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bitchdog4master -> deceptive Master (12/20/2010 1:55:47 PM)

Hello, I need a Masters point of view here. I am married and have been seeing a Master who is also married. I have been honest and up front with him in all aspects of my life. However, he is deceptive with me. He has lied 2 times about his profession, lied about how many kids he has.He says he is a private person-hell, I don't think he is telling me his real first name! He calls me, but blocks his # so I can't see it. He has a ton of pics. of me, but will not even acknowledge that I have asked him for a pic. When we meet, he is always there first and backs his escalade up to a brick wall so the plate can not be seen. Ther is no plate on the front. Then when we part he makes sure I go b/4 him ( I sure it is so I won't get his plate numbers) What is wrong with him?? I am on the verge of breaking it off.
One time he told me he was checking out for a few weeks and would explain why when he checked back in. 5 weeks went by b/4 I heard from him, and even though I asked what happened, he ignored my question. Yes, I am very submissive-but even I have a breaking point. It had been 4 days since I have heard from him. Finally today he writes and says he is out of state, in the mountains with extended family and was just able to get email!! He didn't even tell me he was leaving. Please Masters out there, should I just continue to go on with him or do you think he is in the wrong?



Icarys -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 2:05:51 PM)

You guys are perfect for one another..Don't change a thing.



windchymes -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 2:06:57 PM)

I don't know what's "wrong" with him but he's making damn sure he doesn't get caught diddling around with you.




angelikaJ -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 2:17:03 PM)

I am not a Master, so pardon me for my response.

1) He is obviously very concerned you might trace him via his name, license plate or other identifying information and perhaps stalk him in his vanilla/family/regular life or tell his wife. It doesn't matter that you would never, ever even think of doing such a thing, it is how he feels.

2) He lies. Dress it up anyway you want, he lies.
Granted he is perpetuating lies to protect his home life, but they are deceptions just the same.

(Some people here will state that in cheating on your spouse, you are also a liar; that you are simply creating a different lie. I am not going there on this post. I am letting you know that someone will)

3) Do you personally think/feel that people who deceive are trustworthy?
Do you need him to be trustworthy?

Ask yourself those last 2 questions and you probably can figure out what you need/want to do.




DarkSteven -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 2:17:39 PM)

Well, I read your profile and you don't even mention your current Master...



mbes -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 2:18:24 PM)

Well, the big thing that's wrong with him (from my viewpoint) is that he's married and his wife doesn't know what he's up to.
I'm curious, though; why does it matter to you what other doms would consider wrong in this matter?



Darkfeather -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 2:35:43 PM)

quote:

bitchdog4master
Short answer, being submissive does not equal being stupid. If you would not take this kind of treatment in a normal relationship, you should not take it in a D/s one. Unless of course, this is how you like being treated, as some do



JstAnotherSub -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 3:14:12 PM)

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After reading your profile, I have to say you are getting exactly what you deserve.....



DesFIP -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 3:19:55 PM)

You're lying to your husband, he's lying to his wife. You're being stupid enough that someone could tell your husband the truth. He's being smart enough that his wife won't find out.



AquaticSub -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 3:26:49 PM)

 
quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You're lying to your husband, he's lying to his wife. You're being stupid enough that someone could tell your husband the truth. He's being smart enough that his wife won't find out.


I'd have put it more nicely but... yeah. This is what it sounds like to me. From your profile:

quote:


Prefer an unmarried Man, as I am seeking my perfect match for  a 24/7, I do plan on leaving my husband for the right Master or Dom.


I doubt you've told your husband this. Like attracts like. You are planning on leaving this man but not until you've found something "better" - something I doubt you'll find using this approach. So you'll keep using him as a bedwarmer till then. And you've found someone who is using you.

The only person I feel sorry for is your husband. Maybe the guy's wife but for all we know she knows everything and is laughing her ass off at you. Stranger things have happened.



subinlife -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 3:32:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

You guys are perfect for one another..Don't change a thing.


This.




crazyml -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 3:50:23 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: subinlife

quote:

ORIGINAL: Icarys

You guys are perfect for one another..Don't change a thing.


This.




