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Dragonspinkkitty -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 8:10:00 AM)
First and foremost submissive's are human beings and as such we all have demands that must be met. Like it or not it is part of any dynamic no matter what kind of play you do. If a submissive's needs are not met then the relationship will falter and eventually fail. This goes for Doms too. Needs MUST be met in order for the relationship to be strong and healthy.

tazzygirl -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 8:18:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE So you prefer a submissive/slave who has no clue what they want, need or desire? As one of those, i can demand anything i wish... its what i accept that you, as the dominant, have to deal with. Another tip... just because my profile states im slave, does not mean im slave to you. Just because someone declares themself submissive, doesnt indicate they are submissive to you. Submission isnt an instant a "pour cum and mix" package deal.. nor is it instantaneous. It takes time, effort and energy... on both sides.

LadyConstanze -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 8:24:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE Obviously your way is the only TWUE way, you are the only genuinely involved dom in this life-style, we others are all just doing it wrong or are weekend warriors... You know there are plenty of profiles out there that don't appeal to me, duh, so just skip and move on, unless you're terribly frustrated that you just can't find a subbie

tazzygirl -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 8:28:05 AM)
His profile screams... Do Me!

jessicaTS -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 9:37:23 AM)
i think a Dom has to have certain qualities or i wouldn't feel compelled to submit to Him.

Phoenixpower -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 10:41:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If you're reading the profile I think you are, it HAS to be a joke.The 40 yo guy who weighs 270 demanding that his Mistress be a size 2 or less and no more than 25, and support him fully, as well as doing cooking and her fair share of housework? reminds me on the clown I met who claimed his weight was 286lbs and when we met it was in reality 450-500lbs [8\|] and statted in his profile the woman not to be more than a size 12 snort. quote: What I'm doing is making an observation. An observation leading to your false assumption that women on here have to be doormats and probably thankful to take one anyone who claims to be the twue weal dominant [8\|] guess what....I do have demands in my profile...and guess what...I am perfectly fine with that as quite frankly I can meet them without a Dom in a LTR situation...so quite frankly, I don't have to put the Dom superior to my dependents and goals in life [:)] Maybe its time for you to go back to read the weal twue handbook about how to be a weal twue dominant....may I suggest page 642 for you? It might be new to you but there is a difference between a Dom and an arse [8\|] Happy new year [:)] what's a doormat? seems to me a slave/subbie is a doormat for at least one individual the best definition i have been able to come up with for doormat is "any subbie more submissive than i am" doormat is not a topic of conversation among dominants I am sure that this OP Real is looking for a doormat, you man with the goose [;)]

osf -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 10:46:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If you're reading the profile I think you are, it HAS to be a joke.The 40 yo guy who weighs 270 demanding that his Mistress be a size 2 or less and no more than 25, and support him fully, as well as doing cooking and her fair share of housework? reminds me on the clown I met who claimed his weight was 286lbs and when we met it was in reality 450-500lbs [8\|] and statted in his profile the woman not to be more than a size 12 snort. quote: What I'm doing is making an observation. An observation leading to your false assumption that women on here have to be doormats and probably thankful to take one anyone who claims to be the twue weal dominant [8\|] guess what....I do have demands in my profile...and guess what...I am perfectly fine with that as quite frankly I can meet them without a Dom in a LTR situation...so quite frankly, I don't have to put the Dom superior to my dependents and goals in life [:)] Maybe its time for you to go back to read the weal twue handbook about how to be a weal twue dominant....may I suggest page 642 for you? It might be new to you but there is a difference between a Dom and an arse [8\|] Happy new year [:)] what's a doormat? seems to me a slave/subbie is a doormat for at least one individual the best definition i have been able to come up with for doormat is "any subbie more submissive than i am" doormat is not a topic of conversation among dominants I am sure that this OP Real is looking for a doormat, you man with the goose [;)] you don't seem to understand our relationship, it's goose with a man

sexyred1 -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 10:49:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE As a submissive woman, I find it amazing to read the many profiles from Doms. But the difference between the OP and me is that I don't assume that the profile is fake; I just chalk it off to someone who would be incompatible with ME. I guess in order to understand that way of thinking, you would have to consider that others have different preferences than you and that to post something like the OP did, you have to be supremely frustrated and angry. All in all, just another brick in the wall of complaints about fakes, not being real, blah blah blah.

LadyPact -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 10:53:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE I find it amazing that any so called Dominant wouldn't take up the issue with the person who wrote the profile. Nah. It's a much more Dominant trait to go behind that person's back and discuss their writing in their profile text on a thread where they aren't here to speak up for themselves. Of course, I'm sure that comment about the weekend warrior thing doesn't apply. I'm sure the girl wearing your collar can vouch for your own validity.

