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So sorry about that what I meant was who would think.

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