KnightofMists
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I agree completely obviously, but I need to add a comment or two. In this context, the words are important. "I wish to be Yours" is the answer you want, and expect, to hear. BUT - and it is the BIG BUT, until those words are tested up close and personal, in a situation for the first time, I don't think either person can represent 100% confidence in them. It's one thing to say it and consider the theoretical, it's quite another to see it occur in front of you. There is no amount of communication or discussion of 'worst case' that can prepare you for what you're feeling. Compare it to parachute jumping. You can talk about it, plan it, practice it, people can describe it to you; but until you jump (or are pushed) out of the plane for the first time, you really don't know how it feels. And sometimes, even with all that prep, the chute doesn't open and you die.
I agree... Which is why I have often told my girls and on these boards.
Awareness... Acceptance... "Actualization".
Words do not define us... our Demonstrated Actions or Inaction do! However, our words do point a direction that lead us to expectations. When kyra wished to mine. "She was told she is now mine.. now she must demonstrated it for the rest of her life" She was given a small charm necklace to wear always as a reminder of her vow. Several months later she was given a collar as an indication that her words have been actively demonstrated. In time she will earn a Lock on that collar. The Lock is a further reflection of her active Demonstration of her words. Not only her words... but mine and alandra's as well.
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Another key is that the owner must never lose sight of the fact that he/she has total responsibility for the other person on a physical and emotional level. Having the ability to allow others to use your slave doesn't mean you have to do so. I've said no, many more times than I've said yes to the opportunity on either side of the experience. If you have a Ferrari sitting in your driveway, you don't through the keys to everyone who asks. If you have a Ferrari, you don't need to borrow someone else's VW Bug. (Gas prices not withstanding.)
this is where I disagree. I do not and never will have "Total Responsibility" of my girls. For to me this equates that if I have "Total Responsiblity" they have none. I have "Total Authority" and have TOTAL responsiblity in the use of that Authority. My girls have "Total Obedience" and have the Total Responsibility in the use of their Obedience. However, My total Authority and their total obedience was not gained blindly. It was gain/earned and as such what gained or earned such power must be maintained or enhanced. We both must maintain or enhance the standard that was meet in gaining Authority and accepting their obedience. If either should fall below that standard set, the relationship is in peril.
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Appreciate your comments regarding beth's post. When are you and your's visiting the left coast?
I am targeting sept '07 as a trip to San Fransico.
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