RapierFugue -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 10:53:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE SORRY?! CAN YOU SPEAK UP A BIT, I'M HAVING DIFFICULTY HEARING YOU! THERE'S THIS DREADFULLY LOUD WHINING COMING FROM SOMEWHERE! PARDON? NO! QUARTER PAST THREE!

Phoenixpower -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 11:50:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven If you're reading the profile I think you are, it HAS to be a joke.The 40 yo guy who weighs 270 demanding that his Mistress be a size 2 or less and no more than 25, and support him fully, as well as doing cooking and her fair share of housework? reminds me on the clown I met who claimed his weight was 286lbs and when we met it was in reality 450-500lbs [8\|] and statted in his profile the woman not to be more than a size 12 snort. quote: What I'm doing is making an observation. An observation leading to your false assumption that women on here have to be doormats and probably thankful to take one anyone who claims to be the twue weal dominant [8\|] guess what....I do have demands in my profile...and guess what...I am perfectly fine with that as quite frankly I can meet them without a Dom in a LTR situation...so quite frankly, I don't have to put the Dom superior to my dependents and goals in life [:)] Maybe its time for you to go back to read the weal twue handbook about how to be a weal twue dominant....may I suggest page 642 for you? It might be new to you but there is a difference between a Dom and an arse [8\|] Happy new year [:)] what's a doormat? seems to me a slave/subbie is a doormat for at least one individual the best definition i have been able to come up with for doormat is "any subbie more submissive than i am" doormat is not a topic of conversation among dominants I am sure that this OP Real is looking for a doormat, you man with the goose [;)] you don't seem to understand our relationship, it's goose with a man Oh, I am sowwy [&o]

subinlife -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 12:06:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE As a submissive woman, I find it amazing to read the many profiles from Doms. But the difference between the OP and me is that I don't assume that the profile is fake; I just chalk it off to someone who would be incompatible with ME. I guess in order to understand that way of thinking, you would have to consider that others have different preferences than you and that to post something like the OP did, you have to be supremely frustrated and angry. All in all, just another brick in the wall of complaints about fakes, not being real, blah blah blah. Thank you Sexyred1, You say it the way I was thinking it. To the OP, making "demands" is a really good way not to waste their (Doms) time or mine, hopeing for a match. I call it being upfront and honest about what I want.

Phoenixpower -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 12:13:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subinlife quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE As a submissive woman, I find it amazing to read the many profiles from Doms. But the difference between the OP and me is that I don't assume that the profile is fake; I just chalk it off to someone who would be incompatible with ME. I guess in order to understand that way of thinking, you would have to consider that others have different preferences than you and that to post something like the OP did, you have to be supremely frustrated and angry. All in all, just another brick in the wall of complaints about fakes, not being real, blah blah blah. Thank you Sexyred1, You say it the way I was thinking it. To the OP, making "demands" is a really good way not to waste their (Doms) time or mine, hopeing for a match. I call it being upfront and honest about what I want. Actually I would be scared if I would be a Dom and would be with a sub who doesn't appear to know what she wants, her values and showed that she is able to use her brain to do good decisions in life...'cause as much as we like to believe to always be healthy and independent and sane, I don't want to imagine how well she would cope to manage afairs when he would suddenly rely on her for a change [&:] As then it can get ugly fast if she isn't able to manage aspects which might need managing [&:]

osf -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 1:09:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: subinlife quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE As a submissive woman, I find it amazing to read the many profiles from Doms. But the difference between the OP and me is that I don't assume that the profile is fake; I just chalk it off to someone who would be incompatible with ME. I guess in order to understand that way of thinking, you would have to consider that others have different preferences than you and that to post something like the OP did, you have to be supremely frustrated and angry. All in all, just another brick in the wall of complaints about fakes, not being real, blah blah blah. Thank you Sexyred1, You say it the way I was thinking it. To the OP, making "demands" is a really good way not to waste their (Doms) time or mine, hopeing for a match. I call it being upfront and honest about what I want. Actually I would be scared if I would be a Dom and would be with a sub who doesn't appear to know what she wants, her values and showed that she is able to use her brain to do good decisions in life...'cause as much as we like to believe to always be healthy and independent and sane, I don't want to imagine how well she would cope to manage afairs when he would suddenly rely on her for a change [&:] As then it can get ugly fast if she isn't able to manage aspects which might need managing [&:] it's not that i want a woman that can't handle everyday life, i want one that would prefer not too

