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Suleiman -> RE: ProDomm?? (10/2/2004 11:27:33 PM)
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I agree with kinkypupper that the term is bandied about far too frequently in online circles. However, among the R/L members of the BDSM community the term does typically mean a bit more than simply being payed for one's services as a dominant (as this can also include hustlers, kept mistresses, and "money dommes", as well as gifted amateurs who have recently begun to make the transition into professional status).
A Pro Domme (I have never actually encountered a reference to a masculine professional dominant, although I would not be surprised if they exist) typically has a private dungeon where she can meet clients discreetely. Very often such a professional either has submissive assistants or has access to assistants who can take a subordinate role (often through a reciprocal agreement with other pros in the area). Being professionals, they have certian standards of appearance, upkeep, and conduct which they meticulously mantain, as much for the prestige of it as for the fact that an unkempt or slovenly domme will make the wrong impression and thus scare off the more lucrative clients. In the circles I have orbited through, ProDomme is not the least bit derogatory, and thus does not carry the negative connotations of "exotic dancer" or "escort" (or the less flattering synonyms of these terms), although such respect within the SM community may not be so readily conferred in other areas.
Generally speaking, a true Pro Domme is not given such status early on in life, as it takes many years to reach the level of respectability this title implies. I have never known a true Pro Domme who was younger than 35, and many are significantly older, with decades of experience and a solid reputation within the local community.
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