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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 8:50:13 PM   
SeeksSadisticTop


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ORIGINAL: subjan1962
The thing is i enjoy this and am not entirely sure why. i know Master enjoys watching, is it that that i enjoy or am i just a worthless slut.


You enjoy it because you enjoy it.  i would guess that one of the reasons your Master enjoys watching it is because he enjoys seeing you enjoy it.  What's wrong with that?

"or am i just a worthless slut?"  This is a non-sequiter.  There's no such thing as a worthless slut.

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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 8:50:21 PM   
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No. I find it repulsive for me. I prefer to be attracted to and emotionally involved with men I am sexual with, and I also would not be with someone that lent me out like a party favor. However, if you dig it, then rock on and have fun. Only you can determine your worth.

So, are you implying that she feels she doesn't have much worth if she likes being "lent out like a party favor?" Interesting assumption indeed. I feel it's totally incorrect, at least as far as I'm concerned. I find the idea of being "lent out like a party favor" very hot and I think I'm worth as much as anyone in this ole world. I think you're making a huge, erroneous leap with that assumption. You're more than entitled to your feelings and judgments but I would rethink that one a bit. Just 2 cents from someone who may know.......luci

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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 8:57:34 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: slaveluci
I find the idea of being "lent out like a party favor" very hot and I think I'm worth as much as anyone in this ole world.


Gawd, me too.  I've been in that position in the past, and loved it for various reasons. 

I don't see it having anything to do with non-worth. In fact, if he enjoys it and she does, too, it makes her that much cooler in his eyes.  Rock on.


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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 8:58:12 PM   
marie2


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Status: offline 		Who really knows why. Why do any of us like the crazy stuff that we engage in?

I think yours is a fairly common desire, and ties into a humiliation/objectification bent.

As long as you both like it, and you are protecting yourself from harm, disease etc, then go for it and don't feel guilty or fucked up over it.


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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 9:30:02 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		"or am i just a worthless slut?" This is a non-sequiter. There's no such thing as a worthless slut.

I like this. Seems she has plenty of worth in her Master's eyes... and thats all that counts, as long as she is happy with that.

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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 9:36:22 PM   
Twoshoes


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Status: offline 		Question: For those of you who do this, what do you feel for the random, non-descript men involved in this (if anything at all) before and—more importantly—afterwards? Or do they get objectified in the process?

< Message edited by Twoshoes -- 12/30/2010 9:57:17 PM >

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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 9:38:24 PM   
MrRodgers


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Status: offline 		IS it a pleasure ? Thought so. I rest my case.

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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 10:00:12 PM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

Question: For those of you who do this, what do you feel for the random, non-descript men involved in this (if anything at all) before and—more importantly—afterwards? Or do they get objectified in the process?



In my experience, I really didn't think about them at all, other than nameless - and the time I was blindfolded, faceless - male bodies on me.  I suppose one could say they were objectified, although I do doubt any of them felt that way.  They were men, having no-strings sex with a willing participant.

My thoughts were on the man I was serving.  What the other men were thinking/feeling was between them and my (then) owner.


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RE: Used - 12/30/2010 10:06:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aynne88
No. I find it repulsive for me. I prefer to be attracted to and emotionally involved with men I am sexual with, and I also would not be with someone that lent me out like a party favor. However, if you dig it, then rock on and have fun. Only you can determine your worth.

So, are you implying that she feels she doesn't have much worth if she likes being "lent out like a party favor?" Interesting assumption indeed. I feel it's totally incorrect, at least as far as I'm concerned. I find the idea of being "lent out like a party favor" very hot and I think I'm worth as much as anyone in this ole world. I think you're making a huge, erroneous leap with that assumption. You're more than entitled to your feelings and judgments but I would rethink that one a bit. Just 2 cents from someone who may know.......luci


Friend speaks my mind.

I've always been very amused by people who commented on my sexuality - particularly the ol' "Your body is a temple" line. Well, if my body is a temple, we are having some holy orgies and I'm the Goddess of Fucking.

I'd say I have a healthy sense of sexual self-worth.


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RE: Used - 12/31/2010 7:08:53 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

Question: For those of you who do this, what do you feel for the random, non-descript men involved in this (if anything at all) before and—more importantly—afterwards? Or do they get objectified in the process?


no, i am the one being objectified, not them. i am not just submitting to my Master by serving other men, i am submitting to those other men as well. however i am used by other men for many different purposes, under many different circumstances. sometimes i am simply a "party favor," as someone put it, when my Master has male guests over. a silent body to use and nothing more. in those situations my thoughts/feelings are only that i will reflect positively on my Master by the best servant in every possible way. i hope the guests will be pleased with me, and admire my Master. afterward, i may never even know who i served, or encounter them again, so there is not much to think about there. but sometimes these men are friends or regular acquaintances of my Master, and in that case i think of them just as the same as i did before...a friend of my Master, which means someone due my respect and subservience. our next meeting may be at the danceclub, or at the house again for a home-cooked meal, or wherever. it does not really cross my mind that the last time i saw this man he was sitting on my face or making me gag til i puked on his cock.

