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tyrasia -> BDSM in a Calculus Shell (12/19/2010 4:49:48 PM)
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Over my years of lurking here i have read a great many number of threads about something verses something else. Master ~vs~ Dom, sub ~vs~ slave, what is edge play and other threads in which boundaries are trying to be defined. To me this seemed useless in terms of getting a consensual answer. Not useless for getting to know people however. What i am about to say is merely my opinion and i do not expect anyone to agree with me cuz i know i am weird. But here is how i see it in my head for what it is worth. Hopefully this is an appropriate forum to post this, if not i beg the mods to move it to there. Thanks in advance.
Personally i think there are 3-D graphs which can relate a curve of how people enjoy each BDSM activity. The distribution and shape might even and probably is thinking about it, different for each activity. Some common things like bondage may have the beginning of this 'double derivative' (cuz that is what it was called when i learned how this shape moves), at a higher point, meaning more people 'do' it. Letting the one side of this shape be length of time, we have it low on one end for people who can't be tied up for long, and the other end is people who remain tied for days. The other side of the shape therefore would be magnitude or intensity. Does someone like merely handcuffs or do they want all the rope in Texas? This creates a nice curvy plane.....thinks of where she was going with this....
Oh yes...so submission, there is maybe the "what you should do if you're a sub" and "to whom you should do them" lines. On one corner for example are those who feel they ought to let perfect strangers (the "whoms") rape them (the "whats") with no pre-negotiation and such. Many in the General Community call these doormats. Another of these four corners might be those who are more careful about the "whats" but still will do all the "whoms". The next corner is the ones who will do limited things, with limited people, in all likelihood these would be a lot of subs. This leaves the last corner, where someone will do many if not all things, with a limited number of people.
Now note, that the reasons are not included here; they would be a separate graph. The reason the "whats" or "whoms" are limited could be anything. For me the reason the "whoms" are limited is because i don't feel like i ‘crave’ or 'need' to serve women, and not all men. However some men have this "Thing" (i am sure there is a graph for that too) and this "Thing" is like a reaction to whatever 'thing' i have, and with those Men, i can be swayed from my own morality, desires, esteem, etc. Those Men can have me do anything.
This is the picture in my mind. When I read a thread on 1 ~VS~ 2, every poster if they state a preference or opinion is a dot on that graph. They all fit, they all are right. This is a world where there is a place for everyone, and room for change. Afterall that is what calculus is all about…..oh and wiiwd too. <3
Be Well,
Andrew's tyr
(edited to add 'it' in pgh 2, ln 2, and add sentence 3 in pgh 3)
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