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LoveSparkie -> Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 9:36:53 AM)

This could be anything dealing with the lifestyle or other things. Sexual or not.

Mine:

1. Harming my children or questioning my parenting skills. I am a Mama Bear.

2. Serious bodily harm, anything that would inflict extreme pain. Slight pain is ok, but serious pain in my opinion is a bodies way of telling you to stop. I'm speaking of thing that can cause serious damage.

3. My hair - I've heard some submissives have no problem with their Masters practically giving them a buzzcut...I would cut his dick off.
My hair is what makes me feel feminine. Strip me of what makes me feel like a woman and I'll strip you of what makes you feel like a man. (Damn, I sound crazy.)

4. Anything public (on the internet or in real life). I have children and a family. I respect them too much to let them see mommy (or whatever relationship I have with them) in a compromising position.

5. Having any and all privacy stripped from me or being told I don't have a choice in anything. I've had men try this before, I'm a human being..I have rights.

What are yours?



allthatjaz -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 11:06:18 AM)




Because BDSM comes under the heading, Safe, Sane and consensual. I don't see harming your children as anything to do with BDSM and I don't see public displays that brings in other un-consensual people as BDSM either.
I no longer have limits because I know my partner well enough to understand he is safe and sane and that he would do absolutely nothing that would cause me trauma.
In my early days with him I had restrictions (within BDSM) and they were polythene bags over my head or fabric over my head, thumping me in the face and kicking. Never being dominated by a woman because I would have to kill her afterward and no gang bangs. Oh and scat.



DesFIP -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 11:11:13 AM)

Anything that causes physical, mental or emotional harm. And anything that puts distance between us, that weakens the relationship rather than strengthening it.

No inverted suspension because of my vertigo.
No duct tape gags, or indeed anywhere on my skin, as it sets off a panic attack.
No humiliation because it makes me distrust him.
And other things as we come across them.

But really, do I have to specify he can't kill off my elderly father so we can get the estate? Or the teen, just because he's 17 and waiting for him to grow up is getting old?



soul2share -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 11:14:48 AM)

Mine are pretty much the extreme things, no scat, urine, blood, needles.  Nothing illegal, and a few special things...no tickling, no breast torture and no woman to woman contact.  I've had one dom try to tell me he was going to use the last one as punishment for some bullshit thing I said that he took the wrong way, but I think it was just any excuse for him to try it.  Needless to say, I walked, no make that RAN, in the other direction and never looked back.  He said it was a mindfuck, I said it was a breach of trust.  He never did get it!

Anything that may cause mental or physical trauma is what I consider out of bounds.  It may be something that right now isn't a problem, but it's only because I haven't tried it.  Things change.....nothing ever stays the same.



gungadin09 -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 11:28:48 AM)

KNOWN LIMITS:

permanent marks or scars- hard limit

nonpermanent marks or scars on the face or lower arms (visible)- hard limit

vaginal penetration without a condom- hard limit

calling Someone "Daddy"- hard limit

calling me "stupid"- soft limit

interfering with my job in any way- hard limit

asking me to do anything illegal- hard limit

asking me to do anything that embarasses a third party, or otherwise forces them to participate in a dynamic they haven't consented to- hard limit

making major life decisions for me (where i live, where i work, whether i go to school)- hard limit

telling me what to think- hard limit; (telling me what to do is, or course, not a limit)

asking me to do anything that requires money- soft limit

casual sex- soft limit

extroversion- soft limit

LIMITS THAT I CONSIDER COMMON SENSE:
lying, or being lied to
playing with anyone who's married and whos spouse doen't know
putting me in the hospital
gossip; lack of discretion
sex with animals, minors, or dead people, which, of course, also falls under the category of things that are illegal

pam



mnottertail -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 11:30:48 AM)

women who spit.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 12:03:18 PM)

Technically a lot of bdsm is considered illegal. You can't consent to being beaten or battered or anything the law considers assault.

I have hard limits against things that are bad for me, or my health or my self esteem, either directly or indirectly, anything else I just say it like it is,  they're not hard limits, because those are things bad for my health, mental emotional or pysichal or my esteem,  if it's not something that falls under that catagory, but I am unwilling to do it, I simply say I just aint doing it cause I don't like it end of story.



kalikshama -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 12:08:25 PM)

quote:

women who spit.


As opposed to swallowing?



kalikshama -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 12:11:31 PM)

Thanks for saving me some typing!


quote:

ORIGINAL: gungadin09

KNOWN LIMITS:

permanent marks or scars- hard limit

nonpermanent marks or scars on the face or lower arms (visible)- hard limit

vaginal penetration without a condom- hard limit

calling Someone "Daddy"- hard limit

calling me "stupid"- soft limit

interfering with my job in any way- hard limit

asking me to do anything illegal- hard limit

asking me to do anything that embarasses a third party, or otherwise forces them to participate in a dynamic they haven't consented to- hard limit

making major life decisions for me (where i live, where i work, whether i go to school)- hard limit

telling me what to think- hard limit; (telling me what to do is, or course, not a limit)

asking me to do anything that requires money- soft limit

casual sex- soft limit

extroversion- soft limit

LIMITS THAT I CONSIDER COMMON SENSE:
lying, or being lied to
playing with anyone who's married and whos spouse doen't know
putting me in the hospital
gossip; lack of discretion
sex with animals, minors, or dead people, which, of course, also falls under the category of things that are illegal

pam





littlewonder -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 12:12:37 PM)

None

I have no need of any with him because I trust him completely. I wouldn't be with him if I didn't.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 12:18:12 PM)

I guess either way I am safe from Ron, bwahahaha.



mbes -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 1:01:07 PM)

I can't think of any with my other half. There are things I don't want to do, but he knows what I'm capable of, so wouldn't ask what I can't do.
With anyone else, the list would be a mile long, to make sure I covered everything conceivable. [:D]



MaxsGirl -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 2:09:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mbes

I can't think of any with my other half. There are things I don't want to do, but he knows what I'm capable of, so wouldn't ask what I can't do.
With anyone else, the list would be a mile long, to make sure I covered everything conceivable. [:D]


Same here.  Anything that would be a hard limit for me (sex with minors or animals, for example) isn't something he'd ask me to do.  Anything else is fair game.



rulemylife -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 2:15:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

women who spit.


If they chew tobacco they have to.  Swallowing that is unhealthy.



IrishMist -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 2:15:32 PM)

Death [&:]



agirl -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 3:02:41 PM)

We haven't found any limits in all the years we've been together. We didn't even discuss the subject. There just hasn't been any need to. He was my best friend for years before he owned me, so there was nothing I wouldn't have trusted him with by the time he took me, anyway.

We really rather like each other; limits aren't a subject that needs raising. He's not going to hurt me, fuck me up or do anything that'd diminish something he's been raising up for years.

Of course I can think of trillions of things that'd be a hard limit if he went so bonkers that I felt I had to say *no* to something...the first of which would be * No owning me if you're bonkers*.

agirl

















Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 5:41:20 PM)

Diapers is one of mine!!! Hell no way in Hell!!! Just creeps me the hell out personally...



BeingChewsie -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 6:40:33 PM)

Leaving the relationship.



agirl -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 6:47:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BeingChewsie

Leaving the relationship.


How is that a hard limit?...Isn't that a consequence? I mean , would you stay with someone , no matter what?

agirl



anniezz338 -> RE: Your HARD LIMITS (12/24/2010 7:14:46 PM)

Yea, the diapers...not for me. Electricity, broken bones, must watch Hell's Kitchen and House, my family time (very important)....and like agirl said, no bonkers.



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