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Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 1:36:00 PM

RiotGirl

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No, i dont mean physical needs. Granted all we physically NEED is water and food over at the least a 3 day time span. Or some such. i dont mean a warm bed and i dont mean a warm room. i learned years ago what i truely need and not need physically. Spent about 2 weeks once in a concrete 8 by 10 room, no blanets, pillows, but with a small toilet. Its called solitary confinment. Cold hard - does your body in. Little human contact. Yet food and water. Heard of a bit worse as well. Oh hey and i had clothes. Hole in the floor for a toilet, no clothes, you know. Oddly they still do that in the judicial system. Boggled my brain and oddly fascinated me.. but not something i was willing to bring upon myself.

So i dont mean physical needs. Nor do i mean wants. Really its a difficult question, one that requires alot of self reflection and honesty with yourself. There are alot of things i want. Sure. Heck i want a million dollars. What i'm talking about is the basic mental needs. What do you need to move forward with life. Love? Self love? Ambition? What do you need in order to care about those things?

Yesterday, i was in Himself's arms, bawling like all get out and blubbering to him that i NEED him. i need everything about him. His strength, his love, his control, his arms, his safety, his protection, his intelligence, his calmness.

Thinking thinking.. always thinking. Could i do with out these things. With out him. Truely? Do i just want them? You know, my answer is yes. i need Him. He gives me the basic fundementals to be able to move forward. The whole maslows hierarchy thing. Safety is one of them i think. Point being, there are some things you need to be able to move forward. Shelter, substance, ect.

When i was younger, i used to have some one who'd look at me and say "Kelly, everyone needs some one" Cynical as i was i just rolled my eyes. i DONT need anyone. Thought it was just some fool, wimpy thing. No one "needs" another. Poppycock.

Yet here i am, saying i need another.

What do you really truely need to go forward, to care about tomorrow, to get up in the morning?

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RE: Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 1:39:21 PM

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Need in realtionships comes from how much of yourself you invest. And receive in return.

It's a sliding scale. that can only really be evaluated by those involved.

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RE: Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 1:41:37 PM

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I have over the last six months had just about everything I thought I 'needed' on a personal, emotional level taken away. I have no needs, I don't even 'need' myself if you will...on the other hand everything is provided...it's all perspective. With lotus, I found what I 'needed' and it was taken abruptly away again...I am still here, I learn, I continue...I was told recently that everything being taken away were just things which kept me distracted from my returning to another understanding...which I won't get into right now...
I suppose all just is.

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RE: Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 2:53:06 PM

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This is taken from my d/s essay.

Submissive wants verses needs and the myth of the perfect dom. All submissive women seem to want the ever elusive perfect dom, elusive because he doesn’t exist. They dream up extensive lists of the perfect dominants traits leaving out the most important dominant trait, that is he will have his own list. If the dream is to be taken control of then what good is her list? That one fact should supercede all other considerations, that he will be in control, period, end of discussion. As a thought experiment, would a very submissive woman really want a dominant that didn’t push her to fulfill his most cherished desires. Wouldn’t she want to feel that he thought enough of her to push her limits, to really use her? What a novel idea. She needs to surrender to him, not control him. She needs him to take her wants away and fulfill her needs by using her to fulfil his desires. Her perfect dominant isn’t her idea of the perfect dominant.

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RE: Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 4:45:18 PM

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I dont know...I guess at this point I "need" nothing...however I want much!...be well ...Tempting

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RE: Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 4:49:48 PM

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Like the Rolling Stones song said...."You don't always get what you want, but you get what you need".

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RE: Need vs Want - 4/30/2006 4:55:36 PM

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