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juliaoceania -> RE: Ignoring Political Limits? (5/1/2006 8:26:00 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Calandra
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
For people that political philosophy is not important to it would not be an issue, but for someone whose power is in the hands of someone else their values and religious beliefs could be impacted by a dominant they are serving. If I was serving a dominant in the armed forces that was serving in Iraq or had done so it might be hard for him to understand my peace movement activities for example. This is the inner core of who I am. If I could not share my beliefs with them it would leave a huge gap for me in the relationship.. It is always so much yummier when you are aligned on things such as morals, beliefs, and values. It leads to common ground for trust IMO.
While I do understand that this could be a problem for some, I think it's rather harsh to apply it to all Dominants. I know that with power exchange, there is the risk of the Dominant exerting influence politically, but that can and is avoided by thinking individuals who talk openly and honestly while they are getting to know each other. I'll explain:
My cubby and I hadn't really discussed much about politics. We are very matched in belief system and ideology. We both tend to be non-conformists. When the second gulf war began, I saw an entirely new side of him emerge. Suddenly he began spouting opinions that were not based in fact. Now I'm not a political science major, by any means, but I still remember civics and I started looking to see if the basic understanding that I'd been brought up with had changed "that much". It hadn't. Now, some of the things that he was parroting from various media sources were making him appear ignorant, and as his Mistress, I felt it was my duty to provide guidance. I purchased a book "Idiot's Guide to Government" (mainly because it hit the high points without dragging him into the mire of minutiae - I wanted him to enjoy the subject, not reject it) and assigned him one chapter at a time. After completing each chapter, he was to write a small report about what he learned. He LOVED it! When he'd discuss politics, it was with enthusiasm and forethought, from his own heart, not from something on a news channel.
As it happened, he finished several weeks before the last Presidential election. I told him I expected him to vote. I didn't care WHO he voted for, as long as he could explain what issues were important to him, and why he chose the person he did. He ended up finding resources for both of us, and we began discussing the pros and cons of each candidate. We arrived at a decision together (I ended up changing from my original candidate based on the research cubs had provided) and it brought us together because we could differ and we could still love each other regardless.
Not all Dominants exercise their power the same way, but I'd hope that you'd at least talk to a Dominant to see if their political views were thought out, or something that He/She had taken on faith from the popular media. I tell people all the time not to look for someone who has exactly the same views or they miss out on the best part of a relationship - the PROCESS.
Lady Kathryn
Athens Ga.
Well that approach would not work for me since I would be the one that possessed the books about government and civics and do notget my news from the corporate media, but it was a nice approach for him. My point is that someone who believed in peace as opposed to someone serving in a war is not going to be a good match. A dom could not educate me out of my beliefs, because I am already educated. I am not likely to educate him.
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