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RLMK -> What type of message to send? (12/28/2010 8:12:58 PM)
So, I've read your profile, think you sound quite interesting, and seen some lovely photos... Obviously, my impulse is along the lines of "Oh, the things I would love to do to those breasts, legs, etc, you exhibited in your photos" but to send a woman a message along those lines seems rude.

littlewonder -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/28/2010 8:15:27 PM)
That's because it is. Instead why not try "Hi, I saw your profile and you seem like someone I would like to get to know better" and then find something in her profile that is NOT sexual and that you can talk about...unless you're both just looking for sex. In that case ignore everything I just said and go with what you first said.

YoungBlondeSlave -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/28/2010 8:16:27 PM)
Yup it is. Say that you enjoyed the pictures, read the full profile and comment on something you liked reading about in there...or the journal. i love to receive e-mails that indicate someone has thoroughly read through my profiles and journals. It shows real interest in who i am as a person, not as body parts and the dirty things you want to do to them. Edited to add: i should admit that i'm impressed that you had second thoughts about what you wanted to send and asked for input. You scored points there.

sexyred1 -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/28/2010 8:22:08 PM)
It is always best not to write impulsively. A woman just appreciates an elegant compliment; you can always get to the hotter stuff after being introduced.

lizi -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/28/2010 9:17:53 PM)
Women tend to hear what men would like to do to them pretty often. It's not original at all, it's rather ho hum...why be one of the masses? If a guy tries to be sexual with me in an inappropriately quick manner I toss him out. It's like walking up to someone and exposing yourself or entering a party and announcing that you'd like someone to blow you. It's not special or meaningful in any way to me for some random guy to tell me that he'd like to boink me. The man that I am with now I met here. We've been together for almost 2 years. We have a smoking hot sex life and love spending time together in every way. He got my attention to begin with by being one of the rare men who took the time to get to know me without pushing for sex or talk about sex. He treated me as being valuable and worth his time. It worked.

DarkSteven -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 5:05:25 AM)
I have found the best is when I tease her about something in her profile.There was one who said there "DO NOT send me a massage saying 'kneel to me, bitch.' " So I sent one saying "Kneel to me, bitch. Oh, wait, that's what I was NOT supposed to say. Being a Dom is so confusing sometimes..." and she replied. Another was a 22 year old woman who had the word "Antique" in her profile. I wrote her and sobbed that if she was an antique, what did that make me? A word about your profile. While most of it is excellent, you refer to SHW powerlifting. You might wanna spell that out. Also, the fact that you were a sub and are now a Dom is irrelevant and some women might think that that detracts from your current Domliness. I'd omit that.

BbcSlutKc -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 6:50:35 AM)
one of my favs before i met Master was when i would get an initial message about something that was on my fetish list under curious about. was always a good conversation starter for me. like DarkSteven stated being funny is almost always another really good way!

BbcSlutKc -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 6:52:25 AM)
i also met my Master from here :) thanks collarme!!

osf -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 6:56:09 AM)
it's not always what is said, rather how it's said

RLMK -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 10:30:21 AM)
??? Didn't know I wrote that I ever was a sub... Never have been - off to correct it...

DarkSteven -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 11:39:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RLMK ??? Didn't know I wrote that I ever was a sub... Never have been - off to correct it... My apologies. I misread your profile and added the word "being" where you hadn't put it in. Sorry.

letsgetnasty -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 12:10:50 PM)
Hmm, I'd rather it came from me when it comes right down to it. Maybe for you the best initial message would be, "Dear future sub/slave of mine, I dont know what to say and would like you to tell me what to say."

myotherself -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 2:16:21 PM)
lol - trust me, DarkSteven has no problems in making initial contact [:D] He's smart, funny and knows how to talk to a woman. If I was in the US, you can bet I'd be on the next bus to Stevieville after his message to me!

sexyred1 -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 2:39:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi Women tend to hear what men would like to do to them pretty often. It's not original at all, it's rather ho hum...why be one of the masses? If a guy tries to be sexual with me in an inappropriately quick manner I toss him out. It's like walking up to someone and exposing yourself or entering a party and announcing that you'd like someone to blow you. It's not special or meaningful in any way to me for some random guy to tell me that he'd like to boink me. The man that I am with now I met here. We've been together for almost 2 years. We have a smoking hot sex life and love spending time together in every way. He got my attention to begin with by being one of the rare men who took the time to get to know me without pushing for sex or talk about sex. He treated me as being valuable and worth his time. It worked. See, that is my point. If patience is used, and I don't mean for weeks or months, I am talking about a few dates, then more people would find themselves in this ideal situation. Same thing with me; I was thinking about it today and all my most smoking hot relationships that lasted years and years, were all begun with someone after the third or fourth date and after the men took the time to get to know me, and me them. This is why I am waiting. These jerks who are so impatient really have no clue how much they are losing out on. I especially love when men say, oh you must be a prude. HA!! Their heads would explode if they knew how NOT a prude I am. [;)]

DesFIP -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 4:53:51 PM)
If you wouldn't say it to a stranger in a restaurant who looked attractive, then don't send it in an email. You strike up conversations here in the same way you do in real life. Waiting in line in a coffee shop and she's wearing a tee shirt from your favorite band, then open a conversation on how you love them too. She talks about the vacation she just had in a place you've always wanted to go to, then ask her about it. And so on. You want to make friends, not just have sex with her body.

SorceressJ -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 4:56:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP If you wouldn't say it to a stranger in a restaurant who looked attractive, then don't send it in an email. You strike up conversations here in the same way you do in real life. Waiting in line in a coffee shop and she's wearing a tee shirt from your favorite band, then open a conversation on how you love them too. She talks about the vacation she just had in a place you've always wanted to go to, then ask her about it. And so on. You want to make friends, not just have sex with her body. THIS.. is some A1 end-of-story advice, some of the best I've ever heard. Rock on DesFIP.. [sm=champ.gif]

mbes -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 5:16:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: letsgetnasty Hmm, I'd rather it came from me when it comes right down to it. Maybe for you the best initial message would be, "Dear future sub/slave of mine, I dont know what to say and would like you to tell me what to say." That would so not work for me. But hey, that just goes to show that we're all different. Tis a good thing!

kdsusa7894 -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 7:24:19 PM)
I have to agree, it would be rude. And Des makes a good point with her post, like you would in any public place or chat. I have had some email me asking if I wanted to be F*&ked? Really dude, how would you like it if someone said the same to your mom or other female relative on first contact, learn some manners. I didn't respond as I was in a good mood that day, lol. Be polite and respectful and take the time to learn about her, not her body. Hence the second sig line! LOL

DarkSteven -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/29/2010 9:27:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: letsgetnasty Maybe for you the best initial message would be, "Dear future sub/slave of mine, I dont know what to say and would like you to tell me what to say." I can't see an s type responding to that. They want to be dominated - someone who gives them initiative right off the bat won't get far.

Elisabella -> RE: What type of message to send? (12/30/2010 12:28:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RLMK So, I've read your profile, think you sound quite interesting, and seen some lovely photos... Obviously, my impulse is along the lines of "Oh, the things I would love to do to those breasts, legs, etc, you exhibited in your photos" but to send a woman a message along those lines seems rude. Depends on the woman - if all her pics are porn and her username is nastyslut4u go for it XD But yeah, I agree with the other posters here, it's rude to send that sort of message. There's usually quite a bit in a woman's profile about her personality, it's best to respond to that. Although I have to say, if a guy is just looking for sex, probably best to be upfront about it, so they don't waste the time of girls who are looking for more.

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