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subsfaith -> RE: anyone with similar experiences? (12/24/2010 2:24:14 PM)
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ORIGINAL: derfman
I have been corresponding by chat with a dom/master across country.
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ORIGINAL: derfman
He says he has no illegal or malicious intent, asking for these things just to establish control.
And this is why OP you are getting red flags... you are on a different page to him. He is no longer chatting, he is asking for control.
I personally see nothing wrong with giving out details to someone I was starting a relationship with and i would use my instincts to tell me when that time was right. If pressed too soon I would ask for further reassurances, perhaps his details first, etc. But I would draw the line at pictures of that nature at that stage.
However, it seems to me the bigger question is what are you waiting for, or what is holding you back from giving trust and control... consider those questions and remember to be honest with yourself, weigh up the pros and cons, and then shit or get off the pot.
As for blackmailing you, I raised my children with the motto... if you can't be honest about something you are going to do, you shouldn't do it. Furthermore do you really think anyone else cares about your kink? We all have expectations of privacy to some degree, but we also know that our actions can be costly... weight them up and see can find out your balance of the two, etc.
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