January -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 1:13:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! .... From your profile: "Honesty is extremely important to me and I don't tolerate dishonesty or lies." But you can't stand honesty in advance of a relationship? Because that means the slave is fake? Honesty is what a slave's preferences are! You also go on and on about "communication" in your profile. Except your "communication" appears to be all one-sided. And only interspersed with sex. I see you mention you are fond of intellectual discourse. Here's something to chew on: Can you reconcile YOUR contradictory statements? Honesty but not honesty? Communication but no communication? Either you figure out what relationships are (D/s or no), or you will continue to live in fantasy-land, where you actually say it's fine if your slave is ugly and old, because you'll close your eyes as she services you. Yah. January

Phoenixpower -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 1:52:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: osf quote: ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower quote: ORIGINAL: subinlife quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE As a submissive woman, I find it amazing to read the many profiles from Doms. But the difference between the OP and me is that I don't assume that the profile is fake; I just chalk it off to someone who would be incompatible with ME. I guess in order to understand that way of thinking, you would have to consider that others have different preferences than you and that to post something like the OP did, you have to be supremely frustrated and angry. All in all, just another brick in the wall of complaints about fakes, not being real, blah blah blah. Thank you Sexyred1, You say it the way I was thinking it. To the OP, making "demands" is a really good way not to waste their (Doms) time or mine, hopeing for a match. I call it being upfront and honest about what I want. Actually I would be scared if I would be a Dom and would be with a sub who doesn't appear to know what she wants, her values and showed that she is able to use her brain to do good decisions in life...'cause as much as we like to believe to always be healthy and independent and sane, I don't want to imagine how well she would cope to manage afairs when he would suddenly rely on her for a change [&:] As then it can get ugly fast if she isn't able to manage aspects which might need managing [&:] it's not that i want a woman that can't handle everyday life, i want one that would prefer not too no doubt about that...but thats just sometimes my view when some folks appear to live too far in their phantasy world...one guy I met complained ridicioulusly, as I dared to get wood out of his forest for his fire place...making a fuss (after I was back home in the UK not whilst I was with him anymore) that a woman shouldn't be in the forest (as I had explained to him that I figured now out that my pain in my back muscles during my visit to him was caused from dragging those loads to his house before I knew how to ride his 4wheeler, had realised that whilst I spoke with someone on the phone about my visit...). Following that huffing and puffing he rushed off for good...which just made me shake my head picturing him with his desired girly girl...and then, if he is unlucky enough at some point in life, if he would ever be stuck at home due to an illness or after an accident, being doomed, as then he finally realises that she can't do more than cooking and looking pretty.... but well....that's at least not my problem, as I ain't a doormat and won't submit as one [:D]

jessicaTS -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 1:59:19 PM)
people who claim they are Dom but juss want someone to roll over for them and do whatever, without earning that, is a huge turn-off. give me a Man who can hit my buttons and make me submit to him over wannabe Doms any day!

anniezz338 -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 2:55:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SomoneReal I find it amazing when I read some of the so-called "submissive" or "slave" profiles, and they start out with a phrase stating that their a submissive or a slave, and than start DEMANDING things in their next sentence! I'm sure it's obvious to the people who are genuinely involved in this lifestyle, as opposed to the weekend "Rope and Cuff Dom's". Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE What does demanding have to do with being fake? Fake is subjective, demanding seems extreme for limits and preferences, though granted some of those limits and preferences can be very strongly worded. Just another touchy subject I guess. Has there been a poll yet on what the most controversial topics on this forum is? I know of one pretty personally....lol.

leadership527 -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 3:19:06 PM)
quote: Original: SomoneReal: Contradicting profiles just scream FAKE Perhaps... a bit yeah... maybe. But honestly what's may more eloquent to me is the use of the word "fake". To me, that accusation right there pretty much brands the user as inexperienced, parochial, and insecure. You really don't have any idea how big the world is, do you?

DesFIP -> RE: Profiles Contradicting (1/3/2011 6:01:21 PM)
OP you're 28 years old and you're whining because women are saying they aren't interested in you. They're doing this without even bothering to talk to you simply because they are sufficiently self aware to know what they need and what they cannot tolerate in order to have a happy relationship. We're allowed to be healthy people in relationships that make us feel good and not bad. You're allowed to stomp your feet and shout fake all you want. But I have a suggestion, call your mother and tell her how you've been dishing every single woman who turns you down. Ask her if this is an adult way to behave. Ask her if a guy who did this to her would get her to change her mind about him or if it would confirm her opinion that he's a loser. Because that's what you've just done, made everyone who read your post decide you are a loser and to not even open an email from you. Is that what you wanted? Shit, my 17 year old is smarter than this.

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