Yup. This



SorceressJ -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 3:58:59 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You're lying to your husband, he's lying to his wife. You're being stupid enough that someone could tell your husband the truth. He's being smart enough that his wife won't find out.


I'd have put it more nicely but... yeah. This is what it sounds like to me. From your profile:

quote:


Prefer an unmarried Man, as I am seeking my perfect match for  a 24/7, I do plan on leaving my husband for the right Master or Dom.


I doubt you've told your husband this. Like attracts like. You are planning on leaving this man but not until you've found something "better" - something I doubt you'll find using this approach. So you'll keep using him as a bedwarmer till then. And you've found someone who is using you.

The only person I feel sorry for is your husband. Maybe the guy's wife but for all we know she knows everything and is laughing her ass off at you. Stranger things have happened.


This, except I'm not as nice as aqua.
The OP is deceiving her husband, and is surprised and offended that she is being deceived in return.
This is not rocket science. This is several flavors of unmitigated and shameful bullshit.
OP, stop being a douche and leave the man you're married to as soon as possible, or at the very least tell him the truth. Stop seeing the lying POS married Dom until or unless He decides to be truthful with you (I can't really see this happening), and/or until you have spoken with His wife and received her blessing to continue. Accept no more offers from anyone, married or not, until you have gotten your own life in a bit more order. You may be a sub/slave, but you're a grown-ass woman first. Act like it.



mnottertail -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 4:03:10 PM)

Women are like monkeys though, they do not release the hand behind them before the branch in front of them is securely in their grubby meathooks. 



SorceressJ -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 4:07:00 PM)

This has nothing to do with Darwinist survival pattern behavior, mnottertail. [8|] This has to do with the obvious fact that the OP is a liar who is asking for advice because she is being lied to.



LadyPact -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 4:26:16 PM)

Well, it occurs to Me that your <cough> Master <cough> probably knows that you are just waiting to leave your husband and wants to be sure that he's not the one that you latch onto should your husband find out and toss you out on your ear.  It seems rather obvious to Me that he doesn't want you rocking the boat in the marriage that he has no intention of screwing up over your sake.  I'm sure that you're ok as far as fitting his convenience of having his cake and eating it, too, but not anything more than that.  That old adage about reaping what you sow applies here.

Oh, and since we're evaluating the niceness of the replies, trust Me.  That was the nice version.



agirl -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 4:57:18 PM)

Well, he's not giving you much to hang onto......but there's not much in your profile to hang onto either.

The fact that you're submissive has got ZERO to do with any of this.

Do you want to live like this or dontcha? That's all there is to it.

agirl



kalikshama -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 5:21:12 PM)

quote:

Women are like monkeys though, they do not release the hand behind them before the branch in front of them is securely in their grubby meathooks. 

Hahaha.

I left one LTR by joining the military and another by joining a yoga community. So yes, I did have a branch, but it wasn't penis-shaped.


quote:

You're lying to your husband, he's lying to his wife. You're being stupid enough that someone could tell your husband the truth. He's being smart enough that his wife won't find out.

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anniezz338 -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 5:44:54 PM)

Hello neighbor... sounds like just another affair for him. You will come after pretty much everything, even his sleeping in the recliner. You will always be the least of his priorities. The balls in your court.



lovingpet -> RE: deceptive Master (12/20/2010 6:30:32 PM)

You left a lot of stuff out of your OP, but your profile is another story altogether.  I am married too.  My partner is not.  However, my husband and partner are acquainted and on board about the others' existence and involvement in my life.  I am not cheating, lying, planning a big exit, etc.  My partner is private, but does not leave me out of the loop about his life, has never lied to me, and trusts me with his personal information.  He did so because I am stable and not likely to misuse his information or do something else to harm him.

No, no one should be treating another person the way your master is treating you.  At the same time, your husband doesn't deserve to be treated the way he is getting treated either.  His wife, assuming there actually is one, doesn't deserve to be treated the way you are treating your husband...if she isn't in on the whole thing like someone else suggested.  None of this scenario is acceptable, but you have a hand in making it so inappropriate.  Work on yourself before pointing a finger at him.  Remember, there are three pointing right back at you.

lovingpet



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