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KatzeT -> Master problems (12/27/2010 6:48:45 PM)

How do I deal with a Master who has been in my life for 10 years and we were together as D/s but for 4 of the years I was collared until we hit a spike in the road and I was to young to notice the problems but I has only been in 2 relationships before him and wanted to see the world and in the process of doing I lost him. This year he had said he wanted to have me back and I think I blew my chance but he wanted who I was to come back and she has come back and all I want is to serve him, but he went to see another girl who was interested in the lifestyle and in the process I fear he has gone off with her and i have lost him for good but I want to show him I am who I was when he first met me and have changed and want to serve him again and will go to the ends of the world. How do I show him when he won't answer me since he said he really thought he was done with it all.



littlewonder -> RE: Master problems (12/27/2010 7:01:33 PM)

first of all...paeagraphs please

second...he's moved on. You should too.



Hillwilliam -> RE: Master problems (12/27/2010 7:10:23 PM)

katze, you are young. Possibly your ex was as well. Calm down, take a deep breath and think about your situation. You were in only 2 relationships before him and if you were involved with him for 10 years, he hit you at a very immature stage.

Again, calm down and BREATHE. It isn't the end of the world. listen to an old fart that has been there. If it feels wrong at your age (mine a long time ago) it IS wrong.

Repeat that over and over.

You have friends here. Talk to them



Zevar -> RE: Master problems (12/27/2010 8:16:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KatzeT

How do I show him when he won't answer me since he said he really thought he was done with it all.



Prior to searching for a quick unilateral fix for this impaired relationship, it would be prudent to ask yourself the following:

1) What would I do for my best welfare if he is done relating with me?

2) Since it appears he has moved on, what is my primary concern in my not moving on?

3) Am I important enough to accept my value without serving him or another?

I ask these questions with the motive of introducing you to a higher concept to focus on. Surely no one is worth losing your own focus. You deserve peace of heart and mind in your service and surely security. If it’s broken don’t try and fix it all by yourself, aye!

Take really good care of you…



DesFIP -> RE: Master problems (12/27/2010 9:21:55 PM)

He wants the person you were two years ago, not the person you are now. And the person you were then was one who wasn't ready for this kind of a relationship.

Move on. Take more time to figure out who you are and what you need to be happy. And don't keep trying to revive a dead relationship. He doesn't want you, he's made that clear by getting involved with someone else.



OsideGirl -> RE: Master problems (12/28/2010 7:09:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: KatzeT
but I want to show him I am who I was when he first met me and have changed

Your post is scattered, all over the place and contradictory.

1) you need to move on and move forward, not backwards. He has stated that this relationship is over.

2) You need to take a step back and figure out who you are because your post indicates that you're jumping all over the place.

3) Once you've done two, then figure out who you're looking for and move forward.



subsfaith -> RE: Master problems (12/28/2010 1:18:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KatzeT

How do I show him when he won't answer me since he said he really thought he was done with it all.


You don't... He has taken the choice away from you.  Time to move on.



InvisibleBlack -> RE: Master problems (12/29/2010 9:54:36 PM)

Sad to say, it's done. You can't go back to the past no matter how much you wish to - you can only move forward and embrace the future.

He's told you it's done and he's not responding to you - that's a pretty clear statement. My ten cents is to take a little time, get on a more even keel, and then move ahead. As trite as it sounds, you'll meet someone else who'll make your whole world spin and suddenly this won't seem to matter as much.

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ, 
Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, 
Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.



Buzzzz -> RE: Master problems (1/1/2011 5:42:57 AM)

I agree with the others . Time to move on.



SirNomdeplume -> RE: Master problems (1/1/2011 12:34:17 PM)

There is comfort in staying the same. There is discomfort in change. "No Pain no gain." It is time to move out of the comfort zone and be who you have become. Know who you are and seek someone who sets your world on fire. Know who you are, what your desires or needs are and what your Master can provide. He is out there and you will fine him. A really good Master is hard to fine, however if you do not look, you will not see him comiing. The advice here has been good, move on.



CherryNeko -> RE: Master problems (1/2/2011 3:13:59 AM)

You are jealous, I know, but maybe consider that by holding on, you can be making him even more uncomfortable. You probably don't enjoy it either.
He is in another phase now, with someone else, and if you still want to serve him and he won't let you, this might be your way. It sounds weird, but I would think of it this way.
I'm kind of twisted, but it worked once.



CherryNeko -> RE: Master problems (1/2/2011 3:15:50 AM)

I am terribly tempted to quote that.



nightfury -> RE: Master problems (1/2/2011 4:36:25 PM)

I have read the comments to move on and while I agree it is not an easy task. I was in a similar situation just a few weeks ago. The woman I was with the we both discovered this lifestyle decided that she was done with me because honestly I didn't treat her the way I should have. I was immature and stupid. She found someone else on here in fact and went with him. She found out that he wasn't all that he made himself out to be and has since returned to me. I will say this. Prepare to move on but keep a hopeful eye out just incase so you don't miss him. I wish you the best. 



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