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CaringandReal -> RE: May I ask what begging means or does for you? (12/28/2010 7:42:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MissLily72
I am not experienced at begging. Maybe a few times as a child when I wanted something for Christmas, aways to no avail, lol. We were probably considered poor but I just did not realize it. My master likes this very much and I do not know where to begin to learn. I am thinking if I know more about what it does for the Dom it would help me to get my mind set in the right direction. It is important that I develop this skill so I can please my master. Any advice or direction would be appreciated. I am sure it is an art developed between partners but surely there are more like myself that really don't know what it is about or how it is done properly and pleasingly. I do not want to seem a fraud as I am sure my master would not accept that behavior from me.
I'm not sure I can give you any pointers. Everybody who begs finds their own way of doing this.
What it means to me: in the context of a control relationship, when I need or really want something, I beg for it. (I haven't had to beg for anything outside the context of a control relationship, thank god.) If you were brought up religious, do you remember praying to god about something you really wanted or were afraid of? Begging feels something like that. It's a prayer to your controller, to give you something that is non-trivial to you. What it _might_ mean to the dominant: that you are surrendering a level of control and pride that is hard to let go of and that makes you appear more attractive to them because you are weaker and more open as a result. (Don't quote me on this; I'm not dominant.)
To beg sincerely and well, your dominant needs to provide you with the proper context, one in which sincere feelings of need will emerge. Without that, I don't think you can beg in a heartfelt matter--although you can certainly do it sweetly and jokingly if there's something you lightly want. But when that special context is provided, you will have no problem begging and will not be particularly worried about proper form. :) Begging can look like anything, actually. I have begged lightly and humorously about very serious things because at the time it seemed appropriate to do so (it amused my partner); other times I have humilated and debased myself in some fairly profound ways--a lot depends on the context.
I hope the doms have answered what begging does for them. I've only observed the effect from the outside: it looked like great enjoyment and also an aphrodisiac.
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