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24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 8:21:36 PM

PlatiumDragon

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Ok, I am having a.."debate" with a sub on what a 24/7 relationship is (there is many interpretations of this).
My take is even if you are not together you are still joined as a D/s couple. and refer to each as that, Dom/sub..just as you would in a vanilla relationship GF/BF.

My question.
When you talk to your Master/Dom on the phone or online, do you refer to him as Sir/Master or just call him by his SN/Street name?

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 8:26:42 PM

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24/7 means her ass is mine, all the time.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 8:27:53 PM

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My interpretation is like yours. I consider the chained-and-bound-in-the-basement fantasy to be unrealistic. Even if a sub is at work, they are earning money for the household and also representing the Dominant through the caliber of their work.

A sub will call her D type as whatever the two of them work out. Personally, I like hearing Sir but would be concerned that that might slip out while in a vanilla environment.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 8:29:19 PM

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Even if my relationship were 1 hour every 3 months, I would address him in the manner he desires.
Im not sure how this settles your 24/7 inquiry?

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 8:32:19 PM

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I am always Master's slave. There is no downtime. There is no part time. There is no whenever I feel like it. I may not go around calling him "Master" in every setting because it's just not appropriate but that doesn't mean anything else changes. I still am his slave anywhere, anytime.

24/7 means just that...24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 8:41:10 PM

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In my last relationship, Master was the usual term. When in front of people who didn't understand (or need to understand) the relationship, I was instructed to use his real name. But he was "out" to so very many people (including his parents, blush!) that this didn't happen very often. Once in a while I'd say, "Yes sir!" when I wanted to express I was on it, acting with alacrity, but that wasn't a common term for us. Very rarely I'd use his real name, but only because he didn't mind nor see any insubordination in my doing so.

I've done a little online exploration (I explore with types who identify as "masters") and usually wait for the other party to tell me what to call them--or I ask for clarification when it seems appropriate. Until then, I refrain from calling them anything (except maybe a playful or fanciful descriptor, used once or twice for fun) as it seems presumptuous no matter what you choose.

My preference? If given one, I like Master. Or Lord and Master (it sounds weird at first, but it actually rolls off the tongue pretty nicely).

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 9:27:55 PM

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I say sir sometimes. Sometimes I use dear, or hon, or whatever, same as I use in the living room. My favorite is to call him "Handsome", cause he is!

We don't talk a lot on the phone, though, and when we're on the computer there's a wall between us. Literally. He's on his computer in one room, and I'm on mine in the next, chatting as we do our own things.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/22/2010 9:34:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mbes

I say sir sometimes. Sometimes I use dear, or hon, or whatever, same as I use in the living room. My favorite is to call him "Handsome", cause he is!
We don't talk a lot on the phone, though, and when we're on the computer there's a wall between us. Literally. He's on his computer in one room, and I'm on mine in the next, chatting as we do our own things.

I say Sir a lot, because it feels right and is suitable in any situation, including in front of other people, even children and 'nilla ones - and the camoflage is perfect because we are in the South. I say Papa often as well, because it doubles as an endearment.
We talk on the computer a lot also, Him from His workplace and me from home, and in addition to these nicknames I will sometimes cap Him in text like I'm doing now, and cap myself down, although He does not require these things.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 12:36:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PlatiumDragon

Ok, I am having a.."debate" with a sub on what a 24/7 relationship is (there is many interpretations of this).
My take is even if you are not together you are still joined as a D/s couple. and refer to each as that, Dom/sub..just as you would in a vanilla relationship GF/BF.

For me and mine... it means we have met in real life multiple times, are a significant part of each other's lives and have a dynamic with commands that are in place 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Others regard it differently. Some feel it requires the people to be living together. I don't though I do feel having actually met is required.

quote:

My question.
When you talk to your Master/Dom on the phone or online, do you refer to him as Sir/Master or just call him by his SN/Street name?

I call him by his given name, Master, Sir, Honey, Sweetie, Husband o' mine, Nutter-Butter, Boo-Kitty, my Meowstar, lover, Honey Bunches of Oats, Sexy Pants McGee, etc on the phone, online and in person. He doesn't like me calling him Master in public too much and I only refer to him as Valyraen online or "in the scene".

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 12:47:23 AM

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for me i am his all the time what ever we do and where we go we live together as partners but i am his sub and slave in reality somewhere between the two if thats possible. we do not have vanilla times the only thing is in company of others (and the kids ) i dont call him master, however i find it hard to use his street name i just dont like using it so tend not to call him anything jsut talk to him, he knows and understands my difficulty with this and is happy with what i choose to do in public or if we can be overheard.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 6:34:50 AM

mbes

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Oops, I think I left out what the 24/7 part means to me--- it means he owns me, even when I don't want him to!

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 6:41:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PlatiumDragon
My question.
When you talk to your Master/Dom on the phone or online, do you refer to him as Sir/Master or just call him by his SN/Street name?

Both. Although, I rarely call him Sir or Master. I call him Daddy.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 7:20:03 AM

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When I hear 24/7, I interpret it as a dynamic where the protocol they have established is in place all the time. I also see it as a more structured type of relationship, where the roles are evident all the time.

For me, I don't find I can function in a 24/7 dynamic nor do I need one. I am more fluid.

However, it does not mean that I do not feel submissive to my partner on some level, all the time, just because my expression of that does not occur until specific times.

Does that make sense?

