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Zevar -> RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? (12/23/2010 8:33:21 PM)
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ORIGINAL: PlatiumDragon
Ok, I am having a.."debate" with a sub on what a 24/7 relationship is (there is many interpretations of this).
My take is even if you are not together you are still joined as a D/s couple. and refer to each as that, Dom/sub..just as you would in a vanilla relationship GF/BF.
My question.
When you talk to your Master/Dom on the phone or online, do you refer to him as Sir/Master or just call him by his SN/Street name?
When considering this topic to begin I recalled times past. A time when to hear my given name spoken by my Beloved Companion, who has since past on, would be the ultimate experience in feeling her love, that by the way rendered me speechless. Somehow she was able to speak my name, with her French Canadian accent, and I would literally never want to stop hearing her speak my name. Her ability to reach past any barrier I had constructed was magical. When she addressed me as Master, I too would feel the essence of her love for me in a manner that is unforgettable to this day.
Currently, I have began relating with a lovely submissive lady. I have experienced her to call me by my given name and also addressing me as Master. I do not object to her addressing me as Master, as the term does speak to how I relate with her. When she speaks my given name I have no objections either. No fireworks or waterfalls. I do though greatly appreciate her submissive heart and willingness to be respectful, discreet and appropriate.
Regarding addressing me as Master in public settings, in particular where others are unaware of our current relational arrangement, she has proven to be every bit respectful regarding the given protocol that has been mutually discussed and agreed upon. What I do not care for are terms of endearment used to address me with or in reference to myself.
I kept a slave once who needed time to regroup, etc. from an abusive situation she had been held captive in by an abusive man. After a bit of time past she began to address me with terms that were altogether inappropriate. I know she meant no harm but still in all I found her use of terms to be offensive since I did not reciprocate with similar affections toward her. I surely made it quite clear to cease from such language when referring to myself.
On another note my lovely Irish lady friend , who is quite dear to me, tends to address me as handsome more often than not. I allow such as she means no disrespect in addressing me as she does. Also she has known me for many years now and did know myself and My Beloved Companion prior to her passing.
At present I do not allow such terms of endearment from my submissive lady I am relating with. Perhaps one day I will. Indeed, I would say that it is a good match thus far with my new submissive lady. Protocol does have a rightful place in my Household and in all I set forth to accomplish. My submissive lady appears to be in alignment with similarities of mine that contribute to how I relate, which includes high protocol. A breathe of fresh air indeed to mutually share similarities, even how one is addressed and referred to.
Interesting topic. Thank you.
Take care!
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