sometimes i am to serve a man for a very specific purpose...such as some sort of training in any area my Master finds useful and interesting, or as part of a lesson learned (discipline). in those situations my anxiety is at the extreme, because to fall short at any point would just be emotionally devastating. these men i think of as Teachers, and i am the student eager to learn and catch up. it is a process which may take weeks or months. after the disciplinary purpose has been fulfilled, that will typically be the end of my interaction with that person.

and then sometimes i serve men as a whore...which is really a technicality, it could be more accurately be described as sexual surrogacy of sorts. i am to serve men (in various ways, including emotionally) who are genuinely in need. these relationships are always long-term, and usually very intimate as i get to know them on a very personal level. for these men i am a therapist as much as anything else, and i wish them only the best. many of these relationships have continued for years.

there are other situations where i serve other men, but i think that is enough for now, lol.


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RE: Used - 12/31/2010 8:05:24 AM   
kdsusa7894


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Status: offline 		Never been in the position so this is just my opinion, I don't see anything wrong with you doing it or liking it. It is what your Master wants you to do and it's what you want to do. And I don't think this makes you a worthless slut at all. Nueva, the whole blindfold thing and nameless, faceless, that has been a darkest fantasy for a long time:) Not sure I ever would but I have painted the picture many times in my imagination.......


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RE: Used - 12/31/2010 9:04:42 AM   
Kirata


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These two sentences trouble me because of the emphasized words:

i know Master enjoys watching, is it that that i enjoy or am i just a worthless slut...
i will continue to serve my Master feeing a little less guilty for enjoying being used by others for His pleasure.

The Disaster-Master Milkshake

Add 3 tablespoons of flavored syrup to:

    1 cup milk
    1 cup feeling like a worthless slut
    1 cup feeling guilty for allowing yourself to be treated that way
Blend and serve cold

I would just suggest that you take an honest look inside yourself and make sure you know what you're doing.

K.

< Message edited by Kirata -- 12/31/2010 9:09:43 AM >

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RE: Used - 12/31/2010 10:33:24 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: kdsusa7894
Nueva, the whole blindfold thing and nameless, faceless, that has been a darkest fantasy for a long time:) Not sure I ever would but I have painted the picture many times in my imagination.......



kdusa,

It was a lonnnnng time fantasy for me, too.  When it came time for it, I got really nervous about it (since fantasies are often better than reality), but I had confidence in the person in control of it.  Turns out it was cooler than I imagined, and I am so glad to have experienced it.


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RE: Used - 1/2/2011 9:20:43 AM   
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i will continue to serve my Master feeing a little less guilty for enjoying being used by others for His pleasure.


May i ask you subjan, do you realize what a blessing this is ?
Unless you think your Master would like it better if you wouldn't enjoy it ?

Welcome to the lucky girls club


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RE: Used - 1/2/2011 9:32:49 AM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		So the rest of us who arent shared arent lucky?

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Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
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Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

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RE: Used - 1/2/2011 9:46:20 AM   
Minotauros


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ORIGINAL: subjan1962
The thing is i enjoy this and am not entirely sure why. i know Master enjoys watching, is it that that i enjoy or am i just a worthless slut.


Say your boss lends you to another boss, tells him how good you are and even checks/watches if you do good work when you work for the other boss. Does this make you worthless?

So if a master does something like this I would say he wants these other men well entertained. He knows that you like it so it is another plus to him.

So maybe thats why you like it. Because he knows that you will not fail to entertain those man.

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RE: Used - 1/2/2011 10:58:16 AM   
xssve


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Status: offline 		Different strokes. How is it different from hooking up with random anonymous strangers in bars? It certainly isn't any worse, and people do that all the time - I would say if your experiences so far have been pleasant, he must be picking out the right guys for you - it's like having an agent, where do I sign up?

The rest is what it does for you, the loss of control? The variety? I can see where all those things would be plusses, so it's not for everybody, and the time may come when you don't want to do it anymore, but if it's so far, so good, I say enjoy the ride, you're doing what your body evolved to do.

Really, if it's causing you to have self esteem and self doubt issues, you should take that up with your dom, just my Two cents.

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RE: Used - 1/3/2011 6:51:53 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

no, i am the one being objectified, not them.


Greetings daddysprop,

What many fail to realize is that relationships of this nature provide both parties with the activities each are seeking. Including what is seemingly unthinkable, unspoken, or supposedly not consensual. In essence you're merely involving yourself with the individual who has the capacity and willingness to treat and use you in the manner you've always desired. On an aside note I loved the verbiage.

Namaste,

~porcelaine


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