As to what I call someone, I call them by name, or some endearment. I only say Sir or Master if someone is into that) during specific times.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 11:34:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PlatiumDragon

When you talk to your Master/Dom on the phone or online, do you refer to him as Sir/Master or just call him by his SN/Street name?

We have a rule that says, "Obey the law of the land," and sometimes it's obvious when using the protocol isn't appropriate. Under these conditions are the only time the slave(s) don't call Us Master or Ma'am. In all other correspondence, be it in person, on the phone or in IM, speech protocols are upheld.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 11:53:13 AM

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I guess I'm odd-man-out here... I've always considered 24/7 to refer to those relationships where the individuals actually live together. I don't take it to mean that they are together literally every moment of every day, but as an indication that they share the majority of their lives physically in the presence of each other.

I do, however, see where 24/7 could be a way to describe where a dynamic is ever-present... regardless of where the individuals lived. This, particularly in contrast to relationships where individuals get together occasionally and the restrictions of a dynamic are reserved only for those times.

However, as Firm and I do not have what I consider to be any type of codified "dynamic", so to speak... no rules, commands, etc... I didn't consider us to be 24/7 until we lived together.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 12:27:39 PM

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I don't see how people who see each other once a year for a week can be 24/7 or owned or anything but a fantasy. Unless they used to live together and are temporarily separated due to work, school, or military service. In which case, the relationship is already set up and they need just continue what they have done, with adaptations to the separation.

For me, you need to either live together or damned close and be seeing each other multiple times a week.
Even with that, it doesn't mean he has rules set down for every minute of every day, simply that he can tell me what to do should he choose to.

And no, I don't call him by any honorific. We are not just in a d/s relationship; we are lovers, friends, step-parents to each other's kids, and sometimes even work together. A power title would limit us to just that in the relationship, it would not encompass the multitude of our lives.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 2:48:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

I guess I'm odd-man-out here... I've always considered 24/7 to refer to those relationships where the individuals actually live together. I don't take it to mean that they are together literally every moment of every day, but as an indication that they share the majority of their lives physically in the presence of each other.

I agree. It's not really 24/7 if you're not actually living together. That doesn't diminish the relaionship between non-24/7 couples, but if you're living apart and either have an online relationship, or only visit with each other sometimes, you're not really 24/7, no matter how serious or commited you are.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 3:04:03 PM

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I truly don't fathom the idea of having to live together for it to be 24/7. When we were long-distance his control over me wasn't diminished, I had to get permission for certain things and let him know what I was doing. He gave commands and I obeyed. To me this is like saying a married couple aren't married if they dont live together, regardless of how committed they are. I guesss it just strikes me as "one true way"ish.

*shrugs*

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 4:36:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I truly don't fathom the idea of having to live together for it to be 24/7. When we were long-distance his control over me wasn't diminished, I had to get permission for certain things and let him know what I was doing. He gave commands and I obeyed. To me this is like saying a married couple aren't married if they dont live together, regardless of how committed they are. I guesss it just strikes me as "one true way"ish.

*shrugs*

My experience was the opposite. He would give commands which I couldn't do since he would not be able to keep track of my schedule. Nor was he available when I had an emergency come up that would change things.

If I couldn't reach him, and I frequently couldn't, then he couldn't be asked for anything.

I will admit that in the times since, cell coverage has improved enormously so nowadays it might work. Back then my county was still analog and he lived in a place where it was more usual to have no service than to have any. Obviously the easier communication is, the easier this could work. Hell back then, I was on a windows 95 computer with dial up. Emails weren't dependable either.

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RE: 24/7? what does it mean to you? - 12/23/2010 5:13:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I truly don't fathom the idea of having to live together for it to be 24/7. When we were long-distance his control over me wasn't diminished, I had to get permission for certain things and let him know what I was doing. He gave commands and I obeyed. To me this is like saying a married couple aren't married if they dont live together, regardless of how committed they are. I guesss it just strikes me as "one true way"ish.

Well... that why I said that I do, however, see where 24/7 could be a way to describe where a dynamic is ever-present. It really all depends on the individuals.

Firm doesn't (and has never) "controlled" me. He didn't really have much authority over me until we moved in together, either. Whether I did my laundry before or after vacuuming, or had steak or fish for dinner... it made no difference to him before we lived together. He served in an advisory capacity during that time, but the decisions I made were still ultimately mine, as were the consequences.

Now, it is different. He still doesn't control me, but he does have authority and responsibility for me around the clock. If he decided tomorrow that he wants me to wipe down every baseboard and fixture in the house every morning before I go to work, he has that authority. He has full access to my schedule, what I need to do, and how I'm feeling at all times. He has all the information he needs available to him (and even information that I don't have to tell him) in order to make a good decision.

In the same vein, he also now has responsibility for every aspect of me and my life. If I can't pay a bill, if I'm too sick to get out of bed, if I fall down the stairs or wreck my car, if the bedframe collapses in the middle of the night... it is his responsibility to decide how to handle it. To me, that's 24/7. I can't get away from it. He can't get away from it.

To be honest, I can't blame him for not wanting to take responsibility for a person he only saw occasionally. I wouldn't, either.

However, I do recognize that other people have their way of doing things. I can see where a couple would consider themselves 24/7, even if they lived across the country from each other, if there was a transfer of control and authority that applied to all situations at all times. It's just for me, in my own mind I didn't consider that 24/7 as it was not something I could relate to. But just because I don't typically view it that way doesn't mean that other people can't.

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